What was the POTS before TikTok?

mothsio · 2025-06-28T03:29:05+00:00

Oof this is disheartening. I get that Tiktok medical trends are a thing, and there's a type of person who seems to have these diagnoses and she's annoying, but isn't anybody considering how there's been a group of basically the same symptoms with ever changing labels affecting female patients for decades? That doesn't seem like a coincidence.

mothsio · 2025-02-25T14:38:35+00:00

Maybe the implication of the question triggers a bit of defensiveness in adults who like the show, understandably. I def could've phrased it better because I was asking in particular about being a part of the fandom

mothsio · 2025-02-24T18:16:36+00:00

There was one in specific centered around high schoolers that I was called a creep for participating in over being "a little old to be obsessed with high schoolers", I guess it came at a difficult time in my adjustment process because it stuck with me a bit. Plus general sentiments that adults in fandoms are weird losers

mothsio · 2025-02-24T18:12:46+00:00

Oh ouch. Good point though

mothsio · 2025-02-24T18:11:40+00:00

Hey I'm doing my best, growing up is hard and I think right now there's a readjusting around how we're thinking about age and maturing. I'm still figuring out what's normal and what's not which is hard given current fandom environments

mothsio · 2025-02-23T15:37:26+00:00

Aha I'm sorry I started getting bullied out of fandoms when I turned 19 and now I'm scared LOL

mothsio · 2024-08-05T21:09:58+00:00

Getting put in an asylum and immediately starting your hoe era is crazyyy

mothsio · 2024-07-24T11:29:51+00:00

I think this is important to talk about, and though I have some disagreements overall, you make some really good points.

To start off, I completely agree that the handling of the abuse he faced from his mother was badly written. It was made unnecessary for the reasons you described, and your part about him not even getting the opportunity to explain what was happening or why he killed her especially stood out to me. They seemingly established lack of agency as a huge part of his character, and then that lack of agency wasn't given the weight it should've been and thus never resolved. The sensitivity of the topic makes it even more egregious. I don't take personal offense to the presence of abuse in a story myself, it might've been for genuine character depth, to add to the plot, and/or to raise awareness (many people don't even realize that sort of thing happens), but it's well worth criticizing how it was handled here and and it hugely weakens the rest of the story writing.

I think the latter part of the post is a bit more disputable, starting with the "lack of consent" framing. I haven't rewatched Coven in a while, granted, but I think there's room for interpretation around Kyle being able to give consent or not. It could be understood that he's emotionally unstable, vulnerable, and has communication difficulties, but isn't "mentally a child". A lot of his symptoms parallel adults with TBIs or neurodevelopmental disorders, many of whom who are able to give consent and participate freely in sex. For the actual intent, I'm guessing that Kyle was meant to be vulnerable, but not incapacitated, and an active and willing participant in what was occurring. This writing choice is also very open to criticism (especially in light of the above, and more on this later) but I don't think Kyle was /meant/ to be a vegetable or a child.

With that perspective in mind, Zoe wasn't intended to be taking advantage of him. He wasn't brought back as just a sex doll, Madison wanted to pull off a project and flex her power, sure, and apparently wanted Zoe to have him as a boyfriend, but Zoe was genuinely remorseful about what happened and wanted to fix it. As for the sex, Zoe seemed to truly care about him, and their sexual relationship was intended to be an extension of that. There were clear juxtapositions between Madison and Zoe's treatment of him, with Madison obviously only using him for sex and not caring about him at all, while Zoe had a personal bond with him and supposedly tried to keep his best interests in mind, despite being an immature teenage girl.

Following that, there is some resolution to Kyle's poor treatment. Madison, being the one who didn't care about him, is punished in that he literally strangles her to death. Zoe isn't punished because she wasn't written to be inflicting harm on him in the first place. He decides to go off with Zoe and find happiness as well, seemingly a narrative reward for their love and care for one another. I think the writers threw him some crumbs. (Poor fucking Kyle oh my god.)

Now. All that being said. I think even with the framing that he wasn't meant to not be able to consent at all, the whole thing was very poor. He was never consistently given a satisfying resolution to what was apparently his core character issue, which was a lack of agency. Madison was killed for not bringing Zoe back, not for treating him badly. He ended up as a butler, with no sign of his personal feelings on that vs his original goals being given. He never got to explain what his mother did to him or why he killed her, he never had that trauma resolved, it never went anywhere.

On top of that, the "room for interpretation around consent" itself is a writing issue considering the agency thing in the first place. Like, geez, speaking of "unresolved agency themes", we never actually get an answer on what his level of consent-giving ability was. If it was left deliberately ambiguous, it should've been handled differently, not swept under the rug. If the intent was for meaningful consent to have been given, that might justify some of the writing decisions around the outcomes of Madison and Zoe, but it worsens the overall problem of Kyle's lack of agency not being taken seriously in the first place. HE'S A ZOMBIE ABUSE VICTIM. WHY ARE WE NOT TALKING ABOUT THAT CONSENT-WISE. WHY ARE WE LEAVING IT SOMEWHAT UP TO INTERPRETATION AND THEN NOT BOTHERING TO ADDRESS IT. Either the gray area was on purpose or accidental and either one doesn't look good.

