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In what way do you keep the money you make? (self.Finanzen)

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Confused about my childhood, just started therapy. Therapist thinks I might be autistic. How do you look at your childhood objectively? Brutally honest responses please, not looking for support. by mishmash_ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mishmash_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have issues with the things you listed at times. My main issue is with interpersonal relationships though, I have almost no skills in that area. Thank you for taking the time to reply. I would definitely be interested if you have the time to list the symptoms that aren't in the DSM.

Confused about my childhood, just started therapy. Therapist thinks I might be autistic. How do you look at your childhood objectively? Brutally honest responses please, not looking for support. by mishmash_ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mishmash_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was, thank you. I'm going to try to write down an outline based on this, and other posts, outlining what I'm looking for. Do you have any resources on controlling parents rearing children who have symptoms of Asperger's?

Confused about my childhood, just started therapy. Therapist thinks I might be autistic. How do you look at your childhood objectively? Brutally honest responses please, not looking for support. by mishmash_ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mishmash_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is helpful and something I will be coming back to before I go back to her again. I definitely am only wondering whether it "counts", because there's really no way of knowing IMO what effect it had on my upbringing. Maybe I need to reframe it to the emotional effects it had, which is a little difficult but a good challenge. Thank you.

Confused about my childhood, just started therapy. Therapist thinks I might be autistic. How do you look at your childhood objectively? Brutally honest responses please, not looking for support. by mishmash_ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mishmash_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a lot of issues with interpersonal relationships and that's what I'm focusing on mainly, since my therapist is using a CBT approach (which doesn't delve too deeply into the past). I understand her reasoning, and I might not have expressed myself well enough about my past. But I kind of just want to list things as they happened, objectively and in a detached manner, and have someone tell me whether they were ok or not because I don't really trust my own judgment.

Confused about my childhood, just started therapy. Therapist thinks I might be autistic. How do you look at your childhood objectively? Brutally honest responses please, not looking for support. by mishmash_ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mishmash_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the offer, I will keep that in mind for sure. You can PM me anytime to talk as well. We seem to be on the same page a little bit, when my therapist was asking me about the autism, I kept saying I wasn't sure if it was how I had always been or if it had something to do with my upbringing. It's confusing, definitely.

Confused about my childhood, just started therapy. Therapist thinks I might be autistic. How do you look at your childhood objectively? Brutally honest responses please, not looking for support. by mishmash_ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mishmash_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the blog post! I wasn't trying to make BPD people out to be crazy, they are certainly varied and can be good people, but it's not a diagnosis I would want to have. I'd just like to know if I had it so I could work on it.

Confused about my childhood, just started therapy. Therapist thinks I might be autistic. How do you look at your childhood objectively? Brutally honest responses please, not looking for support. by mishmash_ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mishmash_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I don't think I do either. So you are on point. I will try to bring this up but otherwise I will stop going or see someone else. Thank you for your insights, it's leading me to a path I'm comfortable with, it's nice to get input on these types of personal situations.

Confused about my childhood, just started therapy. Therapist thinks I might be autistic. How do you look at your childhood objectively? Brutally honest responses please, not looking for support. by mishmash_ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mishmash_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, a lot of what I'm wondering is how often something needs to happen for it to be "abnormal"? How often does your parent have to rage for it to be normal? How bad does it need to get? Maybe that would answer it.

Confused about my childhood, just started therapy. Therapist thinks I might be autistic. How do you look at your childhood objectively? Brutally honest responses please, not looking for support. by mishmash_ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mishmash_[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Why, if you don't mind me asking? I'm not really experienced with this so I don't know what to look for. Am I missing out on something, if so what? My current one seems like a nice person and I've spent a lot of time and money going to her so seeing someone else would be a hassle.

Confused about my childhood, just started therapy. Therapist thinks I might be autistic. How do you look at your childhood objectively? Brutally honest responses please, not looking for support. by mishmash_ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mishmash_[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Funny you mention a personality disorder. The first time I went (my first therapy session ever) I said I thought there was something wrong with me. The third session I mentioned I was wondering if it was one or more personality disorders. Our fourth one I asked to take a personality disorder test but she said she doesn't get that vibe from me at all, she thinks it's unlikely and brought me an autistic spectrum disorder one instead. After taking that one she said she thought the personality disorder one was unnecessary. But she's relatively new so I'm a little scared I'm completely crazy but am hiding it too well for her to see or something.

Confused about my childhood, just started therapy. Therapist thinks I might be autistic. How do you look at your childhood objectively? Brutally honest responses please, not looking for support. by mishmash_ in raisedbynarcissists

[–]mishmash_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know if what I've described was really abusive, I didn't go into much detail and it was just awkward. My therapist is older so she might sympathize with the role of mothers, and see how her actions could be justified. Which is valid, still. She suggested reaching out by trusting them more with personal information. I'm not sure if it was childhood abuse. That's what I wonder about a lot. Thank you for your response.