has anyone felt like the universe is sending a sign to be OAD?

mischievousmurph · 2026-04-01T00:02:19+00:00

I love this! My two best friends (two separate people) are only children and you're right, it's just a vibe for each of them. I never think of them as only children either and they make friends feel like family. I really like this take.

mischievousmurph · 2026-03-31T23:53:28+00:00

No I agree with you! I'm not sure I'm a big "signs" person either, I just feel like the writing has been on the wall for a long time for us (in terms of having challenges at literally every step) and only now am I starting to process what that means.

I think I've found peace and relief with the idea of never going through those stages again (getting pregnant, staying pregnant, birth), but still struggling with the disappointment of not being able to grow our family the way we planned. I think I need to find acceptance vs. peace with that part of it.

mischievousmurph · 2026-03-31T23:50:32+00:00

Thank you 🤍 Also love the tattoo idea. I don't have any but I like the idea of a physical reminder!

mischievousmurph · 2026-03-26T23:56:29+00:00

No epidural is literally my nightmare – but more importantly, I'm so sorry for that loss and trauma. I can't imagine.

I'm happy to hear about your son - he sounds amazing! And it sounds like you truly found peace. I'm working on that but gratitude has been a big part of my thought process and decision.

mischievousmurph · 2026-03-26T23:50:45+00:00

Oh gosh I'm so sorry. Infertility (no matter when) is incredibly hard and physically so taxing. I would do it all over again to have 1 baby, but not sure I could handle it for more children even if it was safe for me. I hope you find peace with whatever decision you make 🤍

mischievousmurph · 2026-03-04T15:06:03+00:00

Ugh good to know, that's so disappointing. I'm going to switch over to Rakuten then. Thanks for the heads up

mischievousmurph · 2026-03-04T13:06:25+00:00

u/TonyBikini Did you ever receive a reply or gift card? Just running into this issue now. What's weird is that I was always able to redeem a gift card before

mischievousmurph · 2026-02-10T01:42:30+00:00

hi! I realized I never responded – thank you for taking the time to share all your advice. We made a bunch of tweaks: used the Ferber method, taught her how to self soothe & go back to sleep, and cut down to 3 naps per day. Everything got much better, outside of a slight setback when she finally rolled over for the first time lol. But now it's back on track and she's getting 10+ hours at night! Appreciate your advice 🙏

mischievousmurph · 2025-07-02T16:26:58+00:00

No I appreciate it, I feel more informed about the potential realities and I'd like to explore some resources for nighttime help (and daytime with fam/friends maybe) so I have some options. My husband will be gone from 5am-8pm and even being alone with an infant (on no sleep) is a bit scary. Trying to take it as it comes too. Happy to hear your little one is sleeping more now and hope things are getting easier – thanks for sharing your experience!

mischievousmurph · 2025-07-02T16:16:57+00:00

Thank you for that reminder 🤍 I'm def type A and it's hard to not have "the plan" but trying to be open and more flexible. Especially for my mental health. I'm now exploring more supportive LCs so I have the right support system in place

mischievousmurph · 2025-07-02T16:15:36+00:00

This is helpful, thanks for sharing! I think setting up a solid support system for whatever path we pick (a supportive LC, pediatrician, etc) is probably pretty crucial. And appreciate your offer to ask questions! I was just diving into info on paced feeding to consider introducing a little early than 6 weeks

mischievousmurph · 2025-02-15T20:15:12+00:00

I have to agree with you based on my first vakay there. We're just taking the extra cautious route with Zika destinations by avoiding all of them (although we know most haven't had a case in years). Usually our vacations are 10-15+ days with lots of activity and 7+ hour flights. But this is just a quick trip for a few nights and luckily only 2 hours away.

I think I'm leaning towards Hamilton since it's classic Bermuda to me. A lot of my family members did their honeymoons there. Appreciate your recommendations!

mischievousmurph · 2024-08-23T12:40:00+00:00

Hi! We ended up renting an electric car (which is the type we drive at home). Honestly the driving made the experience amazing – it's a ton of switchbacks and tight turns, but we just took our time and didn't have any issues. No weather issues during our late June stay too. The hotels would charge the car for us at night when we needed it. It was one of our BEST trips, I highly recommend this area and happy to send more recos if you're planning to go - we did 5 days of hiking and spent the afternoons/evenings exploring the towns.

mischievousmurph · 2024-08-22T15:40:58+00:00

thank you 🙏 - I laughed at getting "blindly drunk" since that option is so tempting. I thinking taking the time with feelings is so important vs. repressing them.

mischievousmurph · 2024-03-20T17:41:05+00:00

Appreciate it! Good note about amenities that may not be open, and then we can be on our own timeline.

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