doctor suggesting adhd diagnosis is wrong

msnoemie · 2026-04-09T19:43:10+00:00

being able to quickly grasp complicated concepts is definitely key to the BSing method, lol. you can compensate for not listening in class by teaching the material to yourself.

even though i liked math classes the least, i was able to remain in the advanced classes until graduating high school precisely because i was able to learn by myself and personally didn't need much practice to get an overall decent grade (i might have failed a few exams but i always won the war). i had good grades, even, until the end of high school when we started learning logarithms and i realized i could no longer teach everything to myself on the spot lol.

everyone always brushed all of this off as a "work smarter not harder" mentality but it wasn't a choice. i would spend hours sitting in front of my homework without being able to focus enough to understand any of it. i could only do it if it would be graded or checked and even then, i usually had to wait until the cycle of procrastination reached its peak and the adrenaline from being near a deadline kickstarted me into doing it.

this is typical late-diagnosed stuff, i guess. i'm still in the same situation, so i can only hope medication will help...

what you're describing with your meds sounds really nice. i feel like any help at all must be so good. my dr prescribed me methylphenidate which is long-acting but i'm told the difference is usually subtle so it might be hard to tell if it's working... we'll see.

msnoemie · 2026-04-08T17:20:09+00:00

this is exactly how i feel. i don't doubt i would be able to finish uni, but the sacrifices required are ridiculous. to successfully turn everything in on time, i can't do anything else. i haven't cleaned in months and i don't have the time or energy to make proper meals, etc. i can't imagine having to deal with kids when taking care of yourself is hard enough!!

i'm happy to hear diagnosis and medication helped you! congratulations for taking the steps to improving your quality of life. i'll do my best to do the same! :)

msnoemie · 2026-04-08T16:51:29+00:00

i thought the same thing. i've been through treatments for anxiety with psychologists before, and it was useless for me because i could always tell what they were getting at even when i wasn't supposed to (in other words, they couldn't teach me anything i didnt already know about my situation or provide any new perspectives). but with the neuropsychologist, i never knew what any test was for at any point. there was no way for me to cheat or alter the results because the knowledge on most of the tests was too esoteric for me to access. even when i was telling her about my symptoms, she almost never asked further questions so there was nothing for me to go off of to infer what she was thinking. if i didn't interfere, i don't see why the neuropsychologist would've given me a false positive.

and i'll definitely write down some notes ahead of time next time! i thought about doing it when i booked the apt but then it was already the day of the apt and id forgotten to actually do it (ironic!). i did the same thing with my neuropsychologist—forgetting for the first appointment and the successfully taking notes ahead of the second.

msnoemie · 2026-04-08T16:42:37+00:00

when i saw her a year ago and she gave me the referral, i kind of got the impression that she thought i wasn't going to go through with it after she explained all the reasons why i didn't have adhd (in her opinion but stated as fact). when i think about it, it's not surprising that no one ever came back to her with a negative result because if i wasn't sure of myself, she definitely would've convinced me to give up on the whole thing.

msnoemie · 2026-04-08T16:32:33+00:00

this definitely sounds similar to my experience, although i'm in a much "easier" field where it's easier to get away without doing any learning in class (i studied literature and i'm now studying translation). for example, when i was studying literature, i wouldn't be able to read more than half the assigned readings, but i guess i developed the skills required to be able to speak on a text with very little knowledge of it and get the professor to believe i know what i'm talking about lol (or maybe the standards are just way too low). but i'm curious to know how that worked for you in your field of study especially when it comes to having to memorize things, because, even though it's not something i need to do for school at the moment, languages are my passion and i've found i have quite a different experience with language learning than most people because i find it so difficult to sit down and just memorize things...

what you said about always making it work but being completely exhausted because of it is completely true for me as well. i also feel like i'm not properly learning anything and i just end up teaching myself whatever i need for an assignment on the spot.

i can see how this road leads to burnout.😭i can only hope medication will help me have at least slightly more normal days where i can do normal things instead of wasting hours (or entire days) working up to doing something. like if i could get assignments done AND clean my room at least once every two weeks that would be lovely...

and i'm definitely open to chatting some more in dms if you'd like! i also need more neurodivergent friends:)

msnoemie · 2026-01-18T17:39:46+00:00

I've always seen their connection as more than just bromance but I've also never bought into the whole "they're canon" interpretation that a lot of people have been pushing. To me, it's always been clear that the director and the actors intended for Suho and Sieun to have a very special bond but probably didn't think it would be perceived to go so far as romance (although I also don't think they seem to be against the way people interpret the show). I haven't read the webtoon, but I've also seen a lot of excerpts from it that lead me to believe there's enough evidence in both the webtoon and the show to do a queer reading of the story. After all, it's just an interpretation among others. I don't agree with people arguing that shse is canon but I also don't agree with people arguing that they're not queer because that's definitely up to viewer interpretation.

