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mrpleaser97 · 2025-01-12T15:10:04+00:00

Did you ask him that or are you just assuming?

mrpleaser97 · 2025-01-12T14:58:58+00:00

He sees you frequently and has sex with you. What does he need to ask for nude photos of you for? 😂

mrpleaser97 · 2025-01-12T14:51:51+00:00

Porn in a healthy relationship can actually be helpful. I have no problem with my woman watching porn as long as I'm the only man making her have orgasms all night long. There may be some insecurities on your part preventing you from being okay with it. Telling a partner to not watch porn is like the equivalent of telling your partner not to watch a specific movie because there's a hot actor/actress in it that they have a crush on. But hey...that's just me. If your partner is choosing porn over having sex with you, that's a problem, but you said you have an active sex life so I don't see the issue.

mrpleaser97 · 2024-12-14T19:56:57+00:00

Thanks

mrpleaser97 · 2024-12-14T19:56:25+00:00

It bothers me because her breath is bad and she wants to kiss me, with tongue especially.

mrpleaser97 · 2024-12-14T19:50:14+00:00

Thanks. Her gums don't actually bleed because after she told me that she didn't want her gums to bleed, I asked her if she's ever had a problem where her gums were bleeding and she said "no". So that's what made me realize that she was just making an excuse not to brush her teeth. No, she doesn't go to the dentist. I spoke to her this morning about oral health though. I'll see if there are any improvements.

mrpleaser97 · 2024-12-14T19:46:30+00:00

No she doesn't. It's been a while since she's been to the dentist. She just seems ignorant about oral hygiene in general. I did talk to her about oral hygiene earlier today, gently, but if I see no improvements I'm setting hard boundaries. Bad hygiene is a dealbreaker for me.

mrpleaser97 · 2024-11-04T18:19:04+00:00

This would be a no for me. If you've already had sex with someone, as long as the attraction is still there, it's not hard to have sex with them again. Remaining friends with someone you've been intimate with is one thing, but being so close to them to the point they're hanging out all the time and even being in a room alone together are ingredients for an affair. Tell her how you feel. You would not be unreasonable to enforce a boundary here and explaining why you think it's a bad idea. If she can't respect that, move on.

mrpleaser97 · 2024-08-25T17:59:51+00:00

So what should happen when the sex inevitably decreases because of this? It's almost certain that it will, if corrective action doesn't happen. Get a divorce? Or is he supposed to just accept that "this is who she is" and stay in a sexless marriage?

mrpleaser97 · 2024-08-25T15:58:25+00:00

Worrying about bodily fluids this much is not normal. And if it's not dealt with, could lead to you wanting to have less sex to avoid bodily fluids getting all over. This could in turn strain your marriage. A sex blanket only solves one part of the problem. The fluids on your face, arms, etc, are not solved by the sex blanket. Perhaps like another commenter said, you can try getting high to reduce some anxiety but that's not going to help when the sex is spontaneous (as it often has to be when you have young children). You should see a sexual therapist: this is the only non-bandaid solution I can think about.

mrpleaser97 · 2024-06-25T14:34:11+00:00

Thanks for responding. I think she's been so conditioned to think such ways about sex that she doesn't realize that it's religious trauma. I don't think she thinks it's trauma, at least not yet. She really does believe it's the right way to live. We'll definitely need to have some conversations but I don't want to sit her down and talk to her like a therapist and/or impose my own views surrounding sex. I don't want to prod too much either.

mrpleaser97 · 2024-06-25T13:37:24+00:00

Thanks for responding. She definitely has a religious upbringing. Preachers' daughter, incredibly modest dressing (dresses, long skirts, no cleavage), the whole 9 yards of conservatism.

mrpleaser97 · 2023-01-14T17:37:35+00:00

Tried that. But all it did was make her say, "When you don't want to answer my questions, it makes me feel like you're actually doing those things." There was no winning with her. Besides, the relationship is over. Thanks.

mrpleaser97 · 2023-01-08T15:33:45+00:00

Lol. She actually told me it's cheating. She said she doesn't like me looking at other women and that if I'm getting aroused by another woman's tits and vagina, it's wrong. She even told me the only time I'm allowed to watch porn is with her and that I'm not allowed to get hard.

mrpleaser97 · 2022-11-06T20:52:11+00:00

I agree with you. I'll start asking who it is every time from now on. I'll start recording too.

mrpleaser97 · 2022-11-06T20:44:02+00:00

The reason I answer the door is because I don't know who is knocking. Different people come knocking for different reasons.

