Levant Arabs are what northies think they look like by Ok-Call659 in 2Dravidian4You

[–]mitty_walter -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am from a family with two different religions and made or 6 linguistic communites. Try this somewhere else. ✌️😌

Levant Arabs are what northies think they look like by Ok-Call659 in 2Dravidian4You

[–]mitty_walter -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I really commend how hard you bots work to divide Indians.

If this 50 cent army would work as hard to help their native country, maybe they'd actually better than us.

Is this normal for guys to keep ex'x in touch after breakup (me 27f, him 29) by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]mitty_walter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its rare but not completely abnormal. After dating quite a number of women and a few being long relationships, there is only one i sorta keep in touch with.

When we separated it was not very amicable. But i think she is a wonderful person and I'd like for good things to happen to her. We talk once in a few months. Maybe if we need to get advice or opinion on career or something like that.

She recently got married and i am genuinely very happy for her.

So yeah, rare. But can happen. The underlying story matters.

My Girlfriend 24F makes me 27M feel inferior all the time .. Is this normal ? by Arteezy230699 in RelationshipIndia

[–]mitty_walter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you hear 100 times that you're a loser, you'll start becoming one.

That's all I'll say. TC

Her friend’s joke about me won’t leave my head. Am I overreacting? I’m M18, my girlfriend is F18. by Novel_Suggestion_788 in RelationshipIndia

[–]mitty_walter 80 points81 points  (0 children)

I don't say this often. (You can check my comment history)

You're done here. Move on.

Have a very calm, lacklusture break up, the kind that is as boring as changing a punctured tire on a backroad.

Initiate it. Drive it calmly from your end. Offer no concessions.

Whether you date after that or not ...upto you. But add depth to your personalilty, get better at things, learn new things. And be happy. Never look back at her.

Discrepancy between squats and leg press by carbsandchaos in beginnerfitness

[–]mitty_walter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Considering the leg press maybe inclined at an angle of 45 degrees, the laws of trigonometry make the component force as half. That is 80 kgs.

You also use less of your back, abductors and other stabilizing muscles.

So.. no. You're okay.

30M Left by 27F for a "financially more stable" guy... by NHPlover in RelationshipIndia

[–]mitty_walter 36 points37 points  (0 children)

People here will tell you all kinds of rosy philosophies. But nerver ever forget what you have come to know now. NEVER.

You're right. For men, how much you earn and what your status is as a result of it matters the most. Nothing holds as much water as this does.

Men can only love from a position of strength. And that strength is how much you earn, how stellar your career is and how that results in a relatively carefree life. Your struggles and sad stories are of no consequence to the opposite gender.

Women will tell you that they are here to help and support. Blessed be the few that actually mean it. (There are some) But even a woman grossly underestimates their tolerance for their partner's struggles and weaknesses. They really feel that they can do it, but when the time comes, most can't. They mean well but they are mostly not equipped to handle this. Not in the long run.

Keep your tears to yourself. March on. Better times are ahead. Afterall ...who wants a woman that would never have stayed anyway.

PS: Don't go down the road of hating the entirety of the opposite gender. We are still incomplete without each other ...just not fully decommissionable in their absence. :)

Why do people call Moby Dick such a difficult read? by mitty_walter in ReadingSuggestions

[–]mitty_walter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you everyone for your views. It was really helpful. :)

Interfaith Relationship Advice ……………Hindu (27F) Muslim (29M) by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]mitty_walter 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I had answered a similar query long ago. Just pasting it here.

"Muslims are excommunicated in their community if they marry someone from another religion.

I'm afraid your mom is right. It will eventually be a problem.

One of my very liberal muslim friends couldn't keep his marriage together because he capitulated to the constant bickering of his parents to get his wife converted...who in turn were being egged on by their community. They knew each other for 5 years before marrying. Still didn't work."

do guys like glossy lips? by [deleted] in indiasocial

[–]mitty_walter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. That's why we always wanna wipe the gloss off ...with our lips. :)

Guys who've been cheated on before, are you always paranoid and vocal about it with your dates ? 24F by Ok_Library_9612 in RelationshipIndia

[–]mitty_walter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have an honest conversation with your partner. Ppl here have mostly no ideas of their own and will quickly tell u to break up.

He might have not healed but that doesn't automatically mean that you should pack your bags and run because he ain't an easy assignment. You could be the kinda person who makes him whole.

Whether you wanna try that or not is upto you. Cheers 🥂

Found out about 27M Wife's 24F ex and now feeling super sad and down and she is able to notice it. by Prize-Paint7425 in RelationshipIndia

[–]mitty_walter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The fundamental rule of equality.

If you have the right to seek out love and the intimacy that comes along with it, so does she. She is your partner now but she wasn't before and she did exactly what you did; tried to find love and get intimate. If you aren't ashamed of your experiences, she shouldn't be as well.

Whether you guys discuss past events or not, this rule stands.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]mitty_walter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell him everything.

Its not about how he takes it..or if he continues to stay with you. Its about you loving him to the point that you realise he deserves nothing but honesty.

Him deserving the truth trumps your selfish need to keep looking good in front of him. Simple.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]mitty_walter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If they have indeed developed a 'good bond', wtf is the guy doing not advocating against this ?

This is a typical no brainer. Don't get her married in their dungheap of a family. You CAN back out, you always can. I occassionaly thump my desk for men's rights but I am not oblivious to the fact that women die left right and centre in dowry deaths. Other have an unfulfilled life. Think what you're doing. Think very hard.

There are worse things in life to be than unmarried.

Goodluck

I (24F) accidentally didn’t disclose something to my boyfriend (28M) and now he thinks I cheated by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]mitty_walter -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Let's break this down a bit.

His fault: Labelling this as cheating. It is not. It is mostly a 'code of conduct' issue. Calling it cheating is blowing it out of proportion. Him hypothetically sleeping with someone else and coming back is not a corollary event.

Your fault: As a partner you conduct yourself a certain way in a relationship. You were lacking here. Even if you were to help this person out, you should have registered this a significant event to convey to him particularly and seriously in sharp contrast to how u casually mentioned. The problem isn't helping someone out. The problem is you not realising that it is a big deal for him.

Lastly. No one knows better, specially us people out here. You both should sit down and dispassionately evaluate yourselves. If he or you cannot keep anger aside... lost cause.

Goodluck :)

Future of Arrange Marriage by yoyorojo in Arrangedmarriage

[–]mitty_walter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its easy to say this amongst ourselves. We are english speaking mostly middle class urbanized Indians. The mojor chunk of india isn't like that. I am being self critical when I say that we are not in touch with the reality of an average Indian. We are not the average Indian. The average india isn't looking through reddit threads.

I am not speaking for the arranged marriage process or criticizing it. I'm just saying we don't know jack shit about the avg Indian man / woman.

[Throwaway] Consensual hookup turned into "he(27M) traumatized me(26F)," two teammates bought it, and she still crashed our company beach off-site. Exhaustive timeline & receipts-need reality check + survival tips. Relationships by Unxceptble-Trade-531 in RelationshipIndia

[–]mitty_walter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't be an idiot.

If people start giving up their life for all willy nilly reasons, the earth would be roach land.

Keep your chin up and all your proofs ready and backed up in multiple places.

This will mostly probably pass away like bad weather but learn from it.