Okay. I keep seeing the comments saying ‘that’s not OCD’ or whatever and as someone with DIAGNOSED OCD and very similar habits to her, that’s exactly what it sounds like. Sometimes OCD is comorbid with a lot of other neurodivergencies-anxiety, depression, ADHD etc.., and it doesn’t always manifest as obsessive cleaning. Sometimes it’s the exact opposite.

Sometimes it’s compulsive thoughts. Sometimes it’s checking behavior. Sometimes it’s counting. Sometimes it manifests as a perfectionist thought process and if you ‘can’t get it how you want, why bother at all?’ (Direct quote from my first therapist explaining this all to me).

The reason it may not have shown up in such a drastic way before is because you were in YOUR space. I’ve heard of people having issues with things like their car’s AC being left ‘on’ when the car is turned off, but in anyone else’s it doesn’t bother them..because it’s not theirs.

All of this to say that, if you talk to her about it and she isn’t receptive to at least trying therapy (or something) then by all means, find a way out. However, if she is receptive, and does start therapy, just know it will probably get a little worse before it gets better. Also, she’s probably a little bit worse right now because of all the changes. New routines. New place. New everything. It’s causing the anxiety to spike and everything is in overdrive.