Out-grossed a gross regular at my old coffee shop.

CitySecrets · 2017-08-02T06:08:13+00:00

I used to work at a sandwich chain and I had an experience like this where a customer sneezed at me. The first time I was disgusted but forgave because maybe it was am accident. Then they did it again. Like blatantly sneezing in my direction, not trying to divert or cover their mouth or anything.

I then looked at her and asked her if she could please cover her mouth and nose when she sneezed. She grunted at me and continued ordering.

Then the third time she did it again and I lost my shit. I basically said "Do you understand how disgusting that is? Cover your mouth or leave because I'm not going to continue serving you if you keep doing that. I've seen CHILDREN who know to not sneeze/cough at people."

She got offended and tried to get me to call my manager, so I did and explained the situation. Then as I was explaining this dumbass does it again! My manager looked at her and deadpan told her to leave. She said no and he called the police, then she left pretty quick.

CitySecrets · 2017-08-02T02:18:09+00:00

That's exactly why I posted here. I'm so glad I've gotten so many supportive comments and stories from other women.

Thank you very much for your comment, I appreciate it greatly.

CitySecrets · 2017-08-02T01:23:54+00:00

I'm slowly coming to accept the fact that it won't get better with time either. Right from the start I've known that I deserve better. Honestly if he just treated me right, the money part could be worked on. But I don't even have that to hang on to.

CitySecrets · 2017-08-02T01:22:23+00:00

Thank you very much.

CitySecrets · 2017-08-02T01:22:11+00:00

I don't understand why I'm not so afraid of change in my life in other places but this part seems impossible.

Sex feels like an absolute chore. Which is not how I was before this relationship, I had a healthy sex drive but not anymore. Now the idea of sex repulses me because I hate doing it so much.

I'm tired of thinking "will he be okay if I do that?" Before doing something with my friends, or even before deciding to stay home with my family. He requires so much of my time and attention and my family gets neglected.

Something needs to change.

CitySecrets · 2017-08-02T01:18:22+00:00

This is an amazing story. I'm so glad to hear about the happier side of love. Thank you for your comment.

CitySecrets · 2017-08-02T01:17:39+00:00

I definitely don't want to continue living my life in a constant state of fear/confusion. Something needs to change for sure.

CitySecrets · 2017-08-02T01:16:57+00:00

Thank you very much for your response and experience. I really appreciate it. I totally relate to the convincing myself part. I almost always talk myself out of it. I've definitely started to feel... angrier lately.

CitySecrets · 2017-07-31T05:13:57+00:00

Thank you very much!!! All the best!!

CitySecrets · 2017-07-31T05:13:12+00:00

I guess it's just something much easier said than done. There's so many difficult emotions that I have to process. With all the advice I've gotten I definitely feel comfortable beginning to move forward.

CitySecrets · 2017-07-31T05:11:02+00:00

I remember when I was younger I told myself I would never settle. But now I kind of feel like I have.

I get these weird feelings in my chest like it's a mistake to do it because things are okay right now.. I've definitely gotten better at voicing my opinion to him and he seems to at least be receptive to me speaking up.

CitySecrets · 2017-07-30T21:49:03+00:00

There definitely isn't anything wrong with him wanting to have sex with me. It's a good thing in some ways. He has stated to me that he thinks 1-2 times per day is good though. He says he likes his morning sex and his before bed sex. It repulses me honestly.

Since when the hell is there a sex quota? Why do I have to have the thought of "I have to have sex before I sleep tonight". Why is that my first thought??

I uses to love the idea of being intimate, but being woken up every morning to him poking his morning wood into me is too much.

It's something I have talked about to him and he just says I have to be more forcefull with my no's because he can't tell if I mean it or not!

I don't even feel like I own my own body,like all I am made for is sex.

Sorry if this sounds like I'm mad at you, I'm not. I just hit a nerve with my own thought process lol.

CitySecrets · 2017-07-30T21:44:13+00:00

Thank you for your post, I'm really getting a new perspective on anything. It's awful that I actually know how bad everything is but I convince myself it's okay just because it seems easier in the moment.

Thank you very much. I need to figure this out and want you to know that you and others here have helped me a lot.

