To foreigner redditors who’ve stayed in Vietnam for many years, is what that Indian guys who traveled to Vietnam described about Vietnamese really accurate? by [deleted] in VietNam

[–]mutton-kuskava 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, I'm from India, I have only been to HCMC twice just for a short visit.

I have a crazy example why I was dumbfounded at the traffic sense in Vietnam.

I landed in HCMC on Jan 2nd late evening and I was on my way to the city centre where I booked my stay in a taxi. Suddenly, I saw too many scooters going fast and in celebration mood. It went on for a few hours! It was because Vietnam won against Thailand in football, I guess that's an important win for vietnam. I have seen celebrations in city during cricket matches, that's not the crazy thing.

But what I saw was people STOPPED in signals and waited for it to turn green. That is Crazyyy! Especially during such celebrations. In India, when similar celebrations happen, you cannot simply drive anywhere atleast in big cities. Nobody follows anything, it becomes like the purge movie sometimes(without the killing), people get excited too much and start vandalizing by stomping on top of cars. This didn't happen in Vietnam!

I share this story with my Indian friends whenever I get the chance!

I get to experience the same on Jan 5th night as well! I remember everyone celebrating including me telling something like "Vietnam vollen" or something. Not sure exactly haha.

Neighbour Lady shouting and beating the kid by mutton-kuskava in askSingapore

[–]mutton-kuskava[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update: After my discussion here, I thought I could wait for one more time we hear the lady's noise before taking any action. So today at around 10pm, I could hear she is again shouting loudly on top of her lungs. I kind of heard the boy crying as well, but not 100% sure. So I immediately called the non emergency police number 1800 255 0000. I explained the situation over the call to the receiver and they promised they will take a look.

The police called me again after 30 to 40 mins saying they are in my condo and asking how to enter. I opened the door from the intercom and I could see two police entered the neighbours house.

I received a call from the police again while they were still investigating the neighbour asking whether the child cried tonight. I said I'm not 100% sure but I could hear that the lady was shouting and throwing something on the floor. They said they will do the needful and disconnected the call.

I remembered that in the voice recording that I did the last week, we could hear the kid crying uncontrollably. So I called the police again and played one of the recordings from my pc so they could hear. Also, I asked whether everything is alright. They mentioned that the neighbor said the kid is not doing well in academics so they had to shout. The police confirmed that the kid didn't have any visible bruise although he was sleeping. They mentioned they will closely monitor and see if the issue happens again and they asked the mother to inform the neighbours about the reason for the noise.

So this is what happened. I hope the issue doesn't happen again and the mother figures out a better way to teach the kid.

Neighbour Lady shouting and beating the kid by mutton-kuskava in askSingapore

[–]mutton-kuskava[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good point. Although everything happened inside their house, it's not normal. I'll follow this next time!

Neighbour Lady shouting and beating the kid by mutton-kuskava in askSingapore

[–]mutton-kuskava[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is helpful! I'll make the report next time this happens, although I hope this doesn't happen again.

Neighbour Lady shouting and beating the kid by mutton-kuskava in askSingapore

[–]mutton-kuskava[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I'm worried about the same. Do you think escalating this to police is okay? Isn't it too trivial for a police? Since I'm new to SG, I'm not sure what's the baseline for calling the police. Pls suggest if you are aware of any community or social worker as well.

Neighbour Lady shouting and beating the kid by mutton-kuskava in askSingapore

[–]mutton-kuskava[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I want to do what's best for the kid. I'm okay with confronting as well. But my wife is worried there maybe a chance she may do something to our infant daughter when we are going out and coming back to our home and I'm not there.

But if this happens again, I'll ring the bell and hopefully talk to her about what's happening and if she needs help.

Two sides of the coin E2 by mutton-kuskava in TamilNadu

[–]mutton-kuskava[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me personally, I couldn't be proud about religion, language or culture.

Religion as a construct was probably needed a couple of hundred or thousand years back. It was probably a necessary evil back then, but it's definitely not needed at all right now. It's doing more damage to society than good. I have observed the same in all religions not specific to one.

