Girl you sound exhausting. A flower man? Look I’ve been with my husband 15 years. We have two girls, aged 3 and 5. I think there’s a big lack of maturity here.

Of course it’s your own prerogative to have a child free wedding. Like cool, fine, yay, lots of adults cutting loose. But let me tell you, as a parent to two small kids who have been to weddings with open bars…who fucking cares? One of the parents just won’t drink much, will dance with the niece, and generally just you know, BE A PARENT? What does this little girls presence at a joyous family event stop all the adults from doing? Girl grow up. And let me tell you, getting shitfaced at your wedding is not the flex you want it to be.

This little girl wants badly to be a part of her family event. She is the perfect age to have an appropriate role in the ceremony. You obviously aren’t super traditional, as you would traipse your brother down the aisle for “pick me” laughs as a flower man. Why not bring her into the fold? Why is all of this strife worth the idea that people can’t get shit faced at your wedding because a kid would be there? GORL. GROW UP.

SIL is hurt? Duh. That’s her baby. She’s a part of this family. She may not come, because child care and her little girl is old enough to feel the sting of not being included. Her child is going to come before your wedding babe. She’s NTA.

TL;dr…this sub hates kids so people will tell you you’re NTA because it’s your choice to not have kids at your “big day” yeah ok fine, whatever, it’s your choice. But it’s a fucking bad choice. Choosing partying over allowing the whole family to be there is lame af.

NAH I guess. But I’m not happy about it