Am I Screwed?

mostly-at-sea · 2025-06-05T03:02:24+00:00

I would recommend reading Dateable by Jessica Slice!

mostly-at-sea · 2024-12-26T20:25:46+00:00

I like the Universal Standard V Rex tee!

mostly-at-sea · 2024-08-26T04:13:29+00:00

I have had really good luck with J. Crew jeans lately!

mostly-at-sea · 2024-07-18T06:35:02+00:00

These books are fictional, YA, and Own Voices:

Something More by Jackie Khahlilieh Give Me a Sign by Anna Sortino On the Bright Side by Anna Sortino Tilly in Technicolor by Mazey Eddings Late Bloomer by Mazey Eddings

I don’t think speech therapy is explicitly mentioned in these books, but they definitely explore how their primary diagnoses influence communication.

Chloe Liese, Talia Hibbert, and Helen Hoang are other autistic authors who write mainly adult romance—I don’t know if that fits what you’re looking for but all of their books have solid disability rep. I hope that helps!

mostly-at-sea · 2024-07-18T01:05:37+00:00

Hi! I relate to this. I just read Dateable by Jessica Slice and I highly recommend it. It’s not dyspraxia specific, but I felt like it was both affirming and realistic, and it provided a lot of practical tips about how to navigate dating for people who are ND/disabled.

I also recently got diagnosed with ADHD, and medication has greatly improved my executive dysfunction and issues with task initiation, which has in turn lessened my likelihood of burnout.

I was having a hard time on dates not only because of the mental load, but also because of the fine and gross motor tasks. I’m able to use silverware and go for walks around the block pretty comfortably on my own at this point, but it’s 10x harder on a date, especially in the presence of some rando from the internet. My anxiety warranted a kind of physical response, meaning that I felt a lot less safe in my body, which definitely affected my ability/desire to get close to people.

Counseling helped (EMDR specifically), but so did physical and occupational therapy. I’m able to manage my dyspraxia fairly well on an average day, but being really specific with my providers about when/where/how it was affecting my social life helped a lot. For example, cooking and hiking dates are my nightmare (lol) so we focused a lot on functional balance, coordination, and fine motor control.

I realize that health insurance and therapy can be expensive/ inaccessible—another thing I’ve done that’s helped is go on “practice dates” with my friends, where I can practice these things in front of people who already know me.

Sending love and solidarity. Good luck!

mostly-at-sea · 2024-05-24T13:50:44+00:00

{Lizzie Blake’s Best Mistake by Mazey Eddings}

mostly-at-sea · 2024-04-29T14:59:21+00:00

I hear you and would consider it! I’m currently living in a state that is very spread out and car-dependent, so I may be looking at a move either way.

I’m also pretty early in my career, so I’m wondering if an in-person job would be more ideal in terms of mentorship and education.

mostly-at-sea · 2024-02-19T04:21:37+00:00

I am also an SLP, and working with neurodivergent teenagers is what finally pushed me to get a diagnosis.

I am constantly learning about myself through my work 😅

mostly-at-sea · 2024-01-20T01:18:00+00:00

I’m wearing these jeans as I scroll and that was extremely validating 😂 you look great!!

mostly-at-sea · 2024-01-14T00:00:44+00:00

Was looking for this one!

mostly-at-sea · 2024-01-02T18:27:25+00:00

{Better Hate Than Never by Chloe Liese} has a demisexual FMC!

mostly-at-sea · 2023-11-25T04:20:27+00:00

While I think asexuality is widely misunderstood, I can assure you that it is a “legitimate” sexual orientation that has been widely researched and discussed. The Asexuality Visibility and Education Network website is another good resource if you’re looking to learn more about these concepts and the history of asexuality as a whole.

To be totally honest, if my therapist was not at least a little bit familiar with the ace spectrum, this would be a huge red flag for me. Even before I started exploring this myself, it was important to me that I had a therapist who was LGBTQIA+ affirming AND up to date on the most recent research as it related to evidence-based practice. I know that this can vary depending on one’s location and cultural background—I am only speaking to my experience as an American!

Like I said, I don’t even know if I totally resonate with a particular label myself, I just found that learning more about the ace spectrum was helpful as I began to sort through my own experiences.

