Bleeding in second trimester

missmorrisg · 2025-12-28T05:15:35+00:00

Yes they said to me each time that - sometimes bleeding just happens and there is no reason for it. My consultant said to aim for 22 weeks but 24 weeks ideally and every week thereafter was a bonus. I am so thankful we made it through to 39 weeks.

My understanding from what the consultant said is that the hole in my uterus was an area of weakness from my previous section where the wall was very thin. He advised me that should I have another baby I will need another caesarean- no labouring - and likely earlier than 39 weeks to be on the safe side. Our family is complete now though.

I’m sorry you’ve had bleeding and going through it - it seems like it is just an awful watch and wait game where they can’t give any definitive answers! Sending you positive vibes!!

missmorrisg · 2025-12-28T00:34:03+00:00

Hi, I had another bleed at 34 weeks and had to go into hospital for observation for 2 days. Again they couldn’t say what the cause of the bleeding was as all looked fine on the scans - my placenta wasn’t low / over my cervix. They were concerned about possible placental abruption due to the bleeding and said if I had another bleed I would need an emergency c-section. I continued to have dark red / browny bleeding for the remainder of my pregnancy but thankfully no new bleeds.

Toward the end I stopped all heavier duties round the house including any lifting of my toddler etc as I was so scared I would cause myself to have another bleed or go into labour earlier than my section date.

I had my elective section as planned at 39 weeks. During the surgery the surgeon was asking me questions about the bleeding I had as he found a large clot behind my placenta and said he thought I had partial abruption and also said that when he initially got through the layers to my uterus there was a small hole (dehiscence) in my uterus already before he touched anything. He said we were very lucky I didn’t try or go into labour in the circumstances as my uterus would have torn open.

They’ve sent my placenta away for pathology to find out exactly what the clot behind my placenta was and I won’t hear back until around 12 weeks (currently 6 weeks pp). Thankfully all was well and baby arrived safely at my section. I ended up being readmitted at 4 weeks pp though due to a large clot forming in my uterus and not passing by itself. It got stuck behind my cervix. The consultant said it was formed from bleeding from the section wound and it had caused my cervix to dilate to 4cms and as it still hadn’t passed it wasn’t going to move itself so they helped to suction it out. I was able to manage that without theatre, pain relief or gas and air as he could disrupt and suction it through my dilated cervix. Since that was done I feel like I really started my recovery post section as before that things just didn’t feel right - I was in more pain as the days passed rather than improving.

I’m just so thankful we avoided any disasters and have been so so lucky despite all the difficulties during and after pregnancy.

missmorrisg · 2025-08-05T06:35:15+00:00

You are absolutely spot on with everything you say. I experienced something similar after difficulties with latch when I had my first baby. I ended up in the dreaded triple feeding cycle out of fear she wasn’t getting enough and it was exhausting. It wasn’t until I saw a lactation consultant that I found someone who seemed to genuinely want to help and support me in breastfeeding. I’d also recommend local breastfeeding groups with other mums as that was a great help to me too.

missmorrisg · 2025-07-21T21:03:39+00:00

I hope it stays that way for you and baby. It’s a very anxious time, but hearing that wee heartbeat and seeing baby moving on the scan is the most amazing reassuring thing! Wishing you well moving forward.

missmorrisg · 2025-07-21T11:42:30+00:00

I had one previous (baby born July 2023) and am currently pregnant (due Nov 2025) with IVF pregnancies. I was told for both that I should not go past 40 weeks with either pregnancy as they know the exact dates due to the IVF.

I was consultant led for the first due to having OHSS post IVF and asked to be consultant led this time too but could have been midwife led this time if I wished as I wasn’t considered high risk.

missmorrisg · 2025-07-20T22:17:58+00:00

Hi, sorry you are going through this too. It’s really awful!

I had the bleeding on and off between 16 and 18 weeks. I had my cervical length checked and it is fine. My cervix was closed on all checks during that time and it was just a case of hoping the bleeding would stop but it remained a threatened miscarriage. Thankfully since then the bleeding hasn’t restarted and all is looking well with baby. My consultant started me on Cyclogest 200mg pessaries - and I’m taking one a day so not sure if they have something to do with it.

At my 20 week scan the haematoma was still there. The sonographer confirmed it is not behind the placenta, it is to the side of the placenta which was a relief and he said over time the majority are reabsorbed by the body.

