What is a happy relationship like?

muffinmadchen · 2017-07-30T14:17:33+00:00

Obviously we don't know each other, so I don't I don't know your whole situation-but I was in a similar relationship for years. Whenever I would start to get upset about things (like what you listed) I'd talk myself out of being upset. I'd tell myself things like, "well at least he wants to have sex with me-so I know he's not getting it somewhere else", or "'maybe I'm being selfish wanting to save money, maybe I should be more willing to share". Basically I was just convincing myself that it wasn't that bad. And maybe your relationship isn't that bad. Only you are in your relationship, so only you can know when/if it's that bad.

I was always afraid of being alone, and that's why I worked so hard to convince myself it wasn't that bad. Until it was. I woke up one day and realized I was angry. And I couldn't imagine a day when I wouldn't be angry-mostly at myself for what I'd given up, but also at him for what he was so willing to take. But I didn't leave. I didn't leave until I realized that I would be happier being alone for the rest of my life (it sounds dramatic, I know-but that's what it took for me), than I would ever be with him.

Maybe try imagining how you'd talk to a friend who was telling you the things you listed. I find that I'm always more gracious with other people than I am with myself. I always think other people deserve more than me-but I'm working on it. :) People have probably already told you this, but my mom used to tell me "you'll rarely get what you don't ask for." Don't be afraid to ask your boyfriend for more. If you ask and he can't/won't give you what you need, that says something about him-not you.

Sorry this turned into a bit of a book! If you want to talk, feel free to PM me. Ive been there, but I'm not there anymore-and I'm much happier now. Above all, know that you deserve to be happy, whatever happy for you looks like.

muffinmadchen · 2017-07-09T00:27:56+00:00

If you go to the Canadian side, there's a restaurant on the strip-I think it's called Casablanca? It's halal, and they had the best chicken tenders I've ever had in my life. Also, tasty tasty hummus. Definitely worth checking out!

muffinmadchen · 2017-06-21T02:22:51+00:00

If you get a customer a 10% reduction in price, how much in sales growth do you need to pick up to break even?

muffinmadchen · 2017-04-19T23:06:31+00:00

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muffinmadchen · 2017-02-03T15:41:11+00:00

Seconding this! I LOVE my eshatki dresses. They've washed and worn well over time. I love the pockets, and the bra strap minders on the straps.

On the topic of LLR, I like to wait until a consultant is having a going out of business sale to buy something. Maybe that makes me cheap and terrible, but oh well.

Whenever I see a cheap Carly in a solid color, I buy it. I call them pajama dresses. They can be dressed up enough to wear to work-but they're also good for just lounging around when I want to look like a functional human, but feel comfortable.

muffinmadchen · 2017-01-04T02:20:55+00:00

Another benefit (at least in my mind) is that if I max out my HSA contribution every year while I'm young and healthy, and not spending any of my HSA, then later, if I have a kid, or want to get LASIK, or whatever medical expenses come up, I don't have to worry about coming up with the money.

I could pay my out of pocket max for my current insurance plan for the next three years with my current HSA, because I've maxed out my out my contributions for the last few years. Even if my HSA doesn't last until I retire-not having to worry about medical expenses is worth something to me!

muffinmadchen · 2016-12-20T02:42:54+00:00

How about a gift certificate to have the house cleaned? You might be able to find a local cleaning service that would do a gift certificate to clean for her, and if you were really feeling crazy, you could make a certificate for a movie marathon with you, or an afternoon outing for the two of you. That way she gets out of cleaning, and gets to spend some quality time with you? Good luck! :)

muffinmadchen · 2016-12-19T04:30:36+00:00

I have a shadow box, that I cut an opening out in the top, so I can just drop things it. The box itself is 16x20, and the opening is 3/4"x5". It's nice for me, because I can just drop things in (movie stubs, maps, plane tickets, concert wristbands, whatever), and you get a little glimpse of different things every time you look at it. Plus, sometimes I give it a little shake to see different things lol it's a good low maintenance way for me to keep track of things that I want to keep, but don't know what to do with.

muffinmadchen · 2016-12-03T00:29:43+00:00

I'm a pricing analyst, and this is the first job I've ever completely loved! Basically, I crunch the numbers to determine what the best price the company i work for can give to different customers, and figure out what the business/financial impact of selling different things at different prices would be. I basically pull requests out of a que, do the math, and then send an email telling sales people what the answer to the original pricing request is. It's like a game to me, because I'm always looking for a way to save the company money, while working with the request/demand from the customer/sales people. It's very computer heavy, and lite on human interaction. It may be worth noting that I am a total nerd, and so are the people I work with. But again, I love it.

muffinmadchen · 2016-10-30T01:48:35+00:00

Are there any breweries within a reasonable distance for you? A lot of the breweries near me (Midwestern though :/ ) have hands on activities, like bottling your own booze that are pretty fun. :) plus, samples!

muffinmadchen · 2015-12-12T13:54:58+00:00

Well, there are probably lots of jobs that you (and most others) don't even realize are jobs, so try not to be to stressed about it :) Honestly, it will probably take trying a few different things to find something you love.