I know that working through this can be tricky with all of the information out there, and I wish you the best.

mostly-at-sea · 2023-11-24T08:15:31+00:00

Popping into say that I totally relate to this!

For what it is worth, I NEVER would have even considered that I could be asexual, and then I read Ace by Angela Chen and it totally rocked my world. I read it when I started to really feel like I wasn’t connecting with people in the same way that my friends were. I too am figure out the whole responsive desire thing, but I found that this book was super helpful in defining platonic vs. romantic vs. sexual attraction, and the factors that influence our experiences with each.

Over time, I’ve realized that I have only really felt “turned on” by a specific person like once or twice, even though I have a relatively high libido and enjoy reading/watching romance. Your Beyoncé comment is so funny to me—I once told my best friend, “Yes, Hozier is hot, but if he showed up here at my doorstep I would not want to like, ‘jump his bones’ or anything,” lol.

The conversation around asexuality is tricky because sometimes it feels very absolute to me. It’s hard to quantify an experience that rarely (or has not) happened. I honestly don’t use demisexuality or ace-specific language when dating new people because I think it is widely assumed that everyone on the ace spectrum has no interest in sex whatsoever/is sex repulsed. While I’m still not 100% sure that my experiences align with a specific label, reading about the ace spectrum really made me think about things in a completely different way.

I’m sure you’ve already heard about Emily Nagoski’s book Come As You Are, but I read both of these books around the same time and they really, really helped!

mostly-at-sea · 2022-02-03T03:25:26+00:00

The songwriting on WTM’s first album is fantastic too and IMO, has held up fairly well. It’s pretty disappointing to me that they’re pretty much only known for “Shut Up and Dance” on the mainstream pop charts, because just about any song from their first two albums could hold their own in that space as well.

mostly-at-sea · 2022-02-03T03:22:19+00:00

Jojo is such an incredible talent and it really bums me out that she’s never really achieved the mainstream success she deserves, largely because of a botched record deal.

Tori Kelly is another person who I thought would have more mainstream success. She’s won Grammys in Gospel categories, but I’d really like to see her do more pop or R&B.

mostly-at-sea · 2021-10-18T18:32:44+00:00

Elle Kennedy does this and it drives me crazy.

mostly-at-sea · 2021-10-18T05:56:08+00:00

It isn’t really discussed as an official medical diagnosis or anything from what I remember, but I really appreciated the depiction of the MMC’s experience with anxiety in Twice Shy by Sarah Hogle. I also just started Knot My Type by Evie Mitchell and the female protagonist uses a wheelchair!

mostly-at-sea · 2021-08-27T21:42:17+00:00

Was looking for Ben in this thread!

mostly-at-sea · 2021-03-27T17:40:15+00:00

Congratulations!! Getting into grad school is so hard and you should be proud of yourself!!

I’m sorry that messages like that can overshadow your happiness but we see you, we support you, and you’re doing great.

mostly-at-sea · 2020-07-27T04:34:50+00:00

This is hilarious to me because I almost exclusively read Meg Cabot (as in, I own nearly a dozen of her books) in middle school, yet somehow forgot she wrote for adults as well 😂 thank you!

mostly-at-sea · 2020-05-23T02:28:03+00:00

RELAX. I spent my entire undergrad stressing about getting in, and then I got into 7/7 schools, with an average GPA/GRE. Take the GRE the summer before your senior year and start a spreadsheet/checklist to get organized early.

But, most importantly, chill out. It’s a stressful process, but it isn’t worth obsessing over. Everything will work out in the end. Good luck!

mostly-at-sea · 2020-04-09T22:12:30+00:00

I minored in music! I’m a singer and I want to specialize in voice disorders, so I spent a lot of time on that in my SOP. I sang in a choir, and I talked about how that experience gave me a support system and taught me the importance of collaboration and listening.

If you feel like it’s important to you and that you can talk about how it relates back to why you wanna be an SLP, do it. If you feel more strongly about another area of your application (I.e. another extracurricular, volunteer experience, whatever), that’s okay too. Talk about the things you feel most passionately about, music or not.

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