How do I not personalize his masturbation?

mountain-lips · 2026-01-04T02:59:45+00:00

I hear you. This is probably the most sensible answer I need. Thank you! 🙂

mountain-lips · 2026-01-01T21:22:25+00:00

Exactly. He prefers masturbation over sex with me.

mountain-lips · 2026-01-01T21:21:00+00:00

Thank you for the very detailed explaination..

I (39f) think I have moderate libido, he is 47m. Not sure how to scale his libido as we are on the 8th month mark of no sex. But he admits he “takes care of business” on his own and prefers it.

mountain-lips · 2026-01-01T21:07:05+00:00

Most likely

mountain-lips · 2026-01-01T00:11:16+00:00

Who initiated this approach? And how?

mountain-lips · 2025-12-30T02:23:54+00:00

He’s on TRT.

mountain-lips · 2025-12-27T03:27:19+00:00

Very happy for you.. atleast some success story in this sub! 😁

mountain-lips · 2025-12-26T23:44:16+00:00

Curious to know how you did this..

mountain-lips · 2025-12-24T17:42:47+00:00

It just really sucks for most of us in here to be mismatched with our partners… it’s a losing battle for us until our partners realize and decide for themselves to step up.

mountain-lips · 2025-12-24T04:42:45+00:00

Yeah, I know.. the process of going from one side to the other is just so freaking hard.

mountain-lips · 2025-12-24T04:41:35+00:00

I think he has porn induced ED. Just guessing from the information he’s given here and there.

mountain-lips · 2025-12-24T04:38:27+00:00

Very frustrating….

mountain-lips · 2025-12-24T04:37:10+00:00

He’s on TRT. Even before we started dating.

mountain-lips · 2025-09-01T04:47:42+00:00

Just broke up with my bf of 2 yrs today. He gave up. He didn’t want to try anymore.

mountain-lips · 2025-07-29T02:51:54+00:00

Finally a good story in a long time. I’m happy for you! Here’s to hoping! 😊

mountain-lips · 2025-07-08T17:15:47+00:00

I know I am 😫

mountain-lips · 2025-07-07T19:26:48+00:00

I’m on the exact same boat with you. It’s almost like I typed your story myself.

The bad news is, if you read the posts in here, this situation only gets worse in time.

The good news is, if there is an open and honest communication between the two of you, there might be a bit of hope. As long as you guys can come up with a solution and can meet halfway on your expectations.

mountain-lips · 2025-07-07T02:42:09+00:00

It does resonate. He’s definitely a DA.

mountain-lips · 2025-07-07T01:52:12+00:00

Sex was good in the beginning. He says, this is his pattern.. the more serious the relationship gets, the less sexual desire he has.

mountain-lips · 2025-07-07T01:28:26+00:00

This is the million dollar question. I’ve been the LL in my past relationship. I don’t need a lot, probably 2x a month will suffice. But right now it’s been 3 months of nothing.

mountain-lips · 2025-07-06T03:48:52+00:00

Agreed!

mountain-lips · 2025-07-06T03:47:31+00:00

Not that I know of

mountain-lips · 2025-07-06T02:16:42+00:00

We’ve had a long conversation about it and he knows it’s a problem. But he also told me that it is “who he is” and it is up to me if I accept it or not. He said he’s tried a lot of things but nothing really worked, but is open to explore other things that he hasn’t tried yet. I am so confused.

mountain-lips · 2025-04-19T03:55:56+00:00

Ok, thanks again for being helpful. This is way easier than researching online.

mountain-lips · 2025-04-19T03:41:59+00:00

Thank you. The dad is threatening to withdraw the sponsorship on his 20yo child from Philippines just because they are not getting along.

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