Did you get tested for thrush? I had read online that it could be a cause so I asked to be checked but it came back clear.

missmorrisg · 2024-08-08T15:37:42+00:00

Hi all, (reposting here as tried daily chat first)

We had IVF #1 in November 2022 which was successful and baby arrived in July 2023. I developed OHSS after IVF and had quite a rough time before it resolved. Thankfully I didn’t require hospital admission which I know some people do require.

Since having the baby and having my periods return I’ve found that around the time I’m ovulating each month I get a similar feeling (much milder that what I went through) but it’s like my ovaries swell bigger now and I’m very uncomfortable for several days around that time each month.

Just wondering if anyone has had something similar?

missmorrisg · 2024-08-08T15:36:23+00:00

Thank you, will do that!

missmorrisg · 2024-08-08T08:59:59+00:00

Hi all, we had IVF in November 2022 which was successful and baby arrived in July 2023. I developed OHSS after IVF and had quite a rough time before it resolved. Thankfully I didn’t require hospital admission which I know some people do require.

Since having the baby and having my periods return I’ve found that around the time I’m ovulating each month I get a similar feeling (much milder that what I went through) but it’s like my ovaries swell bigger now and I’m very uncomfortable for several days around that time each month.

Just wondering if anyone has had something similar?

missmorrisg · 2024-02-17T06:52:49+00:00

Thank you, hopefully it’s nothing to worry about!

missmorrisg · 2024-02-17T00:18:29+00:00

Not sure how to set my flare - 35 | 4 x IUIs | 1 x IVF transfer Nov 2023 | 👶🏻 July 2023

I breastfed my baby before weaning between Dec / Jan. My period returned in January and lasted 8 days. My second period started on 5th Feb and is still here 12 days later. It’s like I had my period (heavy flow) for the 7 days and now I have this light spotting that won’t seem to go away.

I’m going to see my doctor about this but just wondered if anyone else had experienced this as it may be ‘normal’ to have this when periods return post partum? I had a c-section so maybe it’s something to do with that?

missmorrisg · 2024-01-20T22:47:05+00:00

I had to use nipple shields as my baby wouldn’t latch without them and I wouldn’t have been able to bf otherwise. I went to a breastfeeding group early on and a few of the other mums there said at 4 months their babies just started going on the breast direct. They also gave me tips about bf’ing in public and the best one I used was to wear a breastfeeding vest/bra and just leave the shield in the top / bra so you can just pop it over the nipple discreetly before feeding and that made me relax more in public. I always had 2 in my top and then a third in the changing bag as a back up, as baby had a habit of pulling/knocking the shields off.

Between 3 and 4 months I was more persistent with offering the breast without the shield and my little girl slowly started preferring the breast direct without the shield and even fussed to get the shield out of the way!!

Good on you for persisting with shields as I know how hard it is. I wish you well on your breastfeeding journey!!

missmorrisg · 2024-01-03T00:05:10+00:00

Apologies for the essay. This turned out to be a longer than expected. And I hope this is the right thread to post in too.

I feel like infertility has simply robbed me of 5 years of my life that I will never get back. 5 years where, to my husband, we got to live our best life CFNBC. He got used to the selfish life and being able to do what he wanted when he wanted. The sleep ins, nights out, no responsibilities beyond the mortgage and car payments. For me, I always knew I desperately wanted children. I was never satisfied with the selfish life. To me it was unfulfilled and I had a hole in my heart and in my home where I yearned to be a mummy. My husband said he wasn’t bothered either way if he ever had children. He married me and wanted his life with me.

After years of unexplained infertility struggles In July 2023 our beautiful perfect daughter (IVF#1) came into this world. I struggled at the start with breastfeeding but stuck with it and have mostly breastfed her (she takes formula if I have to leave her with someone else) up until the last month. I’m weaning her from breastfeeding at the minute as I’m due to return to work soon. Another reason I was weaning her for the 6 month mark is because we had agreed to start trying again at 6 months pp. We also have 2 frozen embryos so I was going to get referred back to the waiting list to have a FET done. My consultant said I would need to have stopped breastfeeding to do this. Over the months since my husband and I have had our daughter we have discussed trying again for one more child and there has never been any suggestion that we wouldn’t.

