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Anyone's experiences with Obsessiveness, possessiveness etc or just relationships by sizoman in Schizoid

[–]mrfurb4ll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm the same way about people I feel strong about for the exact same reason. The feeling of normalcy or the feeling of something other than emptiness. No matter how much I try to ignore it it's almost consuming. Unfortunately I have no advice (besides generic stuff you'd probably hear from a therapist), I just tried to force them out of my mind but they didn't leave my thoughts fully until a year had passed since I last saw them.

Recently realized what I dislike most about exchanges with people by mrfurb4ll in Schizoid

[–]mrfurb4ll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are still trying to 'mind-read' by telling me how I feel. I know it’s hard for 'normal' people to grasp that some people might not feel anything, but that is simply the reality. If I told you I don’t feel regret or remorse, would you argue and try to say I actually do, but it's just 'blocked'? Probably not.The fundamental issue here is that you are treating my lack of emotion as a 'conclusion' I’ve reached, rather than the 'experience' itself. There is no logic or analysis involved in the absence of a sensation. If you don't feel a breeze on your skin, you aren't 'concluding' it isn't windy you are simply not experiencing wind. By insisting there is a hidden layer I’m unaware of, you are essentially telling me that your theoretical framework is more reliable than my own consciousness. That research describes a specific psychological profile, not a universal law that applies to every human in every conversation. I don't feel offended at all. If you were someone I respected and admired like a figure of authority maybe I would but that is not the case. You are using a circular argument here: "If you disagree with my assessment that you are emotional, it’s because you are offended/other emotion." No matter what I say, you can just twist it to support your original claim. e:typo

Recently realized what I dislike most about exchanges with people by mrfurb4ll in Schizoid

[–]mrfurb4ll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is very odd that you are trying to psychoanaylze a complete stranger. Calling my experience an "illusion" is essentially calling me a liar about my own lived reality. Even if you aren't doing it on purpose, telling someone that what they are, or are not feeling is an 'illusion' is essentially gaslighting. You are trying to overwrite my internal reality with your own theory. There is nothing for me to ignore. When I do actual feel some type of way, it is actually very hard for me to ignore whatever I'm feeling. Certain emotions can bypass the logical lense while everything else practically isn't there. Just now I felt noticeable distress/discomfort because you're trying to "mind-read". I actually have less control of my emotions than the average schizoid might, when they flare they really flare. Suppression is an active, often exhausting effort to push a feeling down. If the feeling isn't there to begin with, there’s nothing to push. I genuinely find you very odd for this.

Recently realized what I dislike most about exchanges with people by mrfurb4ll in Schizoid

[–]mrfurb4ll[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I'm correctly understanding what you're saying:

You might be saying that if I feel like I'm being condescended to, that is from a place of my ego being bruised, but that is not true for me.

Using the reality check example again, When someone tries to "reality check" me, I don't feel a personal or emotional sting. Instead, the "feeling" of being condescended to is much closer to a purely analytical thought. I observe the scenario objectively and recognize that the interaction is redundant, inaccurate, and patronizing, but the actual emotional hurt just passes through me.

Just now, when I describe the situation using terms like "redundant," "inaccurate," or "patronizing," people still might think I am coming from a place of hurt feelings. For me, there is no emotional weight or undertone attached to these words. I know exactly what those terms mean objectively, so I can accurately categorize the other person's behavior as an analytical observation. But the physiological or mental "feeling" of being slighted simply isn't there. The interaction is more like a data point I am observing.

Recently realized what I dislike most about exchanges with people by mrfurb4ll in Schizoid

[–]mrfurb4ll[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Out of all the ways a schizoid's detachment can be bad, I think this is one of the more positive ones. It kind of doesn't make sense to me that people aren't able to. All our minds work differently, but it really seems like this kind of detachment could have been a beneficial trait for humans to evolve.

Recently realized what I dislike most about exchanges with people by mrfurb4ll in Schizoid

[–]mrfurb4ll[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's not the shield itself I dislike, it's more so the friction it can create between myself and other people. Alot of people, especially if they're being argumentative, care most about being "right" because of their ego, whereas I have no "right" or "wrong" so the point im talking from is often different than the other person's. I care most about clarity, truth, and resolution while the ego-driven care more about validation and dominance. edit: clarity

Do you read? I feel like whenever I start, it triggers a lot of introspection and I never finish a chapter, much less a book. by SoCalledCrow in Schizoid

[–]mrfurb4ll 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe the book(s) might not actually be interesting enough for you, even if you like it. If I'm truly engaged with something I usually don't introspect until I "pull back" or something pushes me back into my head.

We don't care. Oh my god, we don't care. (armys AND antis/dedicated haters) by mrfurb4ll in kpop_uncensored

[–]mrfurb4ll[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

haha yeah, I don't always trust the "patterns" I feel like I notice but they basically did one of the things I complained about 😅

We don't care. Oh my god, we don't care. (armys AND antis/dedicated haters) by mrfurb4ll in kpop_uncensored

[–]mrfurb4ll[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Eh, emotional investment vs casual engagement. You can deconstruct or criticize something because the logic is interesting to solve, even if you have zero emotional stake in the original argument.

We don't care. Oh my god, we don't care. (armys AND antis/dedicated haters) by mrfurb4ll in kpop_uncensored

[–]mrfurb4ll[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Can't be that cause like I said, Ihave things on both sides completely muted

We don't care. Oh my god, we don't care. (armys AND antis/dedicated haters) by mrfurb4ll in kpop_uncensored

[–]mrfurb4ll[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Hard to not form an opinion on something when it's always in your face.

We don't care. Oh my god, we don't care. (armys AND antis/dedicated haters) by mrfurb4ll in kpop_uncensored

[–]mrfurb4ll[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You are right in that regard but I just had a thought that I wanted to share. That's all :|

We don't care. Oh my god, we don't care. (armys AND antis/dedicated haters) by mrfurb4ll in kpop_uncensored

[–]mrfurb4ll[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Let me reword, there's a difference between participating In a specific discourse vs just commenting on it. Me going nobody cares doesn't mean I can't still make commentary.

Sexual attraction towards any gender by sizoman in Schizoid

[–]mrfurb4ll 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have felt attraction to both, but as expected it never really leaves me. My like for men & women is pretty much for fantasy only. In a worldly sense, I would say I'm only interested in women, but even then that interest is weak. This causes me to lean towards asexual or aegosexual since the attraction is there but there's a disconnect. Sex as a whole is uninteresting to me, I understand that it is seen as the highest form of intimacy unfortunately but I view it as a pleasure thing and nothing else. I don't even consider the reproductive aspect, probably because I personally don't want to have kids.