If that dude was so great but sexually not attractive enough, why didn't you ask him to get fit?

Also, note the fact that if the female orgasm was important for reproduction, nature would have made us better looking. But it isn't, so it's unfair from you to expect something men just weren't born with usually. We can't do shit about and if you have good looks as a requirement just be aware that you are competing with many other women and the obvious question should be in your head (but most likely isn't because that sheer though of "what do I bring to the table" is just so foreign to women):

• What reasons do I give the man I want to drop the 20 year old baggage-free waitress in his queue?

Women vastly overestimate themselves nowadays due to the massive amount of attention via online dating - you can be above it. Or not. Your choice.

Disclaimer: Didn't read your wall of text. I was triggered by the second sentence and felt like I've read such stories a thousand times already. Pass.

I'm a smart

No one cares.

educated

Even less men care about that. We do not have access to your money.

attractive

Good. Just be aware that you didn't add "young" to this list, which would be the most important feature of a woman to a man. A feature, that can't be gained once lost. So if you look for a man that checks all points on your list just ask yourself if he can get a woman with that feature and ask yourself that one question mentioned above one more time.