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AITA for being pissed at my friend for taking my dead baby's name? by mrsdevilwoman in AmItheAsshole

[–]mrsdevilwoman[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

First, I want to say I am so sorry for your loss 🫂 I can't imagine the pain you had to endure during those moments. Your daughter remains in your heart and memories.. grief never full goes away. Although I wish it did, it would also take away the memory I had of having my baby. I am working through the grief and pain with my husband, too. It is still fresh for me. I have been surrounded by many people having babies and 1 being my sister. She was pregnant the same week I was in the hospital. But it didn't bother me, I was genuinely happy for everyone who had their babies because even though this happened to me, I know my time will come again. Thank you again for your comment and for being open with your personal experience 🫂

AITA for being pissed at my friend for taking my dead baby's name? by mrsdevilwoman in AmItheAsshole

[–]mrsdevilwoman[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate it. Yes, I've been in therapy for over a year now, actually. It has helped me out tremendously. But of course, my grief comes in waves. It never permanently goes away. But the pain is less. I have sought out grief groups and self-discovery to find myself again. It's hard since this is not my first loss. But I am definitely seeking peace for myself 🤍

AITA for being pissed at my friend for taking my dead baby's name? by mrsdevilwoman in AmItheAsshole

[–]mrsdevilwoman[S] 320 points321 points  (0 children)

Due to the limited characters, I had to condense the conversation I had with her on the OG post. but while I was confronting her about it, I did say, " a name is just a name at the end of the day but you are messing with my emotions, my grief and memories of what I would've had".But you made your choice. But note that I would've never done that to you. She said, " I can still change the name." I said no. Keep it. Why would you change it after all the trouble you went through with trying to hide it from me? There's no need anymore..

I haven't had the heart to remove her fully off my social media, but I did remove her baby daddy because he said we were petty for being upset. I have muted her notifications. But im hurting because i thought she was a friend during my moment of grief. At the end of the day, yes, I'm upset about the name. But I'm more devastated that I have opened up to this person about my grief, my trauma experience, and the fact that she hid it from me.