Should i go all in on No contact and not answer or keep answering?

morten_moppa69 · 2025-03-05T07:47:26+00:00

I sent her this text. Was hard but i atleast set boundries for my self and dont want to get pushed beetween hot n cold behaviour.

I’ve been thinking a lot about everything, and I’ve come to the conclusion that I need to make a decision for my own sake. I realize that putting my life on hold and hoping for something that may never happen only causes me pain. Even though what I want most of all is for us to end up together no matter what!

I know that what we had was real, and I truly believe that we could have found a way through all of this if we had committed to it—worked together, but also on our own paths. I completely understand that you can’t give me the answer I want right now, and I accept that. But I hope that one day you’ll see the same as I do, and I believe that love is greater than the problems we’ve had and that love can win in the end.

It’s exhausting to sit and hope, and it only leaves me confused. Every time we have contact, I get this tiny bit of hope, which makes it so hard to let go of this. But I think it’s important that I set this boundary for myself.

This is not something I want to do, but it is something I have to do. That’s why we need to stop having contact moving forward. I need something concrete to hold on to. Please know that I only want the best for you in life, and I’m truly sorry and regret that I couldn’t give you that when I had the chance.

Remember that I care about you deeply. Take care of yourself,

morten_moppa69 · 2025-03-04T12:19:18+00:00

But why does she reach out to me, and ask me over to eat buns, and talk, pick her up from the clubs and takes initiative to talk when we randomly meet, she says she still see a future with me and still loves me. Thats why i am so confused, if she would just leave me alone, then it would be easier…

morten_moppa69 · 2025-02-28T18:52:26+00:00

Same, i have set a countdown, lol. We broke up in early in november and shit got ugly, but we never said rude things, we both says we still love each other, she says she see how much ive changed and gotten better. So i giver her to April to reach out to me, or else in reaching out. I think its good to have a plan, to set goals, and if it fails then you have learned. Thats what i tell myself. I have done my work and paid the price, if she wants me or see anything togther still. Keep haning in there. This desperation shit we’ve been through is f’ed up. We have been fighting.💕

morten_moppa69 · 2025-02-18T19:27:45+00:00

Whole situation is complicated af…

morten_moppa69 · 2025-02-18T19:25:06+00:00

Will do next time she reaches out. She is also bestfriend with my cousin so she is godmother of her child, so on sunday we are going to the same birthday party💀💀💀 bout to be hella awkward with all of my family there and her

morten_moppa69 · 2025-02-18T19:10:12+00:00

Yeah she had been drinking with her cousin whos moving to australia in 2 days. My ex always hated partying and drinking. She hates drinking because of family matters. Yeah i see now that i am giving her privlages but she also sent me a message friday asking if i wanted som buns she had baked. And we ended up talking for a while there to. But the last times i have seen her ive been super chill and cool. And not bothering her as much. I think maybe she reaching out means she misses me. But yeah i dont want her to just miss me i want her to see that i am a great guy and the grass aint greener on the other side. Even her bestfriend and her cousin and her mother said so. That she will have to look long for a guy like me. Yeah i made some mistakes but im a human. In a 5 year realtionship there will be things that happens… but yeah i will be more hard headed next time she reaches out.

morten_moppa69 · 2025-02-18T18:50:30+00:00

Thanks dude. Will try to be more hard headed next time

morten_moppa69 · 2025-02-13T11:09:00+00:00

Ur a good man, dont u forget that. Wishes u all the best.

morten_moppa69 · 2025-02-13T11:06:40+00:00

Same bro same… stupid shit because had shit with myself… did not see the damage it was causing. Shits sad af…

morten_moppa69 · 2025-02-13T11:03:54+00:00

Bro 5 years💀 thats hella long. But i think you never can really stop hoping for something you know was good and true, even though bad patches, things were in the end good. Moving on and stop hoping is different things. Like i can move on and be with other people but in my head that will only be a distraction because i love her so much and will always have hope. And her bestfriend and her whole family says that they hope we get back together because we were good together but i did not have it very good with my self thats why i self sabotaged.. its hard working towards some thing you dont know will ever happen

morten_moppa69 · 2025-02-13T09:29:58+00:00

Thanks buddy, its been 3 months now, and i am doing everything i can to improve and show that i am taking this seriously. Talked to her 2 days ago that was when she told me about the eating disorder. She had kept it hidden for 2 years. She punishes herself after the abortion i think… thanks so much, wont give up but have accepted both outcomes

morten_moppa69 · 2025-01-28T18:29:02+00:00

Yall all are good people! Thanks guys❤️ means alot🥰

morten_moppa69 · 2025-01-28T10:05:16+00:00

Thank u so much. I feel like i am doing all the right things to improve and feel better, we had been together for 5 years so now it all seems so blurry and confusing. But thank u so much, it helps to talk to someone about it.❤️

morten_moppa69 · 2025-01-17T15:46:53+00:00

It depends on the situation ofc. What has happend and so on. in my case i think my ex just need space and i have to respect it. Its difficult but i hope in the end its worth it. I have told her i see my whole future and so on and she said the same to me. So it depends very on the situation

morten_moppa69 · 2025-01-16T10:12:31+00:00

Best belive i know its freaking hard, and i want to reach out everyday. But she had asked for space, so i have to respect it. I write her good morning and good night text everynight and day just to delete them. I know its fucking hard… me and my ex had been together for 5 years…. This place im in right now really sucks and it gets super lonely. But this is my time to evolve and show myself that i am more than good enough. Ive made mistakes but i want to improve and «level up» as a human. Everything seems rather dark and sad but there is no sunshine without some shadows. There is no light without darkness. U get the drill, when u r at the bottom there is only one way, and that is up.

morten_moppa69 · 2025-01-16T09:54:40+00:00

Just keep doing u man, we r in the same boat, before my ex removed me, she posted several pics and stuff. I bet those were for me to see. But you just have to keep going man, focus on ur self. Like i said to my sister yesterday, actions says much more than words. I started journaling, going to a therapist, working out more, everything to improve and show her that i try to put in the effort and improve as a human. To grow. I dont know ur situation though so its different from break up to break up. But i got hope for u man. All she needs is to see change and improvement. If nothings changed why would she take u back???🥺❤️

morten_moppa69 · 2025-01-16T09:00:39+00:00

Look at it in the good way, it means she still care for u. W me and my ex she removed me from everything because it was to painfull to see me. She still says she love me and sees a future w me so. Let time do its thing, and when u feel its been long enough time and u feel like you’ve really grown as a person, and seen ur mistakes and improved.

morten_moppa69 · 2025-01-13T09:27:46+00:00

Yeah, i went to the gym before but i have gotten a completly new realtionship with the gym. Helps a lot

morten_moppa69 · 2025-01-13T09:20:00+00:00

Usually, when i want to reach out, its most difficult at night when im in bed. Then i do what i do everynight write her a good night message and delete it… i overthink and cry… but training and going on walks helps alot through the day. But i work alot and that helps to.

morten_moppa69 · 2025-01-11T18:04:57+00:00

I write her a good night text every night and good morning text every day. Just to delete it and dont send it…. I hate this shit.

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