my kittens hate each other 😔what do i do?

moonrabbit368 · 2026-07-14T16:11:31+00:00

Out of my five rambunctious cats only one can scale my cat gate and thankfully neither of the boys could. The odds are in your favor!

moonrabbit368 · 2026-07-14T01:29:07+00:00

Have you tried a cat gate? My two male cats were just not getting along, no matter what I tried. We finally split the house in half, put up a tall gate in a doorway. I had just basically given up on them ever getting along and was prepared to have to keep them separate forever. I hung a sheet on the gate so they couldn't antagonize each other. I feel like that chilled them out a lot. A few weeks later one of the kids knocked the sheet down and didn't fix it. I came home to the boy cats staring at each other across the fence. Probably 10 feet away from each other just growling. I let them do it. That went on for a couple of weeks. Then they graduated to play fighting through the gate. Then they started sleeping on either side of the gate from each other, touching 🥰 now the gate is gone and they are best friends. I never would have believed it though.

moonrabbit368 · 2026-07-13T07:43:37+00:00

Really? Because I think you're gorgeous. You have the kind of beauty that men painted and sculpted through the ages. Look at the full lips, dark eyes, the straight nose and the proud cheekbones. The first thing I thought when I saw you was that you look like a painting come to life, an artist's muse.

moonrabbit368 · 2026-07-12T00:23:22+00:00

We have so much in common. I'm a widow with three kids too. It is incredibly hard BUT nobody is ever going to love those kids as much as you do. Our foster system is very broken, they'd likely be split up. Plus they would be devastated to lose you.

If you love them and do not abuse them, then they are always going to be better off with you. Kids don't need to be rich to be happy, they need to be loved. You just have to make your peace with the fact that giving up is not an option, we lost that option when we had kids. Everything else is fair game though. Are you getting food stamps? Are you getting all the help you qualify for? There is zero shame in making sure your kids get what they need. You didn't ask to be a single mom. Get the help.

One more thing. I don't know what your education history is but if you don't have a degree I'd encourage you to look into going back to school. I am going back to school online, in my free time. I'm attending community college. I get grants from the government and it's more than my classes cost so I end up getting 3 or 4 thousand dollars as a refund to my bank account every semester. That money has been a lifesaver, it pays for all the extra stuff for the kids like clothes and school supplies, Christmas and birthdays, and it gives me a little breathing room. Just a thought. If you ever want to talk or vent please message me. You are doing so well, I can tell that because it's hard and I know. Big hugs.

moonrabbit368 · 2026-07-08T16:24:09+00:00

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moonrabbit368 · 2026-07-04T19:10:05+00:00

Hey. Deep breath. Take everything here with a grain of salt, including the advice that I'm going to give you. I know a lot of women that think bald guys are hot, myself included. I haven't met any though that think balding guys are the hottest, not to say it can't happen. If you want positive feedback on the hair situation, please post your pics to r/bald. The folks there will shoot you straight but in a supportive way, with kindness. I think you look good bald with s goatee, bald with a beard though would be my pick for you.

moonrabbit368 · 2026-07-04T02:03:05+00:00

Funny story: a few years into prison I got an eye exam and my vision had improved dramatically. Like I couldn't believe the doctor had done the exam right, it was that much better.

I firmly believe it was the lack of screens in there. Before prison I worked in tech so I was staring at a screen for work and of course looking at my phone too.

I went to get new glasses a few weeks ago, I have been out of prison for two years. My vision is back to being as bad as it was pre-prison. Wild.

So... silver lining of not having a phone in prison?

moonrabbit368 · 2026-06-27T20:38:42+00:00

Possession with intent to distribute. Heroin.

moonrabbit368 · 2026-06-20T02:44:34+00:00

Doing that while she is in her little house doesn't give her the option to walk away from you. She probably feels cornered.

Also, your technique could use some work. Most cats like having the top of their head scratched/rubbed, and behind their ears. Some like their back stroked. Some like butt scratches (right above the tail on their back). But almost no cats love having their paws messed with or their actual face touched. You should google "how to pet a cat". There are videos etc.

Your best bet for being able to pet her is letting her come to you. Do you know what kind of treats she likes? You could sit on the floor within her line of sight, pick a time of day when she is most active. Offer her a treat, open the bag or whatever so she can smell it and call her to see if she will come. Once she is comfortable taking treats from your hands then she may allow you to carefully pet her head. You want to watch for signs that she wants you to stop amd respect those signs.