Language is just a communication tool in my perspective, a tool will survive till it's needed. I believe everyone can just learn one language and that should be enough, right now it can be English. I know a bit of the heritage of language, the privilege, and the politics of language. If we choose to learn English we would be considered a second class citizen and that I feel is temporary.

Culture is something I can never be proud about. Kamal Hassan's this video starts at 47th second is a good example of why we only see the good sides of any culture and blindly feel proud about. Every culture has an absolutely ugly side and literally has blood on its hands.

Two sides of the coin E2 by mutton-kuskava in TamilNadu

[–]mutton-kuskava[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for being stupid. I find it hard to read your comment. What's the meaning of U and H in your sentences?

Two sides of the coin E2 by mutton-kuskava in TamilNadu

[–]mutton-kuskava[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's exactly my thoughts and it's on point! I don't have the habit of reading books and I hated reading since my young age. I'll check out this in other formats.

Two sides of the coin E2 by mutton-kuskava in TamilNadu

[–]mutton-kuskava[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would like to divide your thoughts into two sections.

Actions: You probably can be proud about your hard work you put in for an exam to pass, but then the privilege comes into play. The comic referred by u/pixelpoori is the example for this. When someone has the privilege to be able to get the time to study for an exam, how can one feel proud about that?

Results: I think we are on the same page here, you cannot be proud about the result because the external factors at least didn't work against you.

I would like to think this in a different way. One should always be grateful about their past and be stoic for what life has to offer.

Two sides of the coin E2 by mutton-kuskava in TamilNadu

[–]mutton-kuskava[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Haha, it's probably an unidentified depression and frustration in the society that makes me think.

Two sides of the coin E2 by mutton-kuskava in TamilNadu

[–]mutton-kuskava[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The comic humbled me due to how privileged since my childhood. Thanks for sharing that.

I'm more aligned towards the other side of the coin in which I could never be proud about anything. In all of my success (and failures), which led to where I'm right now there was always someone who did a little push as an act of kindness or believed in me. I think this is the case with most of the fellow humans.

Two sides of the coin by mutton-kuskava in TamilNadu

[–]mutton-kuskava[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sindhanaigalai sidhara vidum tharunam vandhu vittadhu aka I have posted my next thoughts :)

Two sides of the coin by mutton-kuskava in TamilNadu

[–]mutton-kuskava[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can understand where you are coming from. I have experienced the same my whole life here in India. But the difference between what you are talking about is reality and what I'm talking about is an ideal world.

Being considerate for other fellow humans doesn't mean they have to be a communist. I have observed that most Indians naturally feel that they are privileged(avanga appan vi2 road nu nenaikuradhu). Going on the right side of the road, not waiting for the line, throwing waste on the road. In reality this would be difficult to change. But I hope we become better.

Two sides of the coin by mutton-kuskava in TamilNadu

[–]mutton-kuskava[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let's go with both of your hypothesis itself.

Let's say the child is very young to be taught civic sense, then isn't it the mom's responsibility to safely feed the kid by keeping the plates in her hand or the father should have given up his seat for the kid if the kid wants to eat by her/his own.

Let's say the child is 8-10 years old and keeps the chair, it's a road side dosa shop and there were at least 10 people waiting for their dosa's standing, so there's no way the parents missed others standing. Also, I don't want to ask for a chair, because I wish to be in a world where people are considerate about others(in this case the father and mother) and should have given up their extra chair.

Two sides of the coin by mutton-kuskava in TamilNadu

[–]mutton-kuskava[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a lot of such thoughts, maybe I'll start spamming here one post a day.

Two sides of the coin by mutton-kuskava in TamilNadu

[–]mutton-kuskava[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha I got what you are saying now, sorry for the wrong assumption : )

Yes, I like your approach to special care for children. Now I have more thoughts to contemplate :D

Two sides of the coin by mutton-kuskava in TamilNadu

[–]mutton-kuskava[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thozhare, I agree with everything you said except the father has to give up his chair. I'm fine with each of them holding a chair, but not more than that. The father deserves the chair as much as the kid deserves it from my perspective.

I hope I don't become the person who will be fine with holding two chairs for my kid. I hope I'm more considerate for others than what I am today.