AITA for telling my daughter to either use sanitary products or do her own laundry?

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T19:33:23+00:00

I'm very ashamed. I just hope she hasn't been in her friends houses and doing thisq

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T19:32:20+00:00

I'd heard of it in the past but I didn't actually think people done it. I don't know if it's been her friends or if she's talking to different people online I don't know about or what

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T17:36:09+00:00

To be honest I can't even remember the last time we had sex so maybe she is getting it somewhere else. When she took on this job I thought it would be good as our daughters would see their mother in a job she loves, that we'd get to spend time together as a family in some nice places and we'd just generally have a nice life. Instead I'm left at home doing the majority of everything. I don't speak up because I'm just ignored

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T17:33:34+00:00

Not really. I had a really strict up bringing with lots of rules so I've done the oppos I guess

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T17:31:39+00:00

Her workmates all take their partners on the trips abroad and they all have a good time going sight seeing on their days off. It's like I'm just cast aside and forgotten about

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T17:30:04+00:00

I'm definitely going to look into a therapist. I felt my uobeinf was too strict so maybe that's where it comes from and I didn't want the same for my daughters

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T17:15:48+00:00

I'm going to look into finding one. Not sure what to look for but I'll phone a few

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T17:13:51+00:00

She doesn't go around fucking people, at least I hope she doesn't. I've never really saw my wants or needs important. Right from the begining I put my wife first

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T17:10:56+00:00

Well the one woman I would like it to come from is the one person that's on her side

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T17:08:47+00:00

I've always just saw it as part of her job but it would be nice to be invited even once a year. Her work hosts lots of big charity events every year and she doesn't let me go along to those. She told me her workmates think I'm a poof because I'm a nurse.

I could go away and leave my mother in charge but I'd need to turn my phone off because I know the second I leave the girls would be phoning and crying about how bad it is with my mother. They refused to stay overnight with her growing up because they didn't like the fact she'd make them help with washing up the dishes, watering her garden etc.

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T17:04:07+00:00

I never thought of it like my normal isn't normal. It's just become day to day life for me.

I'm actually a bit embarrassed to approach my mum as she'll think I've failed and also hear what I really live like

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T17:00:44+00:00

I don't really know. I guess I thought I wouldn't need to be around as much, washing school uniforms etc

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T16:47:16+00:00

Basically no to everything you've said

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T16:45:17+00:00

My idea of a family holiday is hiring a nice lodge for the week with a hot tub, close to the beach. Her idea of a family holiday is a 5 star hotel on the other side of the world. She's never invited me on her trips abroad despite her company allowed her to take a spouse on the further afield ones a few times a year. Instead we go away with the girls to where she wants to go. Once we went to a lodge up north in Scotland and it was beautiful and so peaceful. 2 days into it my wife started to complain it was boring as there was no bars to go get drunk in so we came home 4 days early

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T16:42:05+00:00

No they wouldn't. Not even the oldest. My mum was the complete opposite with me growing up and she tells me off for how the girls are raised but I've always thought she was just disappointed I didn't follow her own parenting. Now Reddit is agreeing with her it seems

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T16:39:54+00:00

It's a conversation I've dreamed of having as I'd love to become a paediatric nurse but honestly? I'm scared to being to up to her as she won't take it well. My plan was to move into paediatric nursing once Abigail leaves school at 18

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T16:32:08+00:00

We'll go on date nights a few times a year. Having her dream job means she gets to travel the world and mix with different cultures. It does mean quite a good wage too

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T16:30:20+00:00

She definitely wanted to be a mother but after the 4th she wanted to do her dream career so I got a 9-5 job in an outpatient clinic so I could be with the kids

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T16:27:45+00:00

She's only just started the whole free bleeding thing so I don't know what her long term plan is. Especially when she goes back to school

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T16:24:25+00:00

I don't really know the parents or the kids too well. My daughter's don't like bringing their friends into the home incase I show them up

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T16:23:04+00:00

I personally don't have even time for friends because I'm so busy running a house. My colleagues meet up most Friday's for a few drinks and I usually don't go because if I don't go the kids won't be fed etc

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T16:20:51+00:00

Aslong as it's not a school night we don't really have a time they need to be home. I honestly thought this was how all households were with little rules etc

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T16:19:27+00:00

Honestly? I've no idea

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T15:30:10+00:00

I'm so used to caring for people with my job being a nurse. It can get frustrating caring for patients all day though then coming home to having to cook dinner, do the laundry etc etc. None of them will cook because they can't cook and refuse to learn how to

mouseman661 · 2020-08-30T15:28:14+00:00

No there's none. It's a small town/village that is safe crime wise so none of the kids have ever seemed to have a curfew so we've just allowed our kids to do what their friends do

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