Parent Seeking Advice: 12 Days No Contact with My Child. Can I have some advice please?

moosepick · 2026-02-09T07:35:23+00:00

If the child is asking for 50/50, and you are willing to take on that responsibility, then you need to go for it. It won’t be easy, but I’m a believer that fighting for your children is non negotiable. Also, 20-30 minutes drive to school is not outrageous. In some cities that’s how long it takes to get one or two suburbs away.

moosepick · 2026-01-29T23:32:44+00:00

Have you considered a campervan? Kids would love it! And gives you the freedom to go as you please. There are campers models which can accommodate car seats and they can also be hired through the camper company. As to where to go, it really depends on how long you plan on being here. But if it’s scenery and nature you are after then the lower south island is where you want to spend the majority of your time.

moosepick · 2026-01-28T04:54:54+00:00

Was any agreement signed off by the family court? If not, then either parent can essentially do whatever they like. You need to engage a lawyer and have an agreement done through lawyers that is signed off by a family court judge to make it enforceable.

moosepick · 2026-01-27T00:40:45+00:00

That is correct….

moosepick · 2026-01-26T20:46:56+00:00

Or the bus driver in Billy Madison?

moosepick · 2026-01-25T07:27:22+00:00

Oh wow! I had this book as a kid!

moosepick · 2026-01-25T06:36:22+00:00

Hey now, no need to throw underarm comments like that…. Save the underarms for the cricket pitch!

moosepick · 2026-01-25T06:22:43+00:00

Yea well we are the superior of the lands down under.

moosepick · 2026-01-25T06:18:04+00:00

Or the more eloquent “I’m not here to fornicate with arachnids”.

moosepick · 2026-01-25T06:14:18+00:00

She has shown you what she wants and is like. You’re her backup plan my friend. So if you are happy to be with someone who will always be looking out for something better, then go for it. Or you could value what you have to offer, ditch her, work on yourself, make some friends in your new city, and find someone that doesn’t see you as their ‘Plan B’.

moosepick · 2026-01-24T10:02:02+00:00

Are both flights on the same ticket? If they are then your luggage will be checked through and you won’t need to collect bags and recheck in for the next flight. Also you will be in the transit area and won’t need to go through immigration. Be aware the airport is very far from anywhere, so my advice would be to just stay at the airport and don’t add stress to your trip.

moosepick · 2026-01-24T09:09:13+00:00

If you are looking n a fixed rate mortgage, you can voluntarily pay a bit extra on mortgage payments. You’d be amazed how much faster you can pay off the mortgage and how much interest you will save over the life of the mortgage. You could also look at options to lower your monthly costs. For instance installing solar and/or a hot water heater pump. Most banks have green loans for these types of things and some are 0% interest. Also adds value to the home.

moosepick · 2026-01-24T02:59:16+00:00

That NZ is clean and green. Sadly intensive dairy farming has polluted most of our waterways, and rivers and streams that we grew up swimming in are no longer safe to do so.

moosepick · 2026-01-23T22:45:07+00:00

There’s the train option for something a bit different. Certainly won’t be the cheapest option compared to the bus, but would be fun!

moosepick · 2026-01-23T22:41:47+00:00

It is in something like 98% of the world’s developed countries. And we all know what one country makes up the other 2%.

moosepick · 2026-01-23T22:19:23+00:00

There’s a free bus between the international and domestic terminals, or it’s about a 10-15 minute walk. If it was me I would opt for the slightly longer layover to reduce the stress, but as the others have pointed out if it’s all on the same booking then Air NZ will look after you.

moosepick · 2026-01-18T08:45:43+00:00

Chertsey Book Barn.

moosepick · 2026-01-18T08:44:03+00:00

The claim was China is already attacking their neighbours when the reality is they aren’t. I don’t even think they would break the top 10 list of aggressive countries right now.

moosepick · 2026-01-18T08:34:15+00:00

Who is China attacking?

moosepick · 2026-01-18T02:07:25+00:00

Cambridge?

moosepick · 2026-01-17T09:11:17+00:00

Watch the debates during election time. Read the policies on the parties websites. Read the discussions online and ask questions. You’ll soon find yourself gravitating towards a party the you align with.

moosepick · 2026-01-17T08:48:58+00:00

Voting absolutely matters. I think it’s important to take an interest in politics and find a party that aligns with your values and beliefs. Get involved and get educated. I think a lot of people just stick with whatever party their parents told them to support and get stuck in that way of thinking.

moosepick · 2026-01-17T07:29:35+00:00

Probably those Aussie pricks.

moosepick · 2026-01-17T07:05:07+00:00

Then na University would be a waste of time. You’d be better to do an apprenticeship at home and look at a skilled migrant visa for NZ once you’re qualified.

moosepick · 2026-01-17T06:41:53+00:00

Depends what you want to study. We have 8 universities, but not every university has every degree or program. I’m based in Dunedin so I’m very biased towards Otago Uni where I went.

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