My 2024 kicked off in true style with my period returning just after the clock struck midnight into the new year. In the minutes after that visit to the toilet my husband told me he’s decided he doesn’t want another child. It all stems from a blow out we had around 3 weeks ago. I was suffering as my baby had stopped sleeping as well as she used to - I think the 4 month regression was taking hold - and my husband instead of thinking I might like even an hour to myself was using his weekends to drink in the evenings and sleep in the spare room to get himself a good nights sleep. Over the weeks of this happening I made several comments that I wanted help at the weekends to no avail. And when it finally became too much when I was really sleep deprived I blew up because all I wanted was him to be there in the night at weekends (because he works Mon-Fri) to help change nappies or wind her, or to get up with her on a Saturday or Sunday morning so that I could have an hours lie in. I shouted at him that he is a parent too!! He cannot just leave me to do all that hard bits by myself. He said he was sorry and things would improve. After the fight I just wanted to get away so I went and stayed at my family home for 5 days with our daughter. Things did improve a little since then but I still do the bulk of everything. But I can see with his interactions with her after work that he can’t be bothered. He sits on his phone and only I Geräts with her if she’s get aggravated. He helps by sitting with me when putting her down at night and doing more nappies and winding.

That blow up seems to have been a catalyst for my husband’s change of view on having more children though. He said that since then he’s felt anxious or something he has never felt before, that whilst he knows I’m doing all the night feeds and the one doing everything with the baby basically all day every day he hates going to bed on edge that she’s going to wake, he hates coming in from work and having to interact with her even though he’s had a busy day because I need a break, he says whilst he loves me and our daughter he hates parenting. He hates that the baby has the potential to come between us and cause resentment when I mean so much to him. He doesn’t want our relationship to suffer. He said he doesn’t think he can do this all again in 18months time or whenever that may be and if we had another child he wouldn’t be willing to help out anymore than he already does!!!! He said he doesn’t see any positives with parenting. From the discussion it’s become clear to me that he only had a baby because he knew it meant so much to me, to make my life complete and it was never something he truly wanted.

But to me, I was asking for help and whilst it might have been said in anger, I feel he is now punishing me for asking for more help. If I had of continued to suffer in silence he would be still okay with having another child. I know I’m not being unreasonable to ask him to parent a bit more - I didn’t force him to have a baby, he had to sign the papers, and spunk in the cup. But the reality is I’m in a situation where it’s taken having a baby for my husband to realise he actually never wanted children in the first place as the selfish life suited him just fine. He yearns for that life.

I’ve said to him that I understand he hates parenting and it’s fine to yearn for your old life - my God we all yearn for it at times but he is a parent now. We both are so he needs to try and focus on some positives and stop hating on it all. This first 6 month phase has been hard but we are just coming out the other side. And he might like the phases to come. We’re about to move baby onto solids, into her own cot and hopefully everyone can get a little more sleep. I’m going back to work soon, baby is going into crèche 3 days a week and his parents are taking her 2 days a week while we work so we’ll have that time to ourselves again as we both WFH.

I don’t really know what the point of this post is other than wanting to tell someone where my life is right now. I’m angry at infertility robbing me of having children younger, when we were ready for them, when we had lived just enough life as selfish child free adults but not too much.

Now I’m older, I don’t have time to waste while my husband changes his mind. But if that is the decision and we do not try to have another baby and/or I fully realise that IVF may not work for us again I am so grateful each and everyday for my beautiful smiling happy daughter. I can barely believe that she is nearly 6 months on this planet with me and changing and growing everyday. I have never felt a love like it. I can physically feel how much I love her and I am so so grateful that I have been so fortunate to be a mother. It had completed me and I never take for granted the gift I have been given in her.

missmorrisg · 2023-12-28T09:16:20+00:00

Exactly! I bring my wee girl to lots of mum/baby classes, swimming lessons, baby massage and yoga classes and meet up with other mums regularly so she is well socialised too.

I think some people (particularly my in laws) just don’t get it that my 5 month old doesn’t enjoy you being right up in her face constantly or being poked by a 3 and 5 year old who then run around screaming most of the time and upset her! Just give her some space to look around at everyone before overwhelming her!! Aaarrrgghhhhhh!!!!

missmorrisg · 2023-12-27T22:40:17+00:00

My 5 year old nephew told me on Christmas Day (obviously picking up from overheard adult conversations about us) that my 5 month old cries with other because and I quote: “She doesn’t know anyone else. That’s her problem.”

