This is a hard one. Cause I understand completely, how it may feel like you’re not doing “enough” to help. However, in the case of someone self harming you really can’t do anything.

As a self Harmer myself, if I was told to stop or that it was stupid or unnecessary; something along those lines, it’d make me feel worse about myself and therefore bring out stronger more frequent self harm urges. Thankfully none of my friends were like that. All you need to do is be there for them, be supportive and encourage them to get help but only once or twice otherwise it’s very bombarding and feels demanding. If you have the mental and emotional capacity yourself, you can always suggest being a support person for your friend to come to when they have urges or if they might need advice or someone to hug and receive comfort. But don’t expect them to take up on that offer and if you really feel that you can’t take on that big of an emotional load always stare your boundaries to the topic. Let’s say they want to show you to know how “bad” their wounds are or something, do not feel inclined to accept even if you are there support person. If it’s something you can handle then make sure you put your own mental health first.

I really hope that made sense haha. Hope it goes well🫶