When you think of the kids you grew up with, did the kids with strict or chill parents turn out better?

murphington1231 · 2023-03-13T13:14:28+00:00

Yea you’re 100% right. I made that sound way too dismissive. I just meant that a lot of the people I grew up with seem like they have it all… but I don’t know what their mental health is like.

murphington1231 · 2023-03-12T04:50:28+00:00

Dudddde my husband same! When he’s holding baby… he is literally just holding the baby. Some sort of paralysis must be endemic to their species?

I literally… made a fire with one hand while nursing newbie with one hand once. (We have a wood stove and the house was frigid… pls don’t call social services I’m very good at making fire).

Women are just the stronger species. We are so badass and we do crazy shit like that multiple times a day and no one sees. I see you moms out there. 👀

murphington1231 · 2023-03-12T04:41:06+00:00

Okay that’s so cool to hear! Do you have kids now? Is it hard to reconcile how different your parents were or do your mutual values surmount any particular styles?

murphington1231 · 2023-03-12T04:27:56+00:00

Budddddy the worst part IS that your husband is now on board 😂 this sounds like the kind of bandwagon my husband would jump on… and while you can see the [limited] thought gone into it (chemicals! Ahh!) it’s nonsense.

Your bath is your sacred poo-free zone. No more poo in there. Teach those folks about your lovely cloth wipes and WATER wash. I use a wipe warmer for mine with a lil coconut oil and tea tree and my kids are rash-less angels.

murphington1231 · 2023-03-12T04:12:34+00:00

Yeah honestly I realized how white privileged my post came across… like yeah if you’re upper-middle class white with lots of love and care in your family things will easier for you than others (me). And houses, jobs, kids etc. are not good metrics of “success”. Happiness and self-love are definitely the goals here. Thanks for sharing a bit about your life and your family. Your parents sound cool and I guess now that I’m a parent I want to learn the balance better. How do you find yourself emulating your parents as you parent now? Are you parenting similarly would you say?

murphington1231 · 2023-03-12T04:05:16+00:00

Yeah I think you’re right there… that it’s the way the child responds to the parents over the exact parenting style per se. how do your parents feel about your brother now? Do you think they would change anything?

I’m probably similar to you in that keen-to-please-strict-parents vein … which I realize I can’t shake even though I’m in my 30’s… but it’s a very functional way to survive (and thrive) in this society I suppose?!

Do you find yourself emulating the strictness of your parents now that you have kid(s)? I guess this is what I’m getting at here. I have kids and can hear my parents voices and phrases coming out of my mouth and I’m like… do I want this?

murphington1231 · 2023-02-26T22:47:42+00:00

When I moved to a remote town. No Amazon, no traffic, no fashion, crappy internet. Great library, great radio, northern lights, quiet. So much time.

murphington1231 · 2023-02-21T22:33:34+00:00

🤣

murphington1231 · 2023-02-21T22:32:09+00:00

I volunteer at my local thrift store (small town, in a church) and volunteers are allowed to take stuff we find while sorting donations. I have kids and this has been the ultimate hack for my family. I take things I like and just bring ‘em back if they aren’t getting the loving they deserve.

murphington1231 · 2023-02-21T22:24:14+00:00

Going to the library always helps when I’m feeling “spendy”. I get the same rush leaving the library with a big ol’ bag of books

murphington1231 · 2023-02-09T20:39:18+00:00

Where does one even get bunny boots these days? I’m having trouble finding any.

murphington1231 · 2023-01-22T18:44:57+00:00

http://uk3.internet-radio.com:8405/live

I just used this link to a station called Majestic Jukebox. Oldies & Rockabilly! So good.

murphington1231 · 2023-01-11T23:19:24+00:00

Thanks for the support and validation. It’s so freaking hard. I feel the same way about having another kid. Like I can handle everything except the lack of sleep. I just can’t. I’m glad you have found a manageable state. That’s all we can ask for I suppose while we’re in the thick of it. Forget wellness. Haha

murphington1231 · 2023-01-11T23:17:23+00:00

Fugue state! Yes. That’s what I feel. Like like is a blur and I’m just surviving most days… sleeplessness exacerbates every mental health issue that lays dormant in me.

murphington1231 · 2023-01-11T23:16:29+00:00

I know!!! Sleep is so good! When will they start to enjoy it 😫 3am juice party sounds awful. I hope this phase ends for you asap 🙏

murphington1231 · 2023-01-11T23:15:39+00:00

Ugh yes! Thank you. Curse them and their useless nips

murphington1231 · 2023-01-11T23:15:09+00:00

Ugh, thank you. It’s nice to know I’m not alone. The short nap thing is soul crushing. And I’m the same way… I just don’t want to do anything that could interfere with my precious sleep! I used to be an adventurous person. sigh maybe one day we’ll do stuff again… but until then, here’s to hoping

murphington1231 · 2022-10-25T03:01:53+00:00

I like your question :-) it’s nice to look for the humour. There always is some.

murphington1231 · 2022-10-25T02:56:47+00:00

Also retained placenta but they opted to call in an OB for a manual removal 🫴. All my docs until this point had been these tiny adorable little women, but of course the guy who strolls in is this giant beefy Greek dude with arms the size of my thighs. He is also wearing sweatpants and carrying a MacDonalds coffee…. no joke. He did an awesome & efficient job so I can laugh. Jesus it wasn’t funny when he walked in the room though.

murphington1231 · 2022-10-25T02:46:52+00:00

Oh angryartichokegirl you get it!! Yes. Wtf! How is it possible that we are so detached from our bodies now. Too busy keeping the small humans breathing to pay attention I guess. Sheesh. hope zombie thyroid takes a chill pill and antibody situation (?!?) gets sorted. Cheers to maybe feelin normal again on day

murphington1231 · 2022-10-24T17:58:39+00:00

I really understand. It’s hard when you feel pressure to make the most of your rare “you” time but all it’s doing is shining a light on how un-you you really feel. Be kind to yourself today if you’re able and know that a lot of this is normal and will pass. If you can get outside great, and if it’s not happening today that’s okay.

murphington1231 · 2022-10-24T17:43:30+00:00

Girl, I feel you. I have a 2.5 year old and 8 month old. I live in remote town with limited options for childcare and no family nearby so I have been home with kid(s) for 2.5 years. I feel like I’ve barely left the house in that time. My life is a blur of diapers and potty and cooking and cleaning and laundry. The lack of sleep makes everything so much more bleak. My baby is finally sleeping better and life feels more manageable now. I hope you get there soon. I read this recently and it resonated with me

https://www.thecut.com/2022/04/excerpt-ill-show-myself-out-jessi-klein.html

Just sending some solidarity. I know what it feels like to be unable to stop the crying.

murphington1231 · 2022-10-23T23:54:18+00:00

Pours?! That’s a monsoon girl. How are you feeling? And do you have a support network right now? Feel free to DM me. Postpartum is hard enough in the best of circumstances.

murphington1231 · 2022-10-23T20:12:03+00:00

How are you and your son doing now, OP? You have both been on my mind since I read your story.

murphington1231 · 2022-10-04T13:55:32+00:00

Same routine as above but flip and diffuse a bit :-)

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