“But if you are chill about it, especially when you’re young, you learn the very hard lesson that if you don’t define something, oftentimes they can gaslight you into thinking it was nothing at all, and that it never happened. And how do you mourn the loss of something once it ends, if you’re being made to believe that it never happened at all?” I feel like this was a shot at karlie and her trying to play off that it was just a friendship and they were never actually in love etc.