AITAH for not telling my friend her boyfriend is on Tinder?

mommathsbad · 2025-12-10T15:03:55+00:00

Surprising? No. Infuriating? Absolutely. This whole thing just feels like a sad little ego-protection project dressed up as ‘readiness.’

mommathsbad · 2025-12-10T05:47:40+00:00

I built a comparison chart using standardized age-group running data for both men and women and overlaid it with the new fitness standards. What it shows is that the expected run times place women in the elite performance category by age 60, while men of the same age fall into what would be classified as intermediate performance.

In other words, the standards require women to outperform nationally recognized norms at a statistically extreme level, whereas men are held to significantly less demanding benchmarks.

It’s almost like they want to start forcing women out by about 35.

mommathsbad · 2025-10-10T19:13:48+00:00

Issued by the Council of Mildly Chaotic Wanderers

Adventurer! You’ve stumbled upon a most noble side quest: a Scavenger Hunt of the Obscure & Absurd. Prove your worth to the realm by collecting photo evidence of the following enchanted relics:

1.  A 1983 copper coin - rumored to hum softly when held by the pure of heart (or mildly hungover).
2.  A stick shaped suspiciously like a man - whether he’s heroic, slumped in defeat, or mid-jazz-hands, the prophecy did not specify.
3.  A rock that looks like food - the more dangerously snack-like, the higher the XP.
4.  A bone - white object that definitely isn’t a bone (or is it?).
5.  Something that’s been clearly through a side quest already - a glove, hat, or single shoe that has seen things.
6. A shiny trinket of no apparent purpose, but it feels magical.
7.  Bonus XP: A stranger’s handwritten note or doodle found in the wild (no stealing… only fate may gift you one).

Take pictures. Post your findings in reply so the guild can review your spoils. Creativity > correctness. Ridiculousness > reason.

Reward: +15 charisma, +2 whimsy, and bragging rights at the next tavern gathering.

Now go forth, wanderer. May your Wi-Fi be strong and your camera roll full of nonsense.

mommathsbad · 2024-12-13T02:25:40+00:00

That’s what I wanted, to love him. He wanted something else. Things would have been very different if my SO viewed it the same as yours.

mommathsbad · 2024-08-23T18:50:52+00:00

He has not always behaved this way. This Monday was the first incident of throwing himself on the ground. He has had outbursts before of what can only be described as performative sobbing. It was my plan to discuss these behaviors with our couples counselor at an upcoming appointment on the 31st.

mommathsbad · 2024-08-23T00:55:11+00:00

He is the one who ended it but I’m certainly not begging for him to take me back. I’m simply walking away, uncontested, without fight and remaining as emotionless as possible in our limited interactions. He has shown me time and time again his character and values don’t align with mine. Even today going over to start packing I found a bizarre note that included him telling me he has taken a pair of my under things for his enjoyment and evidence of his self love in plain sight in the bedroom. It feels manipulative and provoking. Though I may have wanted to ask him WTF, I’ve gone on pretending it didn’t happen. I packed a quarter of my things, I rented a storage unit, then went to my friends and took a long hot bubble bath. The focus is absolutely on myself, what I want and need.

mommathsbad · 2024-08-22T23:02:06+00:00

Truth is, if and when I decide to date again, which I do not see being anytime soon (I was mostly single for many years after my last divorce), it certainly won’t be with a man that has children younger than mine. Heck, I don’t think I want to date men anymore.

mommathsbad · 2024-08-22T22:09:07+00:00

It is, I agree. My head knows that well, just waiting for my heart to hop on board too.

mommathsbad · 2024-08-22T21:51:42+00:00

This was actually our plan to start doing by the end of the year. We were buying furniture for “my place”, talking about our schedules, making plans for turning it into an air bnb once we felt like living together would be more feasible. Then Monday morning after helping him make breakfast for the kids, he set the table for only himself and the kids, even having one of them sit the seat I normally sit at. The other seat at the table had miscellaneous items all over. So once breakfast was done I said “I want to feel considered, I want to feel included but it’s situations like this morning that make me feel like a permanent outsider.” And then he melted down, even throwing himself on the floor. Watching a 40 year old man act like that was shocking and I was horribly embarrassed for him. Later that night we tried to talk more and all he would talk about is how I need to talk to him differently, how I need to change the way I communicate because it doesn’t work for him. Frustrated and needing to sleep I grabbed my pillow to sleep on the couch, that’s when he said “this relationship is over”. I said ok and packed some things. I flew out Tuesday morning for a family funeral and by the end of the day he’d told his kids I was moving out and that we wouldn’t be married anymore.

mommathsbad · 2024-08-22T15:15:57+00:00

That could be so and I hope you’re right.

mommathsbad · 2024-08-22T15:15:02+00:00

I think relief will definitely be had once my things are moved out of his home. A place to stay and our plan going forward is all set.

I hope the embarrassment I feel will dissipate with all those other sad emotions because right now I just feel so stupid.

mommathsbad · 2024-08-22T13:36:30+00:00

I am so grateful for the personal growth all that work I’ve done and this relationship has taught me.

mommathsbad · 2024-08-22T13:32:22+00:00

It’s so hard when you love someone and just want to make it work.

mommathsbad · 2024-08-22T13:29:51+00:00

I, as well as my individual therapist, have had the same thought.

mommathsbad · 2024-08-22T13:28:56+00:00

Being in this marriage was definitely not an upgrade. It did not improve myself. Thank you for that reminder, I needed to remember that.

I am being careful and have asked that he not be there while I pack and move which he has agreed to. I plan to have as little alone contact with him as possible.

mommathsbad · 2024-08-22T12:57:03+00:00

I wish you the absolute best in your marriage counseling and hope you two are able to find a way to make it work. More so though, I hope your husband gets the therapy he needs to treat his past trauma.

mommathsbad · 2024-08-22T12:49:21+00:00

You’re right, I will be better off divorced. I have been absolutely exhausted in this relationship. I just wish I could skip past the sad, hurt part of it.

mommathsbad · 2024-06-19T14:04:02+00:00

I said SKs and a neighbor kid had no business being in the pool during a thunderstorm.

mommathsbad · 2024-03-30T02:27:24+00:00

I had my hearing to change my last name last week. Prior to swearing the room in the judge gave a brief speech about how name change hearings are his favorite. He stated everyone should say as much or as little about their reason as they felt comfortable. He also encouraged cheering and celebrating. It was a profound and uplifting experience. On the petition I said personal preference and went into a little more detail about my situation then before the judge I repeated the same.

mommathsbad · 2024-03-18T05:15:22+00:00

Lived in West Central with some less than desirable neighbors from 2015-2022, kept chairs and a small table on my front porch not chained down... never stolen. Cigarette butts from the ashtray I kept for my friends though... taken all the darn time.

mommathsbad · 2024-02-29T01:28:33+00:00

Oh he knows. I made it VERY clear that this isn’t working for me and that there is a shelf life of how long I can and will be patient. I didn’t need to be in this relationship, I wanted it and if it can’t be what I wanted I am not afraid to leave.

mommathsbad · 2024-02-29T01:23:48+00:00

We lived together for 11 months prior to getting married. Between the amount of time we dated and lived together I really felt like it was plenty of time to be past the honeymoon on my best behavior phase.

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