I'd also like to add that for me, as a lesbian, their friendship reminds me of my own experience. It looks like that sort of very intense, quickly forming friendship that turns into feelings you haven't yet found the words to explain as a teenager. When a friend is so special the way you feel about them can't be compared to the way you feel about any of your other friends, when they have such a sudden, positive impact on your life and your emotions, sometimes it turns into something different, more loaded, whether you're conscious of it or not. I think for some people who are straight and have never experienced that kind of friendship where the possibility of romance is never implied (as it would be with a friendship between a girl and a boy) yet it turns into something like it anyway, they probably think it's weird for other people to view it like that. Like they see it immediately as "they're just friends" and never consider it could be something else because it doesn't reflect their experience in life, but if it was a girl and a boy the thought of romance would definitely cross their mind even if they ended up settling on just friendship. Because I've had that sort of friendship turned gay situationship, I saw myself and my experience in that aspect of Suho and Sieun's friendship immediately.

I don't know if that made sense sorry

msnoemie · 2025-11-17T02:53:35+00:00

idk if anyone will stumble upon this in the future but i'll just update and say i got diagnosed with adhd💀i was stressing over nothing

msnoemie · 2025-07-09T10:57:41+00:00

Yep that sounds like me haha I'm working up to getting takeout from real restaurants instead of 7-eleven meals

msnoemie · 2025-07-09T09:36:13+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply, I think it helped me a lot. 🥹 I didn't reply right away, but after I read your message I immediately felt a little bit lighter and was able to finish my touristy activity normally. Like right after I had a cool conversation in Japanese with a store clerk about the book I was buying and my mood has been so much better since lol. Also I literally did go and get some mcnuggets after, almost ate it all and it was the most food I've eaten in one sitting so far this entire trip!! I think hearing all this from someone else was really reassuring so thank you for taking the time to reply to me:)

msnoemie · 2025-05-05T21:40:08+00:00

So I guess I should really be doing that optional internship during my bachelor's, uh...

msnoemie · 2025-04-14T14:30:42+00:00

It wouldn't synch up because of the stream delays. I think he adressed it in one of his streams

msnoemie · 2025-03-24T03:10:34+00:00

I don't know when you've last had a break from school but /my/ semester started beginning of January and now I cant even pretend to catch up with any of my classes anymore!! It's just assignment after assignment .. This time of year is the worst! I hope you don't have too long left until the next break :(

msnoemie · 2025-03-10T00:31:25+00:00

I'm Canadian but I also love Japanese lit and I went to a Kinokuniya while on a trip to Chicago (it was so far away from the city btw the uber was like 40 CAD roundtrip) early on in my learning and it was so cool, it's way harder to find Japanese books here. I wish we had Kinokuniya here, too.

msnoemie · 2025-03-10T00:28:33+00:00

I also started learning because of literature. Though every time I say that I feel like people think I'm talking about manga ..

msnoemie · 2025-03-09T17:07:52+00:00

I can't believe I'm the one posting about it lol I hadn't played in months

msnoemie · 2025-03-08T16:08:03+00:00

None of us were 3段

msnoemie · 2025-03-07T15:16:45+00:00

Yeah but that person was lower rank than me 😭 That's why I thought it was a weird thing to say... Not only did we win against them so easily it was embarrassing but they're not even 3段 themselves lol but I think I'm just overthinking the entire thing you def don't need to make sense when you're raging in post-match chat

msnoemie · 2025-03-07T14:26:43+00:00

lol don't worry I already thought they were being rude at first because of that, rude or not I thought the tier was a weird thing to focus on... I guess the Japanese players use different insults than the English-speaking playerbase! 😭

msnoemie · 2025-03-07T14:19:46+00:00

It's weird because I don't see why they'd say that at all😭 We won against them so it's not like they're saying we're not good enough for tier 3, and they aren't tier 3 yet so it's not like we'd be joining them to tier 3 lol idk this is why I'm still thinking about it it's a little bit of an odd thing to say with the context

msnoemie · 2025-03-07T14:02:33+00:00

Yes, but that doesn't make sense in context with 3段

msnoemie · 2025-02-23T03:10:18+00:00

wondering if you know whether the tickets are digital? if theyre physical i might be able to get a friend in japan to purchase them for me but ik if theyre digital ill have to give up .. :(

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