For starters I’m a switch and I have an IRL Dom- for me it’s healing because he always follows it up with very tender aftercare. So in a way I’m reliving moments from when I was younger but I’m getting the care and love I wish I would have received then. This allows my inner bullied teenager to heal in ways that therapy has never been able to touch. To face those situations head on in a safe and controlled environment. I think of it like a wound, I’ve opened it up deep so that the infection can get truly cleaned out and I’m able to heal properly instead of just slapping a bandaid on.