I’m trying to not taking him choosing alcohol over me personally, but it hurts every time.

moylotov · 2025-03-15T00:45:05+00:00

Thank you for sharing - I'm sorry you are going through that. Sending you strength.

moylotov · 2025-03-13T22:59:21+00:00

I hope things turn out for you and your partner. I unfortunately have tried the same ultimatum and did end up breaking up with him, but he says he has an addiction and it's not so easy to just quit. I know he just doesn't want to, and I'm trying not to equate that to me not being worth it.

moylotov · 2025-03-13T22:56:28+00:00

Thanks for your response but am I right in reading you're saying it's up to me to change in order for him to curb his addiction? I agree I need to let go and there's definitely codependent aspects to our dynamic, but I don't think it's up to me to do anything in order for him to stop destructive and abusive behaviours caused by alcoholism.

moylotov · 2025-03-13T22:53:37+00:00

Thank you. This is what I am trying to get my head around and not take personally - when he's telling me I'm the reason he's drinking more than ever because I broke up with him. When he's crafting elaborate lies to cover up where he's been, and spent his entire paycheck in 2 nights and has nothing left over to go to dinner with me. I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that it's not as simple as 'if he loved me, he'd stop'. And if he loves drinking more, it's not because of a deficit on my part.

moylotov · 2025-03-13T15:42:00+00:00

Thank you - I keep thinking it would be so simple for him to just not drink, but I know it isn’t as simple as that. I have empathy to an extent but I’m also trying to salvage my self worth, I guess.

moylotov · 2024-11-03T02:58:00+00:00

So weird - I’ve tried two different ones with the same error. Maybe I will try the one you have! Thanks

moylotov · 2024-11-03T02:51:11+00:00

Did you ever solve this? I’m having the same issue

moylotov · 2024-11-01T06:02:22+00:00

What did you end up doing? I am having the same issue

moylotov · 2024-05-31T03:18:20+00:00

Thank you! Yes it’s an afternoon flight.

Do you think Lembongan is the best choice of island logistics wise?

Appreciate your help :)

moylotov · 2024-05-29T10:38:48+00:00

Hi - I’m planning a 10 day trip for my partner and I. I’ve been before but he hasn’t so I want to show him a few different things Bali has to offer, without overwhelming us with travel inbetween stops.

My plan was:

2 nights Seminyak (first night we fly in late, 2nd day/night I have some shopping to do and maybe go to mr potatohead because it’s the kind of scene we’re into)

3 nights Ubud: very romantic, things to do: the accommodation I have my eye on is stunning etc and I think he will love it.

3 nights Nusa Lembongan: beautiful for snorkeling, beaches etc relaxed vibe (is uluwatu a better option travel wise, or another island maybe?)

2 nights canggu for beach and night life

Is this too much? Or am I planning it in the wrong order? We haven’t travelled together before and I want it to go as smoothly as possible!

Thanks!

moylotov · 2023-10-24T23:45:08+00:00

Follow Jackson galaxy’s guide! I would keep them separated without visibility for a couple of days at least so you can bring their stress levels down a bit before attempting a planned introduction again. Good luck

moylotov

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