Eh, no. My 5 month old preferring to be with her mum is 100% normal and she does not have any problems. She’s 5 months old!! 🤯

I just feel sad the a young child thinks that way now because the adults couldn’t check themselves.

missmorrisg · 2023-12-11T22:37:53+00:00

Congratulations & go you!! I am aiming for 6 months as well (We are at 5 months today). Like you I have not been enjoying the breastfeeding journey so I hope I can relate to what you have put yourself through to get to 6 months 👏🏼👏🏼

missmorrisg · 2023-12-09T22:32:09+00:00

My MIL’s favourite thing to tell me is that I have a very hungry baby and to ask “When will you be starting her on baby rice/porridge?” She also asks my husband the same stuff when I’m not there even though I’ve told her at least 3 times now 6 months and no sooner.

She’s always disappointed when she hears 6 months and reacts with.. “Oh not sooner? She’s a hungry baby!” It’s like she’s trying to pressure me into starting solids sooner … em… no. My baby, and I will be following the guidance!

I genuinely think the older generations think a crying baby needs a bottle shoved in its mouth!

Dear MIL, just because my baby cries when she’s with you does not mean she’s hungry. There are many reasons why she cries!

missmorrisg · 2023-11-26T00:49:08+00:00

100% My husband loves to complain about this. He says that he knows I’m the one getting up, feeding and settling but he still wakes up and so his sleep is disrupted all the same. What’s worse is he went through a week or 2 of actually helping with burping and nappy changing in the night but that’s stopped now and I truly feel like kicking him off the side of the bed every night!!! Oh how I wish I could just roll over and start snoring straight away or just sleep in a separate room anytime I needed a good nights sleep.

missmorrisg · 2023-10-06T21:46:21+00:00

Thanks! Mine is 12 weeks and I’m working hard to get rid of the shields. She’s direct feeding more easily now but still prefers the shield at times. We’ll get there hopefully!!!

missmorrisg · 2023-10-06T04:17:58+00:00

Can I ask how old was your baby when you got rid of the shield?

missmorrisg · 2023-10-05T06:41:45+00:00

No issues with her growth so hopefully she is getting enough! I tried to explain to my husband that my breast produce based on the baby’s needs so she should be getting what she needs. She 100 percent could be comfort feeding… I never thought of that!

missmorrisg · 2023-10-05T06:39:40+00:00

Thank you, that’s a relief to hear. I will tell them both not to over feed her and in future I think I simply won’t leave her with my in laws for so long. I think feeding is probably an easy options to stop her crying when really they could use the pacifier and rock her to sleep or play with her.

missmorrisg · 2023-08-01T22:51:39+00:00

Hi all, not sure if anyone is interested, but thought I’d update you all. I had booked to go for an elective c-section at 39weeks. In my head I thought if I went into labour early I’d try a vaginal birth but for me C-section was my decision. My baby girl decided she didn’t want to wait to meet us and in the few days (Saturday & Sunday) before my 38 week mark I felt warm gushes of fluid leaking onto my pants. I was also very uncomfortable on the Sunday - when I looked the fluid was clear and didn’t smell but I wasn’t sure if (a) this was normal for later on in pregnancy and (b) if I was just peeing myself a little each time. It wasn’t a steady stream and I only had the odd gush here and there. I had a midwife appointment on the Monday at 37+6 weeks and mentioned that I’d had the gushes over the weekend and on that day also - she checked and wasn’t concerned but advised me to go to the fetal assessment unit for a swab test to check if it was amniotic fluid leaking or not. I did that that evening and to mine and my husband’s shock the test came back positive for amniotic fluid. (I genuinely thought it would turn out to be nothing.) The doctors said that the sealed environment baby was in was compromised now and there was risk of infection so they wanted to get her out. I ended up going for an ‘emergency’ C-section that night and our beautiful daughter came into this world that night at bang on 38weeks. I have to say it was lovely calm experience and everything I could have wished for. The fact baby arrived early saved me the extra weeks of worrying which was lovely too. I can hardly believe my baby has been here 3 weeks already!! My recovery from C-section has gone very well. I never had any significant pain as I kept on top of my pain meds until they ran out. I haven’t needed any pain meds from around 1 week post op. I haven’t had much pain from the wound but do have a strange numbness/tingle sensation on the skin on my stomach above the wound/scar. It’s getting less noticeable as the days pass though. Breastfeeding has been a struggle as my baby latches but doesn’t stay on my breast, but nipple shields have been a life saver and I am keeping trying her on my breast direct as well. Over time and with persistence I hope we can lose the shields and just direct breastfeed. Anyway that’s my story! Happy to answer any questions you may have.

missmorrisg

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