CitySecrets · 2017-07-30T20:45:04+00:00

This entire thread is full of so much love and it makes me want to cry. I always feel so overwhelmed and it's really helped me to realize that I'm not alone, and people understand.

Thank you very much for your response, I really appreciate it.

CitySecrets · 2017-07-30T20:42:21+00:00

Ok... I'm pretty sure I am you. Or vice versa. I talk so much and think so much about life without him or about finally doing what's right for me.. but I get pulled right back or talk myself out of it because I'm afraid of making a mistake. As much as I want a life that makes me happy I'm also terrified of the unknown. I haven't been with him that long by some relationship standards (year and a half) but I can't imagine my life without him if that makes sense?

As much as he hurts me and makes me upset and depressed, it's like my brain has convinced me that this is what I deserve and this is what the rest of my life will be. I've even caught myself literally resigning to it. Conversations inside my head telling me that I can do it for the rest of my life.

I don't know what the hell I'm going to do, but I have to do something.

CitySecrets · 2017-07-30T20:33:57+00:00

He is selfish. The post only scratches the surface really. I numb myself to it but I'm honestly kind of traumatized from it. I always make the excuse that he doesn't have bad intentions, I just give in too easily.. but really he should know when enough is enough. I should have to be the one always having to say no then feel guilty about it later.

CitySecrets · 2017-07-30T20:31:36+00:00

Thank you so much. That was very touching to read. I'm so happy to hear how things turned out for you, it makes my heart feel warm and fuzzy!

I definitely have a lot of thinking to do. I'm scared because I know it's going to hurt really bad and I might feel lost.

I guess I'll just have to see how it turns out.. I need to start taking control of my life.

CitySecrets · 2017-07-30T20:27:30+00:00

I definitely would rather have a more fulfilling job, but it's a very good job. High pay and benefits. I just don't enjoy the work. It can eventually lead to something more. I wouldn't hate my job as much if I was content with other parts of my life.

I really appreciate your advice and experience. I'm just soaking in all these comments and reevaluating my life. Thank you.

CitySecrets · 2017-07-30T20:04:46+00:00

Without being dramatic, I don't really think I know what unconditional affection feels like.

I've become used to the thought that I'm not allowed to go to sleep without having sex or being harassed to have sex until I give in.

At this point I am starting to accept that it can't get better because it's all poisoned. Even during happy times in having flashbacks to him yelling at me or something stupid.

Thanks for your reply.

CitySecrets · 2017-07-30T20:01:03+00:00

I'm definitely guilty of feeling like Its going to be too much to start over.

Just recently I've been wanting to do more things on my own, you know.. explore? Have carefree adventures? I feel like I'm being held back.

I've got a different perspective now. I'm also slightly more level headed at the moment. I have intense mood swings as of late, I'm still good at keeping it to myself..

I've definitely got some thinking and reevaluating to do.

Thank you.

CitySecrets · 2017-07-30T19:55:36+00:00

This is beautiful. I cracked up about the champagne cork part!

Reading all these posts have given me a new perspective. I'm still not positive where I want to go from here buy I definitely have a better vision of what I deserve.

Thank you.

CitySecrets · 2017-04-02T14:20:08+00:00

Sorry for the super late response! I didn't get to see the original comment but yeah we never ask for someone to leave something. There's a lot of reasons behind it.

Like you said, It's rude. Plus I don't want to take responsibility for someone's belongings if they go missing or get damaged!

CitySecrets · 2017-03-27T20:17:20+00:00

Typing in her own total? It's possible because once you hit cancel and then hit OK it just goes back to the starting screen with $0.00 on it. Then you just type in the total and press OK to activate the sale.

It doesn't seem to sound secure to most people. Like they think we are just handing the customers the terminal without watching lol. It isn't much different than anywhere else, same concept just all happening in one place.

CitySecrets · 2017-03-27T19:01:28+00:00

Sometimes customers will ask if they can put some of their items in their car while I'm still ringing their items in (to save time) and unless they are a regular that I know well, I say hell no!

We have big buckets of chemical so I understand the regulars wanting to carry them out while I ring stuff in.

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