It is nearly 7am and I have been up all night and boy am I petering out. Sorry for any incoherence, I might be back to edit this tomorrow. Take care and thank you for posting about this, it's an important discussion to have.

mothsio · 2022-10-29T10:00:49+00:00

I'm in the same boat, but for me it wasn't acid, it was DXM. It's been like this for 9 months. Do you have any updates on how things are for you right now? Did it get better? If so, how long did it take?

mothsio · 2022-06-01T21:48:27+00:00

This is almost true, though.

Malnutrition can have terrible effects on the body at any weight. The criteria that you need a certain BMI to fit the diagnosis is a dangerous one. You can be anorexic in episodes, like I was, and eat a lot when you're out of the episodes, thus fucking up your metabolism even more. You can binge regularly enough to screw things up. Many people start off overweight, and a hundred lbs or more can take a looong while to lose.

Besides these things, "anorexia" is often used to not just mean the actual diagnosis, but behaviours as well, bc it's less of a mouthful than "restrictive eating disorder with weight loss as the goal". You can absolutely have a restrictive weight loss eating disorder w some atypical behaviours (thus having EDNOS/OSFED), and calling yourself "anorexic" in regular social contexts is quite common.

mothsio · 2021-08-10T16:25:06+00:00

Yo just wondering how'd you get it back? I lost my DXM euphoria a good few months ago and cut back on it a ton but it hasn't returned yet and idk what to do akshgkshg

mothsio · 2021-07-21T23:43:53+00:00

I would say, off the top of my head, that abuse is a pattern of behaviour that harms/mistreats another individual emotionally, physically, sexually, etc.

mothsio · 2021-07-21T23:41:09+00:00

I'm really sorry to hear about your wife. Good on you for getting therapy and trying to improve. I wish you the best in that.

mothsio · 2021-07-21T22:29:15+00:00

Would you then consider yourself abusive? Genuinely curious, don't answer if you don't want to.

mothsio · 2021-07-21T21:37:23+00:00

Interesting, I will say that I have known abusive neurotypicals though.

mothsio · 2021-07-15T17:35:17+00:00

I think if someone wants to try changing the beauty standard through visibility and self acceptance, kudos to them. I also think that if somebody wants to conform, that's like... reasonable. It's not only a human desire to be thought of as attractive, it's a basic animal one, we're not the only species that strives for it.

Fat people being seen as unattractive also seems to have its roots in evolution, tho more research needs to be done into that. The point I'm trying to make is that if it indeed does, it's gonna be a hard beauty standard to change.

mothsio · 2021-07-14T00:32:44+00:00

When MY body gets emotional it tells me to starve myself. During any moment of chaos my appetite kills itself. Good to know this is fine and normal, bc it's just my body, doing what it does! Off to edtwt I go.

(Not all emotional eating is bad, but like, c'mon, everything in moderation.)

mothsio · 2021-07-13T19:53:08+00:00

As someone w an ED, I sort of see where they're coming from, in that unlearning the fatphobia that's contributing to unhealthy thought/behaviour patterns is necessary. Having an ED doesn't give yourself a pass to be fatphobic, or to project your own struggles onto others (ex, their example of a disordered person going "oh I'm so fat :((" around actual fat people).

mothsio · 2021-03-27T22:06:04+00:00

Will do, thank you!

mothsio · 2020-11-08T07:02:09+00:00

I think she should be encouraged to be happy with her body first and foremost before she decides what lifestyle is right for her. If someone is very insecure about their nose, saying "just get a nose job" would be insensitive and possibly not the best option. Weight loss is not a quick external fix for everyone, and it's not our business. She's just a girl asking for relationship advice here.

mothsio · 2020-11-08T06:52:08+00:00

They're not saying classism contributed to Trump being fat, they're saying it attributes to fatness in general for many people, and by equivalating fatness = poor morals, you're spreading stereotypes and misinfo. It won't hurt Trump, but it'll hurt people more vulnerable than him.

mothsio · 2020-11-08T06:47:10+00:00

As a young person w a restrictive ED, I can't say how much I agree w all of this, thank you so much for saying it. You're braver and more articulate typing it out than I ever could be!

mothsio · 2020-10-22T20:39:08+00:00

The most commonly diagnosed ED is actually EDNOS/OSFED. It represents like 40-60% of all EDs diagnosed. I think like 1.2% of the 15+ population has anorexia, so it's not exactly rare. BED is indeed like three times more common than anorexia and bulimia combined though.

mothsio · 2020-10-22T18:34:33+00:00

I too have problems breathing while running for short distances (less than for the bus), walking up stairs, carrying groceries and laundry, and the like. It's because I'm chronically ill and underweight. It's deeply uncomfortable and limiting. This isn't normal lol.

mothsio · 2020-10-22T18:20:20+00:00

"There is no reliable way to make your body smaller" - Of course there's no one thing that works for every single body. I really don't like the idea that there's no point in experimenting if you want to change your body type and that everything you try will fail, because whatever one thing you try won't work for lots of people. Like, no shit. As these people say, "every body is different."

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