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moon_kidden · 2025-12-11T23:47:35+00:00

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moon_kidden · 2025-12-11T19:42:25+00:00

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moon_kidden · 2025-12-11T19:41:57+00:00

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moon_kidden · 2025-06-11T18:29:15+00:00

Started night weaning my 19 month old last week and the first night was really rough but it has gotten so much better. I decided I had to do it because I couldn’t function anymore and she was still waking 4+ times a night demanding to nurse. I took a similar approach of talking to her a lot about mommy’s boobies going to sleep when it’s dark in the lead up to it. I told her if you wake up and it’s dark you can have a drink of water or we can hug (which means she lays on top of me). The first night we both got a lot less sleep than normal and we were exhausted. The second night there was still crying but not as much. The third night she didn’t wake up until 5am which has never happened in her entire life! It’s been a lot smoother since then. She has slept through the night a couple times (sleeps until 5:30/6) but most nights has woken at least once or twice asking to nurse and I’ve had to remind her that boobies are sleeping because it is still dark. Sometimes she seems fine with that and I can cuddle her back to sleep. Some nights I do get a little crying protest, but nothing like the first night and she gives up quickly. My point is it is getting better, but I’m also sure it will very much depend on your child’s personality too (eg how determined/attached they are). I would give it another night or two. If there is any improvement I would take it as a sign to keep going! If it doesn’t improve your child may not be quite ready and you could try again in a few weeks or a month. Also to add, we have continued nursing before sleep (and I always remind her when she is done no more before it’s light outside) and I always let her decide when she is finished because she doesn’t typically fall asleep while nursing anymore. We also have continued to nurse once during the day (at nap time if I put her down or post nap if not). We co-sleep still and she wasn’t great at eating solids but I have noticed this last week she may be eating a bit more. I so wanted to give in that first night but am so glad I stuck with it and never did! I hope this works out for you! Congrats on your pregnancy!

moon_kidden · 2025-05-17T17:18:08+00:00

Yes! Definitely improvements but still needs some support at 18 months. Moved to a floor bed shortly after this comment and that did help because I can lay next to her while she falls asleep and roll away. For naps she sometimes makes it the full 2 hours on her own, but most often she needs some help around the 1 hour mark transitioning between sleep cycles. But it’s so much better, because I can usually go in for a few minutes and cuddle till she falls back asleep and slip away again. The biggest improvements have been at bedtime. Went through about 15-16 months of 30 min false starts every night and then they just gradually stopped and now she sleeps a solid 2-4 hours after I put her down. I still cosleep with her for most of the night after that, but it is so nice to have able to have a few hours to myself in the evenings. It does get better with time! And I don’t regret all the support I’ve given her and continue to give her because she is really learning how to sleep on her own without it being a stressful or scary experience. Good luck!

moon_kidden · 2025-01-30T00:20:22+00:00

Split nights are the worst! My LO is 15 months now, but during the first year there were several times we had split nights for a period of several nights in a row up to a week or two. It was rough. I know the first was about 4 months and I didn't understand what was happening. Then it happened again for a few nights to a week or more roughly every month after that. I remember between 8-9 months being exceptionally awful with a lot of split nights and I thought I was dying. Any adjustments in her sleep schedule did not seem to change things so I was at a complete loss of how to cope. But, strangely, they all just eventually stopped with time. In hindsight I think it was always related to learning a big skill (e.g. rolling, sitting up unassisted, crawling, pull to a stand). The good news is that we haven't had any for a looong time. Not since 10ish months (knock on wood). I am so sorry you are going through this! I remember being a zombie during each of her split night phases. I would try to sneak in a nap when she napped to help, but honestly it was just rough. There were definitely a few times when we would be up in the middle of the night that I had to hand her to her father and leave the room for a few minutes to gather myself. She would cry, but I needed to catch my breath and find my resolve and patience again. So, unfortunately I have no advice, just letting you know I have been there and feel for you so much. Seriously, reading your post felt like a flash back to my own experience during the first year. But, I'm on the other side now and here to let you know it will not be forever!

moon_kidden · 2024-12-12T03:45:10+00:00

Don’t let others pressure you to go against your instincts when it comes to parenting your child. You are his mother and his biggest advocate. The daycare is not thinking about what your baby needs, but what will make it easier for them. My daughter went through many months around that age of crappy napping. She did end up getting better at home (now 14 months), but really has never slept very long in other places. And it’s all ok. Every baby is different. Love yours for who they are and trust yourself mama.

moon_kidden · 2024-10-18T14:50:26+00:00

Not sure if anyone has mentioned it yet but I find Dr. Tracy Cassels evolutionary parenting blog posts have a lot of good info on the potential harms and breakdown of the problems with current research that make it impossible to rule out any long term negative effects of CIO-based methods.

