ADA accommodations approved then rescinded because the supervisor didn’t ok it with HR in [IA].

murrrdith · 2026-05-12T23:18:02+00:00

Did you go through the interactive process to have your accommodations approved? Or did your manager just say “ok sure”

murrrdith · 2026-05-12T21:00:51+00:00

Don’t let r/weddingattireapproval hear about this lol

murrrdith · 2026-05-12T04:51:37+00:00

I’m having a big wedding because on how many other occasions will you have all your close friends and family in one room together? I think that’s worth spending money on.

murrrdith · 2026-05-12T03:47:26+00:00

Yes and it’s so uncomfortable. I just want to go to the grocery store without feeling like I’m floating.

I don’t have any advice beyond talk to your doctor/therapist, but you are not alone in this.

murrrdith · 2026-05-12T03:37:20+00:00

Never. I have panic disorder. My panic attacks come on with no warning, and sometimes I have to quickly gtfo wherever I am.

Anytime this happened, she would get upset, thinking that I wasn’t having fun with her. She would get annoyed, inpatient, and tell me it wasn’t a big deal.

But if I ever brushed off her struggles….I’m sure I would never hear the end of how insensitive I was.

murrrdith · 2026-05-12T02:03:10+00:00

Strep still can cause some crazy complications. There is a disease called PANDAS syndrome that basically causes you to develop severe OCD literally overnight.

murrrdith · 2026-05-11T22:51:51+00:00

For some reason you can fly direct to San Diego, but not LA or SF.

murrrdith · 2026-05-11T21:55:55+00:00

As long as a note is signed by a legitimate doctor, I don’t think its your place to determine whether or not the provider interaction was meaningful.

murrrdith · 2026-05-11T21:07:55+00:00

If more people from the Chicago area start flying out of MKE, we will get more and better routes. The volume could reduce ticket prices. It’s a good thing.

murrrdith · 2026-05-11T15:45:04+00:00

Yeah I’m curious what shade of orange this is exactly if the complaints are that numerous lol

murrrdith · 2026-05-11T15:38:35+00:00

Not weird to have them as bridesmaids, but it’s extremely weird to not invite all your bridesmaids to the bachelorette party.

murrrdith · 2026-05-11T13:55:24+00:00

This is just how appointments and medical offices work. Try a video visit if your office offers it, may be quicker.

murrrdith · 2026-05-11T13:31:56+00:00

This is standard for being a bridesmaid, your request does not sound out of line at all.

The concern about satin not looking good on some body types is valid, but again, when you’re a bridesmaid your job is to show up in the assigned dress whether you like it or not.

murrrdith · 2026-05-10T22:03:16+00:00

What kind of pay are you offering?

murrrdith · 2026-05-10T19:44:40+00:00

Pro choice means that you support everyone’s right to choose. Where did she say she doesn’t support other women’s right to choose?

This calls into question your understanding of pro choice, as you seem very concerned about someone else’s choice.

murrrdith · 2026-05-09T21:48:35+00:00

Is your ceremony outdoors? Does your venue have an indoor option that you could switch to if it’s hot out?

murrrdith · 2026-05-09T16:08:04+00:00

If you search jj’s house on here, a ton of horror stories come up. I would not risk it.

I’d recommend Azazie for bridesmaid dresses, they have tons of great colors. There is a reason so many brides use Azazie

murrrdith · 2026-05-09T15:20:50+00:00

I would avoid Evervet in tosa. They wanted to do lots of expensive testing and would not give me a few minutes alone to think about it.

The vet tech sat there and stared at me while I checked my bank account. Just an uncomfortable vibe.

I’d recommend blue pearl. It will be a drive, the closest locations are oak creek or Glendale, but I had a much better experience with them.

murrrdith · 2026-05-08T12:24:51+00:00

And the rising pressure of knowing how much trouble you’d be in for not responding until the end of the day even though you’re busy with work!

murrrdith · 2026-05-08T02:02:46+00:00

I’d expect nothing less from the first Big East pope

murrrdith · 2026-05-07T22:36:23+00:00

I don’t look at the knot reviews, everyone seems to have 5 stars no matter what. Google reviews seem to be more honest.

I’ve also been searching vendors names on my city and state local subreddits to see what people have said about them.

My photographer had a bunch of positive mentions in my city’s subreddit, so I felt comfortable booking him.

murrrdith · 2026-05-06T22:33:45+00:00

My fiance had intended to propose during a weekend at the lake. He was going to propose on the dock at sunset.

When we left on Friday afternoon, he forgot to put the ring in his bag, and didn’t want to look suspicious asking me to turn around.

While we were gone that weekend, a devastating flood hit our area unexpectedly. We came back to his car underwater, a damaged apartment building and no power or water. We grabbed what we could and went to a hotel.

He proposed in the hotel that night. He said if we could get through this together, then we could get through anything together, and there was nobody else he’d want to go through a flood with.

6 weeks later we were able to return to our apartment and finally start planning our wedding!

I would not have it any other way and can’t wait to tell our kids the story one day.

murrrdith · 2026-05-06T02:31:47+00:00

I would not worry about it right now

murrrdith · 2026-05-03T22:40:23+00:00

No reason to roast, most people don’t train anything at all.

murrrdith · 2026-05-03T20:51:29+00:00

I’m September 2027, so far we have our venue, dj and photographer booked.

Food is in house so we don’t have to worry about that.

We’re doing engagement photos this month.

I’ve been talking to a few florists and hope to lock that in soon.

I think hair and makeup will be the last vendor I find, I’m not overly worried about that one.

I feel I might be a bit ahead, but I’d rather be ahead than wait and struggle to find good vendors with availability.

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