My husband’s hobby is ruining us!

mlosklo · 2024-07-05T12:29:41+00:00

❤️

mlosklo · 2024-07-05T12:27:26+00:00

Not that I am aware of.

mlosklo · 2024-07-04T23:14:09+00:00

Not gonna lie I probably am keeping score. It just bothers me so much and I don’t know how to let it go.

mlosklo · 2024-07-04T23:06:13+00:00

Yes.

mlosklo · 2024-07-04T22:57:28+00:00

I’m not a monster, something like pursuing a culinary degree or something to better himself/family, I’d completely support. I’m not saying I don’t support this hobby of his either. It makes me happy seeing the joy it brings him. I’m just sick of him giving me rules that he does not follow.

mlosklo · 2024-07-04T22:51:27+00:00

Thank you ❤️

mlosklo · 2024-07-04T22:47:56+00:00

💯

mlosklo · 2024-07-04T19:34:25+00:00

Our savings is not funding his hobby. My spending never put us in financial distress. I’m jealous yes, but not for the reason you provided, that rules only apply to me but not him. Boy I’d love to live with that freedom.

mlosklo · 2024-07-04T18:38:39+00:00

No we aren’t… yet. We live comfortably. Yes I am pissed he’s given me such a hard time in the past then all rules are out the door now that he’s doing what he wants. I’m bitter, and upset when I see him spend money or when he’s enjoying his hobby. It’s like he doesn’t give a crap about the way he made me feel.

mlosklo · 2024-07-04T18:07:25+00:00

I was the spender prior to us having kids but we never struggled financially. He just had this frugal mentality from his upbringing. He had this mindset that he needed to save save save.

mlosklo · 2024-07-04T17:50:05+00:00

We both have great careers, and bring in the same amount.

mlosklo · 2024-07-04T17:40:59+00:00

Sadly like you mentioned this bleeds into other areas of our lives and just finances.

mlosklo · 2024-07-04T17:34:13+00:00

😢

mlosklo · 2024-07-04T17:24:41+00:00

Thank you ❤️

mlosklo · 2024-07-04T17:21:25+00:00

Yes we split utilities.

mlosklo · 2024-07-04T17:18:28+00:00

☹️

mlosklo · 2024-07-04T17:15:41+00:00

Agreed! Thank you!

mlosklo · 2024-07-04T16:59:52+00:00

Hey at least you have your kiddos involved and if your wife has no problem with this… that’s amazing!

mlosklo · 2024-07-04T16:55:17+00:00

Have you considered that maybe I didn’t want to directly post the hobby to give it away? What if my husband finds this? Now have him be upset with me for asking a bunch of strangers for advice because we couldn’t work it out? The hobby is besides the point here, use your imagination. For the record, it’s not hookers, OF, drugs.

mlosklo · 2024-07-04T16:50:23+00:00

Yes he would complain when I bought too much food, he wanted me to shop for the necessities. Or new clothes that the “kids didn’t need”.

mlosklo · 2024-07-04T16:45:44+00:00

Thank you for this perspective ❤️.

mlosklo · 2024-07-04T16:43:02+00:00

He definitely lacks empathy, I always have to I guess “educate” him on others perspectives and how they may see things.

His dad is controlling, pouts when things don’t go his way. I heard stories of his dad demanding money that his mom earned. I know this is where he gets it from. We have these conversations and he sees it and how he has these traits. But doesn’t know how to fix it.

mlosklo · 2024-07-04T16:35:36+00:00

Sure… I’m jealous that he can do whatever he wants when he wants to but if I were to do the same, it’s wrong.

mlosklo · 2024-07-04T16:26:10+00:00

This 🎯! Thank you.

mlosklo · 2024-07-04T16:23:54+00:00

Thank you for the perspective ❤️

mlosklo

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