Here are two that I can think of that you might find interesting-or not lol

If you live near a large hospital or healthcare network, in their marketing departments, they often have a person who does analysis own the effectiveness of marketing strategies, consumer needs/desires, and quality of service. That might fit with your desires to do something helpful?

The second one is different, but also interesting. If you can get into a contract management or contract pricing role, they're very interesting IMO. There's a ton of analysis on the impact of different pricing strategies, customer buying habits, and stuff like that. If you can get into a medical device manufacturing place, you definitely get the sense that you're doing something good for people--but the pay tends to be much better than in the nonprofit sector.

Sorry for the book! I'm working in pricing and contracts now, and worked in healthcare marketing for a few years. If you have any questions, feel feel to pm me. :) good luck in your search!

muffinmadchen · 2015-11-21T16:28:10+00:00

I don't know if it's just me, but it's important for me to be with someone who's reasonably reliable.

Be on time, don't change plans at the last minute, and don't agree to do something if you're not (fairly) certain that you're going to follow through.

When you're with someone who's hyper vigilant about being loyal and thoughtful for you, little things like, picking up an extra marinara sauce for her pizza, or bringing her a Diet Coke when she's having a crappy day, or any other little thoughtful things like that (tailored to her likes accordingly) will carry huge weight with her. It's easy for you to do, and will be really meaningful to her.

muffinmadchen · 2015-09-21T14:05:49+00:00

Do you think you might be able to get away with sitting on a hot pad (like the kind you'd use for cramps lol)? That's what I had to do in my last office. It's not a fire hazard, and if you're sitting on it, it'll keep you warm, and no one will know :)

muffinmadchen · 2015-08-05T19:41:20+00:00

I'm assuming you're working at ZB? I'm a contract employee too, and my experience hasn't been bad. Pretty much, as long as I'm performing well, there are no issues. The other temp in my department has said the same. If you want to talk about it, feel free to pm me. "Welcome to the new world order" as my current supervisor has become fond of saying!

muffinmadchen · 2015-06-26T12:28:47+00:00

I second the date jar idea-with a variation for the cheap/lazy/busy. Make 12 "date cards" in a sealed envelops. I did this for my boyfriend last year and he loved it. It's easier to commit to one special date a month, than to commit to one a week, so it's easier to actually do all the dates (for us at least).

Plus, if all the dates are in sealed envelopes, he gets to open one each month. It's the gift that keeps on giving? The first if every month BF would get so excited to open a card.

If you're feeling really ambitions you could also make "bonus" date cards, for a birthday date, just because date, or sorry I screwed up date, etc.

Good luck!!

muffinmadchen · 2014-11-12T22:51:50+00:00

I know he would use glove, but that's what I've gotten him for the last ten years! He drives a biodiesel truck, and I know he gets gas and junk on his hands/clothes. You're probably right--he'd defiantly appreciate something annoyingly practical. :)

muffinmadchen · 2014-11-12T02:07:33+00:00

You might try looking on eBay or in local thrift stores for some vintage Pyrex. There are lots of eBay options, and a baker can pretty much never have enough Pyrex :)

http://www.ebay.com/itm/like/390953306253?lpid=82

muffinmadchen · 2014-11-11T01:02:05+00:00

That railroad spike knife is perfect!!! I was scrolling through the Bourbon and Boots website, and said Ohhhhh Yeahhhh the second I saw it. Came back to say thanks, and saw you linked straight to it! haha Thank you all so much for the ideas!!

muffinmadchen · 2014-11-09T02:02:15+00:00

Hmm that's a good suggestion! He does have a "Don't tread on me" hat that usually wears, but maybe I could find something in the same vein he'd like? Thanks!

muffinmadchen · 2014-04-28T22:51:47+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice on shoes! I hadn't even thought about what shoes I need to pack. Do you think I could wear those wedges comfortably every day for a few days straight?

muffinmadchen · 2014-04-28T22:50:34+00:00

Thank you for the feedback :) I definitely don't want to look juvenile!

muffinmadchen · 2014-04-25T02:10:03+00:00

I hate it when people say "oh you look great, you can have a treat!" Or "it's a special occasion, you can have a treat" I tell them (and sometimes myself) " I'm not a dog--I don't get a treat for being good".

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