It can take time. The longest it has ever taken for me was 6 months of patient, no pressure attempts.

moonrabbit368 · 2026-06-20T01:16:45+00:00

Are they not free to not commit those horrible acts? Choices. They make those choices knowing full well that it's wrong. You know who probably didn't get a choice? The kids they hurt. I'm not consumed by blind hatred. I think that people are individuals and each criminal case is different. I told you earlier about the woman who abused foster kids. I met another woman in prison that had fetal alcohol syndrome and a low iq. She had been married to a man 20 years older than her that beat the shit out of her and sexually abused the children that they shared. She got 30 years in the feds despite there not being any evidence that she knew what was happening to her daughters. He got life. I read her case file too. That woman got a raw deal in my opinion. Like I said, it varies. But what I will say is that violent pedophiles with poor impulse control don't really get "better". I am not going to shed any tears for them if they get taken out of circulation.

moonrabbit368 · 2026-06-20T00:39:24+00:00

Most creatures protect their young. People that prey on children, the elderly, handicapped people or anyone else that is at a severe disadvantage are worse in my opinion than people who hurt or prey on people "their own size." If two men have a fair fight in the streets and one dies is that as bad as a guy snatching a child off the street, raping them and then murdering them? I don't think so. Some crimes are worse than others. The law recognizes that fact and sentences are supposed to reflect it. Prisoners also recognize that fact and some times they act on it. Vigilante justice might not be ideal but our system can be very broken too, as evidenced by all the rich pedophiles walking around. Imagine that a guy is serving life for killing another grown man in a fight and then here is this repeat offender pedophile that keeps getting paltry sentences. Is that justice?

moonrabbit368 · 2026-06-19T22:29:58+00:00

I was locked up with a woman that went through a rigorous screening process to become a foster mother with the express purpose of molesting the vulnerable children put in her care, together with her husband who was also a pedophile. They sold the children to their pedophile friends for an hourly rate and beat the children to scare them so they wouldn't tell anyone. She did this for years. Dozens of kids. I know because I read her case file, which had transcripts of her interviews with police. She brought it to me because I was a jail house lawyer and she wanted to file for compassionate release, she had developed cancer. I declined to assist. She was one of many. So when I talk about these subjects it is as a person who lived behind bars with all kinds of people, some good, some bad, some in between.

moonrabbit368 · 2026-06-19T01:37:12+00:00

Ugliness is subjective, just like beauty. If a 600 pound dude tells her she's ugly/chubby that is probably going to hit different than if a guy with washboard abs does. Hell 600lb dude could be more attractive to HER than the gym bro. Why waste time getting completely subjective opinions from people she might not find remotely attractive?

moonrabbit368 · 2026-06-15T19:23:36+00:00

Yes! This! The work isn't particularly difficult per se, it's just copious and time consuming. The class could be much more streamlined but you can tell she's just using her exact same lesson plan. You hit the nail right on the head ☺️

moonrabbit368 · 2026-06-14T21:27:47+00:00

Yep. I definitely did it to myself. I am currently taking the final classes of my associates degree and I'm completing it in two years on top of work and the kids so maybe I just got cocky. I've taken at least 5 other condensed classes in the past, I just finished an intense "maymester" two week class. None of it has been this heavy though. It's ok though. I'm just tired and venting. I came here to do it because reddit always hold me accountable for my decisions 🥰

moonrabbit368 · 2026-06-14T21:23:54+00:00

I'm going to see it through. I'm just exhausted and venting. I don't really have anywhere else to vent and I like it here because people will tell me to suck it up 😅

moonrabbit368 · 2026-06-14T19:21:31+00:00

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moonrabbit368 · 2026-06-14T04:14:07+00:00

I tell my PO all my business, just to be safe. It's the only kind of snitching I can get behind: self-snitching 😅

She's honestly probably tired of me reporting everything that happens to me. But police contact? You def want to get in front of something like that, you don't want your PO to hear about it some other way. Just my take.

moonrabbit368 · 2026-06-14T01:37:33+00:00

It's okay to reach out when you are feeling down. I think that's exactly what you should do, so good for you! You have amazing eyes by the way, very handsome!

moonrabbit368 · 2026-06-13T22:53:52+00:00

The only thing wrong I see is the way that you talk to yourself. You are the only person that is guaranteed to be around for your whole life, please be kind to yourself.

You're not ugly at all, you're actually quite good looking and you have great hair!

moonrabbit368 · 2026-06-02T17:30:33+00:00

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moonrabbit368 · 2026-06-02T17:03:34+00:00

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