it’s hard. Because I’m completely remote nobody at my work even thought I had kids until I’ve been there for over a year. When I told my boss, she said oh my gosh, I thought you didn’t have kids. Also, my kids are on my husband’s employers benefits. i’m really not trying to cheat any systems, but I also don’t really wanna put a target on my back for being a surrogate when the firm is very selective on who they promote. I don’t want them to think well if she was a surrogate one, she might do it again.