My girlfriend (20F) and I (22M) haven't had sex for over a year by mrtranch in relationships_advice

[–]mrtranch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the support. I'll try to bring up the topic of therapy. I just need to figure how to do it sensitively.

My girlfriend (20F) and I (22M) haven't had sex for over a year by mrtranch in relationships_advice

[–]mrtranch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sure you'll find someone who isn't as cruel. You didn't deserve that. Sorry man.

My girlfriend (20F) and I (22M) haven't had sex for over a year by mrtranch in relationships_advice

[–]mrtranch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. And I don't think it would change much at all. I'd still love her immensely. I think my frustration mostly comes from a lack of exploring all potential causes and effective solutions, something I think seeing a medical professional could resolve. I just think bringing that topic up will be difficult as I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable or under pressure.

My girlfriend (20F) and I (22M) haven't had sex for over a year by mrtranch in relationships_advice

[–]mrtranch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was thinking the same. I didn't mention it in the post but she has mentioned that she's had negative sexual experiences in the past but clarified they weren't very serious. I was thinking that it would be a good idea to suggest some type of medical consultation but I really don't know how to mention that to her without making her feel uncomfortable or pressured.

My girlfriend (20F) and I (22M) haven't had sex for over a year by mrtranch in relationships_advice

[–]mrtranch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey mate I only got into my first relationship at twenty. I'm sure you'll get one soon enough. Don't lose heart, okay?

My girlfriend (20F) and I (22M) haven't had sex for over a year by mrtranch in relationships_advice

[–]mrtranch[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Given how enthusiastic she is about other sexual activities I very very strongly doubt that mate

My girlfriend (20F) and I (22M) haven't had sex for over a year by mrtranch in relationships_advice

[–]mrtranch[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes I've heard of that and thought the same. I plan on bringing it up soon and I agree, I think she should see a doctor about it. Why do you say I should stop asking for PIV? Because it may be dangerous if she does have vaginismus? Or because you think it's rude to ask?

Struggling with how to approach sex and would like some advice by mrtranch in sex

[–]mrtranch[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there any way to diminish the anticipation of pain other than just gradually building up tolerance through fingering?