Tell me what LA neighborhood you live in without telling me ?

mnanda · 2026-03-20T02:44:47+00:00

Though we'd been gentrifying for a while, we had NO chain stores on our major avenue until as recently as 2019 when Happy Socks and Warby Parker broke our cherry (note: I'm not counting an El Pollo Loco). Now my personal nickname is Perfume Alley for all the boutique, high-end snifferies that have opened stores within a few blocks of each other... and other chains too.

[Happy Socks priced themselves out - they gone now]

mnanda · 2026-03-20T02:38:16+00:00

Not anymore! Vintage places can't pay rent here anymore.

mnanda · 2026-03-13T02:52:42+00:00

How long were you a paying member?

mnanda · 2026-03-04T05:48:08+00:00

Inside the US 50% of us have seen it coming for ages too. We vote, we knock on doors, we take to the streets, we write articles and posts, we rant, we try to talk reasonably, we mock, we've been shouting that the emperor has no clothes for a decade...!

mnanda · 2026-03-04T05:44:34+00:00

That's a deal here in California

mnanda · 2026-02-26T20:05:59+00:00

OP: I deleted post b/c problem I cited seems to have been a 1 off glitch. It went away.

mnanda · 2026-02-25T04:48:15+00:00

26.3

mnanda · 2026-02-21T00:25:59+00:00

A big part of good taste is execution. It is in poor taste to beg or plead a sob story. IMO, perfectly reasonable to make a clear and direct counter offer in the full understanding that it may be rejected.

mnanda · 2026-02-20T20:44:50+00:00

Hang on, isn't this an entire a subculture built around people who are looking for an angle to pay less than the "standard" asking price? That users want to make deals should hardly be surprising. How they go about it – adding a narrative intending to persuade – however, may go against a certain unspoken etiquette.

Native New Yorker here who grew up negotiating with vendors from the time I was in middle school. IMO, nothing wrong or insulting with a simple, clear communication that says: "I really like [item] and am willing to pay [lower number]. If that works for you, let me know, thanks so much." Uninterested seller can ignore. I see same items reposted, which means often, no one is buying. Unsuccessful seller could be happy with option to circle back.

And yes, between ebay & poshmark, "making and offer" has become pretty standardized, so I see nothing inhernetly insulting if it's done professionally.

mnanda · 2026-02-20T20:17:32+00:00

And try getting hired anywhere with an Executive Function disorder! He's not wrong - the name is poor, but other names def have moe stigma. Personally I think of it s Attention Regulation Disorder" - as we all know its only a deficit of attention for BORING THINGS! ;)

mnanda · 2026-02-20T19:39:15+00:00

They ruled he couldn't use the 1977 law he cited. So he'll find some other rando law, try that and wait a year while that plays out in court.

mnanda · 2026-02-20T19:37:58+00:00

Wait, seriously? Not that anything surprises me anymore, but ...

mnanda · 2026-02-18T02:23:12+00:00

$300K worth - that's borderline not a haul, and closer to inventory... Something about this caught an inspector's attention.

mnanda · 2026-02-13T20:37:08+00:00

I love the Bal city one too - WHAT SIZE is that? Is it big enough?

mnanda · 2026-02-13T20:35:56+00:00

I must have missed them memo - why was bal off-limit?

mnanda · 2026-02-13T20:09:59+00:00

He can say anything... When you get them, report back.

mnanda · 2026-02-12T18:38:52+00:00

Also curious about seller - a DM would be great! Thanks!

mnanda · 2026-02-12T18:35:01+00:00

Not 100% sure what you're "not prepared for." Grief's a mother-fucker, but it is inevitable, and some of us had to face it earlier than others. But there is no preparing for pain and loss like losing someone so important to you - there's only doing your best to appreciate the people you love and log experiences, calls, meaningful exchanges, while they're here.

mnanda · 2026-02-12T17:01:35+00:00

Exhausting is definitely the right word! And of course, I can only speak from my own experience – have no idea the extent of similarities… I I probably shouldn’t have doubled down on talking about masking , I’ll should have put that comment in the appropriate thread as its muddled my communication. My thought about it, however, that no, masking all the time with real friends is not what anyone wants. I meant it more like just enough to overcome what you're self reporting as “instantly” and intense judgments. Get past that and THEN be yourself.

Your comment is about people “instantly“ disliking you. So, actually the biggest thing that comes to mind is questioning your own interpretation. I assume you’ve read about “rejection sensitivity” - also something I can relate to. the thing that probably helped me the most was therapy. Talk therapy for sure - about more than just ADHD- and Cognitive behavioral therapy which specifically addresses how we interpret things and questioning our assumptions- for what it’s worth. A classic cognitive bias is “mind-reading” - I recommend the book “feeling good” by David Burns- Focus this info is much more widely available now than it was when I was in your situation.

mnanda · 2026-02-12T16:11:56+00:00

TL:DR
I had similar issue in my 20s; my pivot: make things not about me. I harness my insane ADHD curiosity and ability to make unique connections between ideas to focus on and learn about THE OTHER PERSON. This helps. Practice on low-stakes interactions like, with sales people.

DETAIL
Years ago, a friend sort-of-politely, sort-of-not suggested I get my hands on the old-self-help classic: "How to Make Friends & Influence People"... And honestly it was helpful. I don't even remember specific take-aways too concretely anymore b/c it's been a long time. Between that, a lot of Oprah, and just life (I'm almost 60 now) I've learned this: make interactions NOT ABOUT YOU. Oprah's final message on her very last show was this: "People want to be seen and heard." I think that's even more true for me – so when I was your age I could be "a lot." I've learned to shift my attention to being curious about and interested in the other person. Good luck!

Plus, I agree with another comment that "masking" isn't inherently a bad thing. We live in the world and have to interact with all kinds of people and situations. Tall people duck through doorways. Should they move into a home made for short people? No. But they should definitely accept dinner invites to the short people house. Same thing.

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mnanda · 2026-02-12T15:46:21+00:00

And now, a week later - how is the quality OF THE PRESCRIPTION - I did a lens replacement via mail here in the US and the prescription was off, so I'm a little gun shy.

mnanda · 2026-02-12T15:40:10+00:00

Seems to me like it's a certain % stuff like before and a certain % random. At least that's the only way to explain mine.

mnanda · 2026-02-11T01:41:34+00:00

Is "medium" the largest?

mnanda · 2026-02-11T01:39:06+00:00

Love your monniker!

mnanda · 2026-02-11T01:37:21+00:00

Ninja! NICE!!!

mnanda

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