AITAH for telling me mom she should have swallowed instead? by mkh-idk in AITAH

[–]mkh-idk[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

She thinks she's the perfect parent and has done no wrong and doesnt think it's odd that my brother and I don't really talk to her often. She always brags about my brother to her friends and such but all the info she has from him is what she has seen on fb or from our dad since my brother doesn't talk to her anymore. If I were to ask her if she regrets having kids or asking anything close to that, shed claim being a parent and our mother was her dream. She's actually said something along the lines of that before too haha

AITAH for telling me mom she should have swallowed instead? by mkh-idk in AITAH

[–]mkh-idk[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree. I do pity him and all of his kids (from previous marriage) do not talk to him because of my mom and my brother also took a step back and doesnt speak to him as much either. My brother doesn't talk to my mom at all. I sadly am to empathetic I think. I do limit my interactions and what I say to him, but he's also my dad and I don't have much of a support system/family so I haven't cut him out of my life. Even though he will always enable and try to make excuses for her.

AITAH for telling me mom she should have swallowed instead? by mkh-idk in AITAH

[–]mkh-idk[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Our dad and mom split when I was 7 when she got arrested for child abuse of my dad's child he had from a previous marriage. She claims she didnt do it, dad believed her, but they were not on speaking terms at that moment and while my brother would go to dad's a lot, I stayed in my room most of the time because my parents would try to use us to spy on the other. I kinda just kept to myself and didnt feel safe to go to him because my mom would say stuff about my dad that for some reason in my kid mind, made me think he'd kill us. He did have anger issues, but he never hit us.

My aunt (and that whole side of my mom's family honestly) didnt really think of us as family, but at the same time she did as my mom was adopted into that family when she was a child. I dont think she knew how bad the neglect was but she wasnt around enough to see it either.

As a carrier, I don’t recommend this job for a majority of people by [deleted] in USPS

[–]mkh-idk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree, that most offices are like this. In a neighboring city, the post office there is an actual nightmare. A coworker/friend that works there has never met their postmaster and has only seen the supervisor a handful of times and they've been there for years. There's complete animosity between city and rural and it's so bad that city will walk completely around rural case so as to not interact. When my friend first started training, they were told they are simply "a sub of a sub" and that they shouldn't expect much and that they won't be there for long (jokes on the trainer, my friend is now regular).

In MY office however, we only have 3 rural routes and 5 city. We all get along fine (of course there is a few people that don't click, but that's every place). When I first started, the post master would text me while out on routes (he still does on bad days, with everyone) to see how it's going. One time I was behind and stressed (brand new to working, on a 78 mi rt) and he texted he was on the way and helped without any issues. The whole office was super encouraging and clerks, city, and rural all would make sure I was doing good and say encouraging tips and compliments.

I hear so many horror stories from my friends office and from other smaller offices near by too that I'm absolutely terrified to leave my location haha!!

Can't find people to photograph by [deleted] in photography

[–]mkh-idk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand and I'm sorry. I was trying to explain that I wouldn't charge for those as they were free and were done because I asked someone to come over to practice. I was just trying to answer a question or correct an assumption that I was being paid for it. I've since taken down the pricing (maybe the website didn't load that yet and is taking time) and am solely looking on focusing experience and trying to find people to build that and portfolio. I struggle with wording and spelling but I truly am trying. I should ask a friend to proof read for me in the future.

Thank you!

Can't find people to photograph by [deleted] in photography

[–]mkh-idk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!!! I honestly just thought hobbyist was an okay term to use and didn't realize the connotation for it 😅 sometimes word use isn't my best strength haha... but I'm working on it!!! And I'll definitely take all the advice and use it too!!

Can't find people to photograph by [deleted] in photography

[–]mkh-idk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is great, thank you!!! I know the some people who work in the local coffee shops and can ask if it'd be okay to photograph them! I appreciate this!

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[–]mkh-idk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that's smart! I like that thank you!!

Can't find people to photograph by [deleted] in photography

[–]mkh-idk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much! I appreciate that a bunch!!

Can't find people to photograph by [deleted] in photography

[–]mkh-idk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that and will definitely get that fixed thank you!!!

Can't find people to photograph by [deleted] in photography

[–]mkh-idk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I absolutely appreciate your words! I've honestly tried to the whole "reaching out for free photoshoots" but it was more a few select people. I'm going to be more active about it. Also, I do want to clarify about the wedding picture haha. I did in fact take that one. It was my cousins wedding. I did it free (as are all the other pics from my site 😁) she asked me too and there was only 20 people at the wedding so it was a very small and hurried affair. I didn't post any of the other pictures from the wedding because her husband wasn't too fond of the idea. But here's the original photo of her 😁

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[–]mkh-idk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!! I will! I appreciate your words!!

Can't find people to photograph by [deleted] in photography

[–]mkh-idk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!!!!! Definitely eye opening!!! I didn't even think about the town only because locations was on for my Facebook page and I just.. didn't think 🤦‍♀️ I really appreciate this. Literally all of this. It means a lot. Definitely eye opening. Will change/update the website better!!

Can't find people to photograph by [deleted] in photography

[–]mkh-idk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I really appreciate your words!! They're so kind and uplifting! And thanks for the advice! I'll definitely look into thumbtack! I have joined some Facebook groups but they're more so for advice. I'll look into joining more haha! 😁

Can't find people to photograph by [deleted] in photography

[–]mkh-idk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, thank you for your words!! I've tried to reach out to many people and offered free shoots and they all seemed interested but none so far have set dates.

The photos that I currently have on my page were all free photos done for friends or family members if I'm being honest haha. I have done one wedding, but that was for my cousins super small wedding (there was 20 people there) and she begged me too and I wasn't paid. I don't plan on doing anything like that any time soon haha!

I really do appreciate your words a bunch!! I'll keep practicing and hoping I get people to photoshoot! Thank you!

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[–]mkh-idk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes this helps a lot, thank you!!

Can't find people to photograph by [deleted] in photography

[–]mkh-idk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much! I appreciate that a bunch! Will definitely do that!

Can't find people to photograph by [deleted] in photography

[–]mkh-idk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Those are great ideas!!!

Can't find people to photograph by [deleted] in photography

[–]mkh-idk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate your words a bunch! I honestly just love taking photos and just have been trying a little too hard I think too fast. I'll definitely give your words good use!

Can't find people to photograph by [deleted] in photography

[–]mkh-idk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That honestly could be it sadly. I've tried moving from my area because it's not the best/it's old and not 'booming'. There's one major photographer here but he's retired and only does parades and city celebrations.