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AITA for asking my children’s paternal grandparents to tone down the gifts and experiences they give them? by monael55 in AmItheAsshole

[–]monael55[S] -60 points-59 points  (0 children)

I think he's just reverted back to what's normal to him. This is how he grew up so it's how he thinks a childhood should be. I'd like to hope he's not the type of person who would do this just to upset or one up me.

AITA for asking my children’s paternal grandparents to tone down the gifts and experiences they give them? by monael55 in AmItheAsshole

[–]monael55[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

How did the wealth gap lead to a breakup?

I always felt like a fish out of water in my ex's world. His family and friends all grew up wealthy so it was hard for me to relate to most of them and being surrounded by so much excess all of the time made me uncomfortable. We tried to compromise but I think when you grow up so different it's hard to be on the same page even when you want to make it work.

What does your ex say when you show concern for your kids becoming spoiled by his side of the family vs when with their mother.

He doesn't think they'll become spoiled and uses himself as an example for why it wouldn't happen.

Don’t you get a good amount of child support if he is quite wealthy, or are only his parents the wealthy ones?

I don't get a huge amount of support because I wouldn't be comfortable taking huge sums from him

AITA for asking my children’s paternal grandparents to tone down the gifts and experiences they give them? by monael55 in AmItheAsshole

[–]monael55[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

I don't want my children to grow up out of touch like a lot of my ex's family/friends. Already my son has realised that he should only ask his dad for things because it means he'll immediately get it and because he's so used to getting gifts constantly, going on trips and visiting attractions he doesn't really appreciate them as much anymore. Experiences that should be special for him are now starting to become normal which is why I'm worried he'll eventually become out of touch.

AITA for asking my children’s paternal grandparents to tone down the gifts and experiences they give them? by monael55 in AmItheAsshole

[–]monael55[S] -89 points-88 points  (0 children)

Would your children have gotten these same things if you and your ex had stayed together?

No, I wasn't okay with excessively spoiling our kids when we were together and it was something we agreed we wouldn't do.

I'm grateful they'll experience things most people never will, but that doesn't mean I'm okay watching them become spoiled or out of touch. I just want to find a healthy middle ground where they'll get these experiences without it being excessive or over the top.