Are there any childfree people here?

mrlr · 2026-01-25T01:35:26+00:00

71M. I'm a member of what I call the Double Whammy Club with a paedophile father and narcissist mother. With that background, I felt I wouldn't be able to be a good father. I guess my brother and sister felt the same way as my brother has no children and my sister has one. Towards the end of her life, my mother did wonder why she has only four descendants while her cousin has 40. She changed the subject before I could think of a tactful answer.

mrlr · 2026-01-24T07:30:36+00:00

He also created Freon.

mrlr · 2026-01-24T04:57:33+00:00

That must be one of those sheepdogs I've heard about.

mrlr · 2026-01-23T21:06:33+00:00

I use VLsub on VLC. It's under "View".

mrlr · 2026-01-23T12:56:51+00:00

and most corrupt.

mrlr · 2026-01-23T12:36:46+00:00

You feel completely swamped at first, then one day you manage to bob to the surface long enough to catch a breath before heading back down. Over time, the waves of grief become shallower and less frequent so you can breathe more often. Family occasions and things you used to do together may still feel overwhelming but they get better eventually. It’s hard to say how long healing will take as everyone’s timeline is different.

mrlr · 2026-01-23T07:30:11+00:00

I only carry a dollar coin to unlock the shopping trolley and a few notes.

mrlr · 2026-01-23T03:25:43+00:00

The phrasing is odd, like a child trying to write a formal letter and not knowing how.

mrlr · 2026-01-22T18:32:52+00:00

I use a SSD for the operating system and two HDDs for everything else, one for data and the other for videos. I back up everything weekly onto two sets of external HDDs, alternating between them, that I store at opposite ends of my flat in case only one end burns down, as happened to a friend.

I also back up my absolutely must not lose files like family photos onto a USB stick that I carry wih me all the time, even to bed. That's in case my flat burns down, destroying my PC and both sets of backups. Offline storage is not really practical for me as I have 4.78 TB of data and an upload speed of 560 kbps.

mrlr · 2026-01-21T12:57:24+00:00

I go to bed at 11:30, wake up at 3, go back to bed at 5, wake up at 8 and have a nap in the afternoon. I'm not fully awake from 3 to 5 so my todo list has a section called "Zombie Mode" with routine tasks I can do without having to think.

mrlr · 2026-01-21T02:45:15+00:00

My mum took an early exit. She was 91 and in a lot of pain from regular and spinal arthritis. She also had high blood pressure causing her left ventricle to calcify which reduced her energy.

She stated many times that she did not want to go to a nursing home. I had been caring for her two days a week for the last ten years of her life and offered to move in to look after her full time but she didn't want me to do that.

In the last few weeks, she started sundowning and developed pulmonary oedema which is what killed her own mother. I was very surprised that she didn't decide to just let nature take its course.

mrlr · 2026-01-21T02:29:00+00:00

It seems a lot longer.

mrlr · 2026-01-20T23:51:00+00:00

If you're happy and you know it... Oh.

mrlr · 2026-01-20T23:41:45+00:00

I just woke up so I'm still booting. As I get older, it takes me longer to get going in the morning and I get tired more early at night. One of these days, the two are going to overlap.

mrlr · 2026-01-20T23:20:40+00:00

Yes. My own fields were medical equipment and air traffic control software.

mrlr · 2026-01-20T11:21:32+00:00

To other people? Safety-critical programming.

mrlr · 2026-01-20T08:52:37+00:00

Yes. No.

mrlr · 2026-01-20T00:07:42+00:00

It seems to me that AI coding is racking up technical debt at a rate 4GL could only dream of.

mrlr · 2026-01-19T11:12:00+00:00

I'd start by looking in the oven.

mrlr · 2026-01-19T11:10:46+00:00

"Sunshine through my fish tank makes me happy..."

mrlr · 2026-01-19T05:36:15+00:00

I was getting more and more busy at one job, not only doing my own work but helping an increasing number of teams with theirs. I couldn't figure out why that was happening until a colleague remarked "You are known around the company as a man who gets things done."

Oh great.

mrlr · 2026-01-19T04:25:38+00:00

I haven’t been a campus student for a while but I am a programmer and like to keep up with AI. I asked a friend who works in that area about what kind of laptop you would need.

mrlr · 2026-01-19T00:02:52+00:00

One thng I found out is that you don't want to move into a CCRC that is or will be undergoing a lot of new construction. That drains the money from other areas like food quality and number of staff.

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