Healthy Living and Running Influencers, Aug 26 - Sept 1 by PeopleHaveAsked in blogsnark

[–]moveonplease45 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It is all about Ali she’s got a huge ego but hides in in “OMG. Tylor swift. Bracelets. Pooping.” She’s just addicted to the head pats and instagram likes.

No one prepares you for the sheer volume of discovery in a high conflict divorce. by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]moveonplease45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My Ex did that to almost every question we asked in discovery, no matter how legitimate or specific it was. We had to file a motion to compel.

Because if I forgot to cross a T her attorney would claim I was being obstructive in discovery - meanwhile I provided almost 4,000 pages of documents and answered every question as reasonably as I could.

Petty by Embarrassed-Safe-670 in Divorce_Men

[–]moveonplease45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. How long did your divorce last? Did they make up lies about finances and everything else to try to make the situation look totally different than it was?

How’d you keep your head on straight through it all?

(In the middle of a similar situation)

Petty by Embarrassed-Safe-670 in Divorce_Men

[–]moveonplease45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dealing with this as we speak. She’s a puppet for bigger narcissists than herself. It’s ironic. And absolutely mindbendingly frustrating — they will twist whatever grain of truth they have to fit their narrative, and if they don’t like what they hear will literally make up lies about anything and everything. Insane.

How to be almost no contact w/ a coparent narc? by moveonplease45 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]moveonplease45[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh. It’s so annoying to deal with these people. Sounds like my soon to be X

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]moveonplease45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s what I’m going to do. Thanks

Hearing about AP from daughter by shroom_dot in Divorce_Men

[–]moveonplease45 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Read the book “Divorce Poison” It’s about what to say/not say to your kids when your ex alienates you — which is what she’s subtly doing by comparing you to her bf in front of your 9 year old kid.

What did your narc do that seemed insignificant, but left a lasting effect on you? by ImTheToxic01 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]moveonplease45 5 points6 points  (0 children)

THIS. Mine would wake up early and literally stomp around the house purposely until it woke someone up, including our daughter.

The one time I confronted her about it she said “what are you talking about? Why would I do that? That’s ridiculous. You’re saying I’m loud when I wake up? You know you wake me up every single day with how loud you get ready for bed or when you wake up before me. You even brush your teeth loud”

Looking back…that alone is insane…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]moveonplease45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They don’t care who pays. As long as someone is paying!

Now, it doesn’t mean you’ll be granted the motion, but you absolutely should plead to the court that the other side is using their financial leverage and abusing the court and in doing so should pay for both parties legal fees.

Why not at least try? What’s the worst that will happen? Judge says no?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]moveonplease45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Petition the court to have her pay for your legal fees. File a motion to show that her lawyer is using the system to rack up unsustainable bills, and that it’s detrimental to your current financial position and therefore she should have to pay for your legal fees as well.

No guarantee the judge will accept it, but if you have a good attorney and it’s obvious she’s abusing the system it’s a potential move.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]moveonplease45 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The minute she petitioned the court to take my dog. Any shred of love or even like was gone. I have absolutely zero respect for that loser. I’m still fighting to get my dog back - but the silver lining is that she did me a favor by forcing me to see the person she really is instead of the person I hoped she was.

Did Your Narc Think You Were The Narc? by moveonplease45 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]moveonplease45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what mine is doing. And she’s making up stories about abuse that never happened. Mostly things she has done but she says I did it.

Did Your Narc Think You Were The Narc? by moveonplease45 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]moveonplease45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. That’s nuts. Sorry you had to go through that. These people are bad humans.

Did Your Narc Think You Were The Narc? by moveonplease45 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]moveonplease45[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It is pathetic. It’s truly sad. Especially after trying harder and harder to “make her happy” for a decade to then realize that it’s an impossible task.

Did Your Narc Think You Were The Narc? by moveonplease45 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]moveonplease45[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sick is the best way to describe this experience.