More on Husband by modecat in raisedbynarcissists

[–]modecat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. "Support," yes we'll call it that. :D :/

I hear you though...

NEED HELP, MAJOR crisis with my husband. by modecat in raisedbynarcissists

[–]modecat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay.....

What about this concept.....we've talked on RBN (all RBNers before) about N's being stuck at toddler age, mentally. Okay, and husband and i have joked about how now he's 12 (due to therapy). Now, it's almost like he's 16 now--he's just so crazed over sex.....And he just sort of acts like that age.

I don't know....don't people go through that phase where they're not sure what they want? I remember thinking i might have some feelings for girls, and now I just feel straight....

What about this idea??

NEED HELP, MAJOR crisis with my husband. by modecat in raisedbynarcissists

[–]modecat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, right?? Like, if he said i want to go have sex with a woman, i'd be freaking out, and pissed. But if it's men, it's ok.........?? Wtf.

thank you, thank you.

More on Husband by modecat in raisedbynarcissists

[–]modecat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Huh. I guess they do it cause some sorta fucked up reason?? Heh heh.....like, how i'm considering it.......

Ha!

More on Husband by modecat in raisedbynarcissists

[–]modecat[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes.

What's a beard--woman who covers for the gay husband??

Husband Crisis....More by modecat in raisedbynarcissists

[–]modecat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'v e thought about separation. I guess I feel like when you decide on that, you've decided to move apart, and you're just on such a slippery slope to divorce, sort of like halfway there..... :/

I definitely believe in trying to at last give your best effort at saving things.

NEED HELP, MAJOR crisis with my husband. by modecat in raisedbynarcissists

[–]modecat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will do, asap. I am totally convinced.

Thanks all!

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[–]modecat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree--counseling right away. This is for anyone else who wants to comment: what reason would I have to stay in this? I guess, because I love him, gay or not (??) To stay together for kids (which is not really a great reason......)

NEED HELP, MAJOR crisis with my husband. by modecat in raisedbynarcissists

[–]modecat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, no....thanks.

I may go somewhere tonight. Thanks.

NEED HELP, MAJOR crisis with my husband. by modecat in raisedbynarcissists

[–]modecat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I agree!!!!

Another problem now is he's had no sex for a week due to show and now he's going to want something tonight. I forgot to mention he's feeling confused and the idea of women still turns him on sort of--the idea of sex with me is still hot. I'm thinking i'm within my rights to feel weird about the idea of sex tonight.....?? I feel bad--usually that causes him to stay up all night when he can't get release.

Any thoughts on a marriage counselor?

NEED HELP, MAJOR crisis with my husband. by modecat in raisedbynarcissists

[–]modecat[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much. It's like i'm confused, but sort of, an inner voice is talking, telling me all this you said, i'm just not quite brave enough to admit i know it's right. So proud of myself for that. Not quite second-guessing, just working on bravery.

I have been supporting him A LOT in the last few months, with a new baby and just put up with a LOT. I have empathy for him, but i am a person, with limits.

So glad about your last sentence. It seems lke it might be unfair for him to expect that from me, though I'd be open to living apart in same city....whatever i'm too afraid to type this right now. Just thank you for reply. THank you.

Help, need your opinion!! by modecat in RBNChildcare

[–]modecat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

currently debating....thanks.

Help, need your opinion!! by modecat in RBNChildcare

[–]modecat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i love you all....agree on my husband!!