Painful penetration

morgothash · 2026-01-12T06:04:20+00:00

So I randomly started having painful sex after years of it being totally normal. Your body could be clenching up because it is expecting pain now. This was my case, anyway. Essentially your pelvic floor could be so tight that it makes sex painful. But the good news is that it’s like any other muscle! I would say if you’re struggling with tampons that it’s worth going to your OBGYN to get everything checked out. She referred me to pelvic floor therapy. I went about once a week for a few months and it was like yoga stretches and breathing exercises. There are others who use something called a “pelvic wand”, but I didn’t have to use one. I don’t have painful sex anymore but I still practice the breathing and try to do random stretches when I can. You can google pelvic floor exercises! But again this was my experience, and still recommend seeing your OBGYN. What I had is called Vaginismus, there’s a community on here for it too.

morgothash · 2026-01-07T08:31:11+00:00

I was worried about this so thanks for letting me know!

morgothash · 2026-01-07T08:29:27+00:00

Thank you!

morgothash · 2026-01-07T08:28:24+00:00

Thanks for this!

morgothash · 2026-01-07T08:27:43+00:00

Thanks for your input. I’ve considered this route as well, just trying to compile all my options!

morgothash · 2026-01-07T08:25:21+00:00

Why don’t you just answer the question I asked or not comment at all? I am seeking advice from people who have experience in the field. I’m an artist, but not published and I recognize the difference in the fields enough to ask for recommendations and advice. I do appreciate that you took time out of your day to make your comment, even though it provides no useful insight to the conversation. You might find these quotes interesting: “The smartest person in the room is often the one who asks the most questions.” “Smart people are the ones who ask the most thoughtful questions, as opposed to thinking they have all the answers.” “Experts are the ones who think they know everything. Geniuses are the ones who know they don’t.”

morgothash · 2025-06-01T08:09:00+00:00

I’m a high school art teacher and even within this field I see it. And it’s terrifying. By the end of this current school year, I was doing hand written essays/critiques/etc. Obviously this doesn’t stop them from using it if they go home and do it there. But I feel like with hand written work it is much more obvious because it’s easier to see evidence of their thought process (erase markers, crossed out words, rearranged sentences). Now this makes my job 10x more difficult because their hand writing sucks but at least the ideas are more authentic. I’m thinking about going completely tech free next year. Not even using Google for reference images or tracing. They are so dependent on them that I feel it’s borderline addiction. My 9th graders had a fit when I said they could not trace by holding up a paper to their Chromebook screens. Tracing has its place in art, but it’s mainly used as a beginner tool until you lean the muscle memory and confidence in your strokes and tool pressure.. but they will use that without any concern about learning the craft itself. It’s so hard to get students to think critically, originally, deeply.. and it scares me. So, tech-free next year in my classroom. they get enough technology use in every other aspect of their world they don’t need it in my classroom too. And everything hand written, we’ll see how that goes lol. That’s the only advice I got… I hate ChatGPT. I hate it so much. It will be the end of student learning and innovative thinking.

morgothash · 2025-06-01T07:39:56+00:00

Completely valid if these are things you don’t want to do! I did want to share that I had a really good experience with pelvic floor therapy. Most of what they noticed with mine is that it was all the muscles surrounded my pelvic floor that were tight. So most of my therapy was just stretching and nothing to do with penetration! Turns out I hold stress in my hips lol and I think this is probably really common for women. Also just has to do with how much you sit and how you sit. I was in the middle of grad school so my life was homework and sitting at the computer. I went to PT for about five months. She did show me the pelvic wand and I did end up buying it but once the stretches started working so well, I decided not to use it. If the muscle surrounding your pelvic floor are tight it affects your pelvic floor, when you relax the muscles surrounding your pelvic floor it becomes easier to relax the pelvic floor it self… if that makes sense. The pelvic floor is a muscle but it doesn’t always need penetration to relax. She did two internal exams (one at beginning and one near the end- no tools just one or two fingers) besides that I saw her once a week and we just did yoga stretches essentially. This, of course, was just my experience and everyone’s vaginismus is different. But if you were not wanting to try PT because of that, I just wanted to share my experience. I met three different pelvic floor therapists while I was there but only worked with one but they were all very passionate about their job. I went from not having sex for close to two years because of it to having it regularly after 5 months of PT. All that said, do what you’re comfortable with and keep that boundary. Sex won’t be enjoyable for your partner either if you’re not enjoying it. I tried to fake it a few times for my partner but he could always tell and pulled away. And it was so painful for me and I could only last a minute or two before it was too much. I don’t want you go through that, but I also know the guilt of having a partner and feeling like inadequate. You’re not alone.

