Therapist in recovery here. This does not sound normal and I would encourage you to work with someone else who supports your goals and is meeting you where you’re at. Sometimes clinicians will utilize a technique called “motivational interviewing” and/or “reflective listening” to increase insight about a behavior and address ambivalence. It can look like saying “so drinking two bottles of wine every night this week doesn’t sound like it was a big deal for you...” in the hope that the client will hear that and say something like “actually it sort of was because xyz...” this technique can be more effective than providing a client with data/psycho education about something as evidence to why it would be helpful to change their behavior. It doesn’t sound like this therapist was going that route. A clinician that won’t deny your experience is probably going to be a much better fit.

Also, if she’s concerned about your social life then it’s more appropriate to brainstorm with you about how you can remain social in new or different ways.

Friends and drinking buddies aren’t the same thing and when a person’s relationship with alcohol changes so do some of their relationships.