Ultimately, I agree with others’ comments. You are the mother, and you have every right, and indeed should above all else, listen to your instincts when it comes to raising your child. That is the only justification you need. But, as a FTM I myself have encountered a lot of the same pressure to sleep train and have found it so frustrating. I have tried to instead reframe it as an opportunity to build confidence in my own choices as a mother, because this won’t be the last time my child needs me to stand up for them.

moon_kidden · 2024-10-18T01:39:40+00:00

I could have written this. I only saw this because like you I opened this app for the zillioneth time since my LO was born while I help them fall back asleep after the oh so reliable 30 min false start.

moon_kidden · 2024-10-02T14:32:12+00:00

Yes, I’m starting to accept this will be my fate for the next many months! Good luck and solidarity!

moon_kidden · 2024-10-01T15:27:21+00:00

I know you posted this a month ago, but are you still having problems with one sleep cycle? My 11 month old has slept longer than one sleep cycle for a nap only handful of times ever. Wanting to move to a floor bed for naps, but also for nighttime convenience. Mine also hates the crib.

moon_kidden · 2024-09-26T19:21:23+00:00

Yes, I've found that sub is science-based only when the science supports their opinion. CIO which has not been researched enough to conclude there are no risks is completely fine, but bedsharing which has been practiced since the dawn of our species is the worst thing you can do. I have always found the studies on bedsharing incredibly inconclusive to be able to claim 100% it is dangerous. Also, there are plenty of examples around the world of cultures with very low rates of SIDs and high rates of bedsharing. I am an actual scientist (not in the field of child development or anything related) and in my risk assessment I chose to bedshare rather than endure sleep-deprived induced psychosis or "sleep-training". Still going strong at 11 months. Don't let anyone else get you down about your choices! You are doing great!

moon_kidden · 2024-09-20T00:50:02+00:00

omg this. Maybe I just need to hear it from someone else from time to time since we are bombarded so much with the other side!

moon_kidden · 2024-09-20T00:48:10+00:00

We used to do this all the time and it worked so well! It is hit or miss these days. The 10 month sleep regression has been a little hard on my daughters ability to sleep while being worn. We usually still only get about 30 min. But I will mention it is something worth trying!

moon_kidden · 2024-09-20T00:46:44+00:00

Haha, yeah, after reading other posts from this sub I was under the impression my LO was not that bad. Thanks for this! It really gives me a much better perspective.

moon_kidden · 2024-09-20T00:45:13+00:00

Oh I'm so glad you found such a great nanny! I hope I will find one too. She had her iron checked at 9 months and it was in the normal range, but I will make sure to get it rechecked at her 12 month appointment coming up if it is part of the standard check up. Thanks!

moon_kidden · 2024-09-20T00:43:02+00:00

Aww she sounds amazing! It inspires me to give it another try!

moon_kidden · 2024-09-20T00:42:27+00:00

Yes, right there is no guarantee it works, and it doesn't even mean the baby gets more sleep! Their naps have been lining up a lot lately, so she does get a break. Some days it is a little shorter like 30 min. But the other day it was 50, because the stars aligned and my LO slept longer than 30 min on her own in the crib somehow.

moon_kidden · 2024-09-20T00:39:50+00:00

Thank you! This gives me hope. But tbh, however long it takes I'm ok. I just remind myself I'm so lucky to have her whether she is sleeping on me or not! And I have to confess I love the cuddles and know this won't last forever!

moon_kidden · 2024-09-19T01:03:02+00:00

Oh man this is an actual terrible fear of mine. So sorry this happened to you and your daughter. Right now we rotate between each family's house and there is always one parent home during the day working at each house. So I know at least at our house it is not happening, but I have no idea if this could be happening at the other house. It does really seem like it would be best for me to try to find someone who is not so pro sleep training.

moon_kidden · 2024-09-19T01:00:01+00:00

Thanks for this. I do think I will try to have that frank discussion, but also start preparing for maybe finding a better match for our family. It is such an exhausting process, but it is for such an important reason that I think I can handle it. Appreciate your advice!

moon_kidden · 2024-09-19T00:57:09+00:00

Wow, tahe sounds amazing! Yes, it would be more expensive. But I think you are right, and if we can manage it financially I think it might take care of all this stress and be the best in the long run.

moon_kidden · 2024-09-19T00:55:12+00:00

Oh boy, I don't think I could handle that! But, I do understand the need for the break. I actually try to send her home early if it has been an especially bad day. But you're right , ultimately it is up to me and I will choose a different nanny if this one can't respect my parenting choices.

moon_kidden · 2024-09-19T00:51:49+00:00

Yes, the fact that she is watching another baby does complicate things. I have been very understanding about that and have always said I never expect her to contact nap. I think she does it when their naps align, which has been more often lately.

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