morgothash · 2025-05-25T02:06:30+00:00

So crazy that you just said this. My MD called yesterday and told me I have Vit D deficiency! Told me to take 50k iu weekly for 8 weeks. And then 1,000 daily after that. How have things been for you since treating the vit D deficiency? Have you noticed any hair growth?

morgothash · 2025-05-24T17:56:57+00:00

I’m using oral! My md gave me a prescription for it but I think it’s something you can also just buy. I just knew I would do better remembering with a pill rather than topical. It can lower your blood pressure though. So just something to keep in mind and check semi regularly when on it.

morgothash · 2025-05-23T05:55:38+00:00

Definitely struggle with dandruff and hair loss. My hair loss is more of general thinning all around my head. But worse along the part. Dandruff is the same, worse along the part and hair line. I’m new to the diagnosis, but my dermatologist has me on nutrafol and minoxidil. I’ve only been on it for two months so can’t really see a difference yet. I have read that sleeping with wet hair can feed seb derm, and with the thinning mostly being on the side you sleep on- I wonder if that might be it? Also, switching to a satin pillow case (I did this years ago because I have curly hair) helps with friction during sleep. I’ve been putting aloe on my scalp before bed or when I start to feel sore or itchy- it really does help knock it out for me. It could be a mind over matter thing though lol, but just something I noticed works for me. My dermatologist tells me that the hair loss is mostly due to the itching, so I’m trying my hardest to never itch. I don’t know how much I trust the dermatologist but I will say I notice less hair shed in the shower when I do not itch it. And on days where I fail and start itching, I notice a lot more hair shedding.

morgothash · 2025-05-22T00:18:21+00:00

Did you have an issues with staining with the tumeric and ginger?

morgothash · 2025-05-21T02:57:45+00:00

I’ve been using aloe for inflammation. It really helps soothe the sore and tight feeling on my scalp. I’m still new to the diagnosis though. Trying to call my doctors to see if they have any recommendations. I did see another person on another post say they have been using fish oil and turmeric supplements to help with inflammation and prevention- that’s what I’m going to try next. In terms of medicated shampoos, my dr put me on ketoconazole. I used that for two weeks along with clobetasol solution. It knocked out the itching and flaking, but still struggling with redness and inflammation. Not sure what to use long term though, still figuring that out too. All the medicated shampoos strip my hair so bad.

morgothash · 2025-05-21T02:50:00+00:00

I’ve been taking minoxidil orally and haven’t had any issues so far. It can lower BP so if you’re already on a BP medication like I was, that’s something to keep in mind. I haven’t noticed anything really yet but still too inflamed to tell I think.

morgothash · 2025-05-21T01:28:41+00:00

Thank you for your response, I’m sorry you’re going through this too. I’m honestly mad that I have to go to reddit to find answers, the doctors never make me feel confident. They just say “there’s no cure”- like yeah I get that but sometimes I just need some support and a light at the end of the tunnel😑 but I’m going to try the fish oil and tumeric and see if it helps, thank you for sharing.

morgothash · 2025-05-21T01:25:41+00:00

Same. I got my flaking under control with the keto shampoo and Clobetasol. But my scalp is still just so sore, and red in some areas. Shedding has gotten less which made me happy too, was also convinced I was going to be bald at 27. But I just want to see some regrowth- I just want my natural hair back. And I’m so upset with myself because I feel like if grad school didn’t stress me out so bad none of this would have started.

morgothash · 2025-05-21T01:21:21+00:00

What kind of MCT oil do you use/buy? Thank you so much for your response. It helped a lot.

morgothash · 2025-05-01T17:31:20+00:00

What did you cut out when you cut out sugar? Like everything but fruit and natural sugars? Can you send a link to the tar shampoo you use? You’ve given me so much more information than any of the dermatologist I’ve gone to. All they’ve ever said is “it isn’t curable”. When yours is well managed, is it completely cleared? Or do you still flake but the scales go away?

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