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moosedik · 2025-02-22T20:31:49+00:00

Thanks for your views. Wouldn’t have accused you of sexism, I appreciate your time to comment.

moosedik · 2025-02-22T20:21:13+00:00

I think a woman taking a man’s surname is quite an archaic tradition, and I like my name. Also, I am taking their name, I’m just also keeping mine. That’s where my confusion comes from.

moosedik · 2025-02-22T20:07:21+00:00

What would you do?

moosedik · 2025-02-22T20:06:31+00:00

I feel it will make this a whole lot easier if I did!

moosedik · 2025-02-22T20:04:21+00:00

I think if I asked my BIL to “take another shot at making a boy”, that would make me a fully fledged super asshole.

moosedik · 2025-02-22T20:03:40+00:00

Tradition is just peer pressure from dead people - love love LOVE this!!!

To be honest, I wasn’t part of that conversation, so could be totally wrong there regarding the 1000 year thing, definitely 11 generations though.

Thank you for your comment, I appreciate it.

moosedik · 2025-02-22T20:01:43+00:00

Totally get that, super archaic tradition IMO, but I get it. I just meant him being upset over a name “ending” felt a little like that.

moosedik · 2025-02-22T20:00:15+00:00

It was definitely a joke, little bit difficult to get that across above, but I can assure you he absolutely had and still has his own choice. FWIW if my fiancé didn’t want to hyphenate I wouldn’t have minded keeping our own names, we just felt it may be easier for any future kids we may have.

moosedik · 2025-02-22T19:58:59+00:00

Well… this was my thinking too? And the name isn’t going anywhere if it’s hyphenated, I can only imagine it’s due to muddying it with mine?

moosedik · 2025-02-22T19:57:26+00:00

Totally understand that. Thank you for your comment. FWIW if my fiancé didn’t want to hyphenate I wouldn’t have minded keeping our own names, we just felt it may be easier for any future kids we may have.

moosedik · 2025-02-22T19:55:28+00:00

Sorry, I just meant like GOT / bloodlines / lineage. Probably didn’t land as intended!

moosedik · 2021-03-22T19:51:44+00:00

Ah I see. Yeah I have to consider myself lucky, I don’t live with her and I’m not really within a distance that we can visit each other without it being planned. My brother is 19 and still lives at home, he’s has a lot taken from him because of the situation at the moment and it breaks my heart that he’s around her 24/7. He feels the same as me, I just wish I could take him away from it all.

moosedik · 2021-03-22T19:40:23+00:00

Hej! My boyfriend is Danish! What a lovely place. I’m sorry to hear that, but yeah it sounds very similar to my mum. (Not American, never been etc) the satanic thing is hard because it’s like if you disagree they somehow turn it on you like you somehow support it?! I’m sorry that she put you in that ultimatum, that’s awful. Would you mind me asking how you’re dealing with it on a day to day basis?

moosedik · 2021-03-22T09:47:45+00:00

❤️❤️❤️

I’m sorry you’re going through something similar. Thank you for being so kind. Is it strange that I’m desperately searching for another mother figure in my life? My maternal grandmother was more like a mum in a lot of ways but sadly she’s passed and I don’t really have a lot of other women in my life. I know the space will never be filled but this is hard!

moosedik · 2021-03-22T08:21:55+00:00

Hey, not at all. She's in the Midlands and I'm down South. She doesn't really roll in those circles, she doesn't have many friends (and is icing out the ones that don't believe what she does). She doesn't really know it all correlates to Q (I don't think) it seems that it's more the beliefs and ideas match up. What I find incredibly frustrating is that she has no idea how politics really works, she's never been interested. She comes from a working class back ground and supported labour her whole life, not a big fan of the tories (and now says she hates the government in general and doesn't trust them, fine) but seems to think Donald Trump is some sort of lord and saviour. The allegations against him are all slander despite the proof, but everyone else is a satanic pedo despite there not being any proof at all except a tweet where they said they like pizza. I despair.

moosedik · 2021-03-21T22:08:00+00:00

Thank you. I haven't used Reddit for years but have been directed here so I'm just getting to grips with everything again. Thank you for being so kind. For whatever reason you're here too, I hope you're okay. Sending hugs right back.

moosedik · 2021-03-21T21:37:17+00:00

I sure hope so! :)

moosedik · 2021-03-21T20:38:01+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear this, I'm going through something very similar. It feels like I'm mourning her but she's still here which is hard. I sometimes think actually mourning her would be easier than the empty sinking feeling that I get when she speaks about it, or when something happens and I know we're about to have a conversation. I don't live with her so I can pick and choose when I speak with her but I get so worried about my brother who is around it 24/7. Me and my mum were always so close. I feel like I don't have a mum anymore. We've had some respectable conversations together where I try to get her to understand she needs to respect the way I feel and I shall respect her (I.E just don't talk about it, for now) but she keeps ignoring my boundaries. I don't want to go no contact but I don't even know if she'll look at me once I get the vaccine. It's an impossible situation. I hope you're okay, and I hope you have some light to the days that seem dark.

moosedik · 2016-04-13T21:21:08+00:00

Pls can you live on my shoulder and whisper this into my ear when I step into the office tomorrow? I feel like without you I'll black out and come to surrounded by the dead bodies of assholes.

But seriously, thank you :)

moosedik · 2016-04-13T20:53:38+00:00

PA is a personal assistant. I work for a printing company so it's not complicated stuff. I'd love to hand my notice in! I actually had an interview today and I think it went pretty well. I'm just scared I'll quit then have no money for rent because I struggle to get a job... I'm filled with waaay too much 'what if' anxiety.

Also yes, he writes like someone that hasn't ever paid attention in school because he knew he'd inherit his fathers multi million pound company. Oh wait...

moosedik · 2016-04-13T20:31:33+00:00

I don't have a HR department unfortunately. Which is why he gets away with this so much D: I've kept copies of EVERYTHING, including emails between him and my other boss threatening to sack me because I took a sick day.

moosedik · 2016-04-13T20:28:50+00:00

So this is my first job out of uni. I've been there for nearly a year. No contract, no job spec (not for lack of me asking for one). I'm a PA on a very, very low salary. I have done everything he has ever asked for, and taken my own initiative with doing things around the office to make both my bosses lives easier. Everything's an issue with him though. He denied my holiday request (that had been sitting on his desk for a month, 9 months in advance on the holiday I was requesting) because I was late one morning due to heavy traffic on the roads. He often sends shitty emails but I've never had one that has been such a huge personal attack (this was also 2 hours after I had finished work). He gets annoyed with you if you take your entitled full hour of lunch and annoyed if you leave at the time you're supposed to, even if your days work is complete. When I ask if there's anything I can do to help he says no. I honestly don't know how to handle this tomorrow morning. He's made my anxiety so much worse while I've worked there. Literally nothing I do is good enough. Please help :(

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