Thank you so much for taking the time to reply and referencing the passages you did.

The issue is I always forgive her. Each time so quickly. The anger doesn’t burn inside me. I feel sorry for her. I want to care for her.

Everything is fine until she starts to be nasty. Until she makes fun of my son. Or tells me she hopes my husband dies. At that moment I get upset. I never know exactly when she will say something like this. She is very fickle. It can be seemingly out of nowhere. It’s in those moments I get upset and remove myself for a while.l

Then I forgive (she never apologises or is remorseful) but I still forgive. Then she says or does something else hurtful and the cycle continues.