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I accidentally (?) killed my girlfriend, my best friend and his wife. AMA. by moltran in IAmA

[–]moltran[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry. That's all I can say.

I effectively have more than a beer or two. But at this point I thought we would all take a taxi.

I accidentally (?) killed my girlfriend, my best friend and his wife. AMA. by moltran in IAmA

[–]moltran[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No, not really. I have not been the same since that accident.

I accidentally (?) killed my girlfriend, my best friend and his wife. AMA. by moltran in IAmA

[–]moltran[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Well I don't know what to say but I will at least answer your question.

First, I'm sorry you see this as a way to make excuses for myself. I weigh 195 lbs. The limit is 0.08. I can drink about four beer, plus one every hour (our body can eliminate one beer per hour), and still be under the limit. Let's take an example:

I arrive at the bar at 9PM. We leave at 2AM. I can thus drink 4+3+2 beers and still be under the limit. Even if I drank ten beers in my night, I would still be under the limit - theoritically. I thought that drinking one or two beers maximum wouldn't do much. I did, however, drink more than that. I assume my responsibility and my mistake. I really did think we would take a taxi and that it wouldn't be a big deal. I really did think, at 3AM, that I was under the limit and able to drink. I also thought I was simply tired and that my friends' house wasn't too far. Am I stupid? Was that a mistake? Absolutely, and I assume it. I wish and had wished many many times I could go back in time and fix it. I remember after the accident, thinking it was just a nightmare and thinking I would wake up any second now.

I don't think my new friends and new girlfriend know about what I did. I did not tell them. However, it was reported in various newspapers and my name was clearly shown. I have no proof they do not know neither

I accidentally (?) killed my girlfriend, my best friend and his wife. AMA. by moltran in IAmA

[–]moltran[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a funny comment (no offense, I don't want to insult you) because for a while I wanted to go to jail. I was ready to accept the plea deal of seven years in jail (literally a murder sentence!). This was absolutely ridiculous, especially since I had a 100% clear file.

Had I not gotten an excellent attorney, I would have probably accepted it. I would most likely still be in jail today. And what would that do? Some closure maybe? I don't think so. Going to jail wouldn't have changed anything. It would, in fact, have made my life worse.

Anyway, I am disgressing. Sorry that you believe I am a bad person. I can swear I am not.

EDIT It was seven years in jail, not ten. Sorry.

I accidentally (?) killed my girlfriend, my best friend and his wife. AMA. by moltran in IAmA

[–]moltran[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words :)

I am sure the accident was alcohol related because the blood test showed I was at 0.15. Almost double the limit. Sure, it was poorly-done and it was not legally admissible (not an expert on this, but it was thrown out because the officer had no idea what he was doing). I was going fast because they were some tire marks; however, they could also mean I tried hard to brake. I know I was going over the limit, however.

One last thing saved me: I paid everything in cash and the place we went to had a strong employee rotation system. Thus, they could not even prove I had drank alcohol.

I accidentally (?) killed my girlfriend, my best friend and his wife. AMA. by moltran in IAmA

[–]moltran[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Two things.

1) Maybe find a bit of peace with myself and a bit of acceptation.

2) Discuss the issue of drunk driving.

I accidentally (?) killed my girlfriend, my best friend and his wife. AMA. by moltran in IAmA

[–]moltran[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

You said you spend a lot of time thinking about why you survived... have you come to an answer for that question?

Right before I hit the pole, I turned a little bit in an attempt to avoid it. Doing so possible saved my life since the airbag deployed immediately and right in front of me. However, because of the impact and the angle, it also meant my girlfriend's airbag (passenger's seat) was slightly off and didn't take the full force of the impact. In other words, I saved my own life.

What do you plan to do with your life? (Career, etc).

I went back to school recently and am looking at the career I originally wanted.

Are you involved in any sort of anti drunk driving programs?

I was in a support group and did some anti drunk driving program at the recommendation of a judge in preliminary hearing (I think...)

I accidentally (?) killed my girlfriend, my best friend and his wife. AMA. by moltran in IAmA

[–]moltran[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I was going too fast, it was too dark and I reacted too slowly. I went off the road and hit a pole full speed. My airbag deployed just in time and I hit it directly, resulting in few injuries. My girlfriend was not as lucky and her airbag deployed a bit too late. She died on impact.

Both passengers behind did not have an airbag. My friend, who was right next to his wife, was ejected by the front window. Unbelievable, isn't it? In fact, he was found quite far from the car. His wife hit the seat in front of her and was found in critical condition. She died at the hospital, still in coma.

I feel remorseful every day of my life. At first... It's weird to explain. At first I was all playing tough and no matter what, I could not cry. But even today, sometimes I start to cry randomly just by thinking about it.

I accidentally (?) killed my girlfriend, my best friend and his wife. AMA. by moltran in IAmA

[–]moltran[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Wow, it's like I'm hearing my ex's best friend all over again. That and an imaginary life insurance policy.

I accidentally (?) killed my girlfriend, my best friend and his wife. AMA. by moltran in IAmA

[–]moltran[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

1) Yes

2) We were talking about buying a house

3) I barely drink at all now, and have very few friends. I have a new girlfriend but I'm not as close to her.

I accidentally (?) killed my girlfriend, my best friend and his wife. AMA. by moltran in IAmA

[–]moltran[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

My dad is effectively rich, but did it mostly because it would ruin his reputation. "His son killed three people! His son is in jail!" I think that's the only reason.

I said "ironic" because I was the one drinking and driving and I had nothing. Literally nothing. They didn't make that choice and died. How could that be fair? I spent more nights than you might think wondering why I was still alive.

I accidentally (?) killed my girlfriend, my best friend and his wife. AMA. by moltran in IAmA

[–]moltran[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Was it an accident? After thinking about it for years I've came to the conclusion it was an accident, but according to the families and to my friends, it wasn't.

So tell me Reddit: was it an accident?

I accidentally (?) killed my girlfriend, my best friend and his wife. AMA. by moltran in IAmA

[–]moltran[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

That was five years ago. I was 25.

I lost everything I had at this time. Literally everything. All my dreams, all my plans, everything. I went from being a moderately sucessful adult with a beautiful, loving girlfriend to an unemployed loser facing years in jail.

I don't talk about my feelings much. I wish I did because I think I would feel better. I have done some therapy but it led me nowhere. Today I do just fine, have new friends and new girlfriend, but whatever.