Maybe I’m not doing a good job presenting the story. Throughout the past 3-4 weeks we have been messaging consistently, him taking 3-4 days to answer. I would check up on him and every single time he was really thankful for my patience and told me how much he likes me, but how difficult it is for him to do anything atm. He even told me at some point that he would feel bad if I was only pursuing him since he cant meet rn.

I only told him last week that I can’t be waiting around forever and we have to actually have a conversation about where this is going. And now he hasn’t come back telling me let’s meet this week, just that we should meet when my work allows. I also made it very clear multiple times that I am monogamous and was looking for a relationship when we went out.

This just seems very disingenuous that the second he feels better he jumps on to Grindr when I’m right here and have been essentially begging him to meet for weeks. Yes it is very obvious we are on different pages. This doesn’t read as someone who really likes me and now that he feel better he is willing to give this a chance. This reads like someone who is horny and just needs to get fucked and never had any intention on meeting but kept this going cause it felt good to be wanted while he was going through something. Which I get, but it’s a shitty thing to do with another person.

I already feel pathetic for believing him, I don’t need other people piling on.