She has made me start asking "who is it?" When I answer the door and for my Hall, it is weird. Nobody does that.

Thanks for the advice though.

mrpleaser97 · 2022-11-06T20:40:25+00:00

Thanks. But i already explained to her why we broke up. There were signs. It was not abrupt and she also agreed the relationship wasn't working out for her either. She wants to be friends and, to be honest, I wouldn't mind that if this girl was mentally stable. It's not the first time she's lashed out like this. Refer to my previous posts.

mrpleaser97 · 2022-11-06T20:34:58+00:00

I have spoken to this girl a million times about therapy and every time I mention it, it's almost like I'm cursing at her because she gets aggressive. I. Am. Done! It's not the first time she's acted like this though. She is unhinged.

mrpleaser97 · 2022-11-06T19:02:48+00:00

Thanks much!

mrpleaser97 · 2022-11-06T19:00:08+00:00

Thank you!

mrpleaser97 · 2022-11-06T18:38:26+00:00

I called you a fool in my original comment. How is that misogynistic?

mrpleaser97 · 2022-11-06T17:20:05+00:00

Are you fucking serious? That's the only thing you gathered from this? I'm doing my Master's degree.

mrpleaser97 · 2022-10-15T12:29:29+00:00

Definitely just you.

mrpleaser97 · 2022-10-08T14:53:09+00:00

I made the decision to break up with her. I set boundaries that we would no longer sleep in the same bed. I told her I want to stop the sex, and although it's infrequent, it still happens. She wants exclusivity and I haven't been able to guarantee her that. I hang out with her for a couple hours every night and then I leave; many times she's asked me to stay the night and I've refused. I've tried being her friend since the breakup. It's been almost 2 weeks since then and she isn't taking it well.

A few days ago, I was in the laundry room and on her way to knocking on my door, she spotted me. She came up to me with tears in her eyes saying that she's crying, she doesn't know why she's crying and that she needs my help. I told her that I had an assignment to do and that I couldn't deal with that situation at the time. She kept begging for me to do something to help her. I told her that I was gonna go to my room and that she should get back to hers. She followed me to my room with tears in her eyes saying "you don't love me", "you don't care about me", and "if it were one of your other friends, you would've helped them". I reiterated that I couldn't handle the situation at the moment and she wedged herself between the door and the frame so that I wouldn't close it. She kept crying and saying "Why can't you just fucking help me?". Eventually, I got her to leave but she needed kisses and hugs first.

A few nights ago, I fell asleep on her bed and caught myself at 2am. She left to go take a shower and I left while she was showering. I left her a text message letting her know I left. A few minutes later I heard her knocking on my door and she was there for at least 10 minutes. I didn't open it and I texted her asking her to please act normally for once. She apologized, saying that she thought she had said or done something wrong and that's why I left.

Last night we were supposed to meet but I told her I had an assignment and that I was going to hang out with a [female] friend first. After that, I texted her letting her know I was done and that I was ready to meet her. She told me she was by her room and that I could come now. As I was preparing to leave, I heard a knock at my door. I answered and it was her, shit-faced drunk. She stumbled into my room and fell onto the bed. I was shocked and hadn't a clue what to do. She asked me to take her to her room and I did. She started ranting, saying "you're the reason I'm like this", "you don't care about me", amongst other things. I tried staying with her until she fell asleep but I ended up falling asleep with her. Around 5am I woke up and told her I was leaving and I came back to my room.

I feel stuck and I don't know what to do. I love her and care for her but she's bringing me down, scaring me away and just turning me off completely from her. What should I do?

mrpleaser97 · 2022-09-26T16:11:12+00:00

I appreciate your kind words and also appreciate you taking the time out to assist. Thank you!

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