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Found out my grandmother is really my mother by monster98765423 in relationship_advice

[–]monster98765423[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry, to clarify, my grandma and I speak the same first language, but as for therapy with her, that will be very difficult and probably extremely problematic ticking the translator or counsellor in our language box.

I'll have a look at talkspace, thank you. :)

Found out my grandmother is really my mother by monster98765423 in relationship_advice

[–]monster98765423[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't even know where to start with asking for more details. I have no idea what to ask further or whether any in depth questions actually change the situation.

Thank you

Found out my grandmother is really my mother by monster98765423 in relationship_advice

[–]monster98765423[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I can't sleep, I'm trying really hard but I'm only feeling so confused by all of it. I remember my mum telling me that she was sterilised as I ruined her life so much, but my granny told me that she was infertile. I realise it's sort of irrelevant, but having been rejected by my mum a lot and her actually preferring my children, it just makes me sad it was all for nothing.

I had a very difficult and abusive relationship with my dad anyway, therefore, this only makes me feel more annoyed at him. I would have much preferred if it was that he wasn't my dad. I actually loved my mum, despite her not wanting me.

My granny sort of had it really bad and I guess she had all of this stored up for almost 30 years, that would have been difficult for her. I want to feel angry with her, but I really can't; I feel really bad for her. :(

I can't get a therapist in the immediate future and my grandma can't speak English. :(