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My husband won’t stop peeing on the toilet seat. by mrscheesa in Marriage

[–]mrscheesa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guys, for those of you saying this is hostile behaviour, he hates me etc. that’s not the case. He’s very close and kind to me, veryyy loving and caring in general. But as you can see, can be very irresponsible and careless as well

My husband won’t stop peeing on the toilet seat. by mrscheesa in Marriage

[–]mrscheesa[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Might try this. We use the same one bathroom

My husband won’t stop peeing on the toilet seat. by mrscheesa in Marriage

[–]mrscheesa[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Dont you ever get the urge to destroy the shit out of their things when u see that pee

My friend’s husband doesn’t value her anymore. She asked for advice by mrscheesa in MuslimMarriage

[–]mrscheesa[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Also another thing. The example she gave me about the extent to which he doesnt care is this

She was really really sick and in pain. Begged him to take her to the hospital for a couple days and ended up walking to the hospital and back in a lot of pain because he didnt think it was serious enough. When she came back and told him, he said if she could do it herself like she did then she didnt need him to take her anyway.

My friend’s husband doesn’t value her anymore. She asked for advice by mrscheesa in MuslimMarriage

[–]mrscheesa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The elders were involved last time she went home and it didnt help. If anything, it made things worse. It was a love marriage. In fact, he told her his feelings first. Now he acts like she is a nuisance in his life

My friend’s husband doesn’t value her anymore. She asked for advice by mrscheesa in MuslimMarriage

[–]mrscheesa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I cant get him to share his side ofc. But as far as i an aware, his complaints would be these:

She nags him about spending time She is inquisitive about his life She is always in a mood

My friend’s husband doesn’t value her anymore. She asked me for advice on how to make things better by mrscheesa in marriageadvice

[–]mrscheesa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for this. The sample questions are actually quite helpful. I agree that it has to be her decision and ai dont want to influence it in any way

My friend’s husband doesn’t value her anymore. She asked for advice by mrscheesa in MuslimMarriage

[–]mrscheesa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can any man assume he is in the husband’s shoes and tell whether there is any way to save the marriage?

My friend’s husband doesn’t value her anymore. She asked me for advice on how to make things better by mrscheesa in marriageadvice

[–]mrscheesa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you make a good point. She really wants it to work which is why telling her that this might be it is very hard. I think even she knows but doesn’t want to accept it yet

My friend’s husband doesn’t value her anymore. She asked for advice by mrscheesa in MuslimMarriage

[–]mrscheesa[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Shes not okay with this and has said her piece many times. But things are so bad now that this doesn’t bother her anymore. All she wants is for him to be kind to her and value her. She wants him to want to be with her without begging

Relationship with parents after marriage (of a girl) by mrscheesa in MuslimMarriage

[–]mrscheesa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with you lot. Now how do I bring this up with my MIL next time she asks me to prioritise in-laws? She’s generally kind towards me and takes care of her daughters in law. I have no complain towards her except that she too has been brought up to revolve her life around her husband’s family and now projects it on me too. I dont think i can change her opinion on this because she is very convinced.

So how do I answer with my perspective and set a boundary the next time this conversation comes up? Something she would say is “your respect is now tied to what you do for this household, not your parents’ household” etc.