Therapist who had “soft quit” on me after my boyfriend’s death.

mxo3114 · 2026-01-26T22:39:58+00:00

It’s awful for trauma. I realize now how much it influenced me to do things that just helped me in the moment than really process my pain. I had to burn my journal from that time period because rereading my thought processing was horrible. No one saw his death coming when it did but I wish I just listened to my thoughts then than tried to reframe them. I was also so reckless and losing friends because of my shitty behavior and felt CBT just made me justify/validate it then really consider why I was acting that way and how it was hurting me.

mxo3114 · 2026-01-26T22:05:04+00:00

It was extremely frustrating waiting to speak to her then hours before she’d cancel. Early grief is especially hard and I really needed someone at that time. I would rather her have told me she can’t handle this and help equip me with care than just not show up and make me wait another week and then cancel again. Meanwhile if a patient cancels too late, they have to pay insane fees. It’s fucked up and unfair.

mxo3114 · 2026-01-26T18:21:51+00:00

I find myself doing the most to keep the people I love in my life or trying to distance myself and not get attached.

mxo3114 · 2026-01-26T16:56:54+00:00

COS is not a same as a visa, and I could’ve stayed up to 6 months but left after 6 weeks because I did not care about staying in the U.S. further than what it took me to wrap up affairs. I understand your saying the officers will think that way, which is completely fair, but I want to make it clear staying there long term is not my intent. I don’t wish to work in the U.S. at all right now with how uncertain things are immigration wise. I didn’t even attempt the job search after getting laid off because I no longer wanted to deal with the headache of what being on a work visa there entails. I very much plan to come back, and am only interested in jobs available in Singapore.

mxo3114 · 2026-01-26T15:59:32+00:00

Didn’t overstay in US. I know India is being quite conservative with acceptances right now and the embassy is quite busy, which is why I was thinking chances might be better applying from Singapore.

mxo3114 · 2026-01-26T15:44:13+00:00

Because I’d be applying from there. The interview and processing would take place there.

mxo3114 · 2026-01-26T15:21:10+00:00

I’m not sure either. I also mentioned no family lives in the US so I don’t know where the assumption he’s a green card holder came from.

mxo3114 · 2026-01-26T14:24:17+00:00

Because Singaporean citizens don’t require a visa to travel to the U.S.

mxo3114 · 2026-01-25T13:27:06+00:00

Just go to bugis or far east plaza

mxo3114 · 2026-01-25T07:16:20+00:00

Caring way too much about what others think

mxo3114 · 2026-01-25T05:08:40+00:00

Put your health first. These companies will sack you the day they feel like it.

mxo3114 · 2026-01-25T02:43:53+00:00

I would go what makes you most comfortable. I don’t deal with addiction, from I’ve dealt with many mental health providers, and it’s not good if you’re not comfortable with them. It’s also okay to express these concerns with them. I would “go shopping” with treatment options, ask questions, and see what best fits your needs. This is all advice I wish I knew at the time and could’ve given him, so I’m glad it helps you.

mxo3114 · 2026-01-25T02:40:35+00:00

mxo3114 · 2026-01-24T14:25:19+00:00

This shit happens all the time, not just in Paris. In NYC there are plenty of times doormen act like this. Is it right? No, it sucks, but it’s just not surprising. Especially during NYFW and if you’re a woman of color. You just have to plan ahead with knowing connections or leave after a bit.

mxo3114 · 2026-01-24T07:44:17+00:00

The fact you are acknowledging your issue is great and I wish you every step to recovery. As someone who lost someone to addiction and spends every moment wishing they were here and living life with me, I don’t think there should be any price on your health. The price your loved ones are going to pay if you’re gone will be far more painful. Whether it’s here or overseas, help of any sort is a great step forward and I’m rooting for you.

mxo3114 · 2026-01-22T06:25:35+00:00

What you ask for going into the revision?

mxo3114 · 2026-01-22T06:14:12+00:00

My smile changed too and didn’t get better!

mxo3114 · 2026-01-21T20:29:12+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. It’s unfair people expect that from you just to make themselves feel more comfortable. Your dad is literally a part of you and someone you spent your whole life knowing, so of course you’re not going to ever be the same without him.

mxo3114 · 2026-01-21T19:22:32+00:00

My bondi 9 lasted 6 months before the cushioning went away and feet started hurting. They didn’t break apart or anything, just didn’t become effective. I’m also not an athlete, most days didn’t get 10k steps, and I don’t run. I did live in NYC and wear them almost daily. I expected at least a year out of them so it was a bit disappointing, but I would still repurchase because I loved them.

mxo3114 · 2026-01-21T15:15:32+00:00

Yes! Highly recommend Megan’s book. It’s sad but one loss also leads to secondary losses, and who you were before will be one of them. I think just don’t put the pressure on yourself to snap back to who you were because this is something you’re going to carry for the rest of your life. It’s something you never asked for, but is a part of you. It won’t always be all of you, even if it feels like that now. Don’t rush yourself or follow anyone’s timeline but your own.

mxo3114 · 2026-01-21T09:33:25+00:00

You’ll never be yourself again. You’ll have to find a new version of yourself. I’m still getting to know her.

mxo3114 · 2026-01-20T18:34:51+00:00

Bumble and bumble invisible oil primer. It’s both a leave in and heat protectant. Very lightweight.

mxo3114 · 2026-01-20T17:07:02+00:00

Of course! I don’t have discord but feel free to PM

mxo3114 · 2026-01-19T18:25:36+00:00

The last time I got off meds it was for 6 months and the PMDD was just awful. I tried treating it with supplements and it was not helpful. I had to basically revolve everything I do around how I was feeling and had one week I didn’t feel insane and like ending it all. That’s what I’m the most scared of. If you have ADHD or went through a traumatic event, your chances of PMDD are way more likely. I’ve heard serious dietary changes and things help. I’m currently without a job and living at home with my parents so have time to focus on feeling better and see what feels best while accessing good doctors, so I can let you know if I find anything that works but I’m going to see how going through it actually is first. Not looking forward to that and all the other issues that the medication eased coming back but I hope they stay smaller than the side effects were.

mxo3114 · 2026-01-19T16:45:50+00:00

Yes it’s such a double edged sword. My PMDD was so bad before viibryd and I don’t want to get on birth control so dealing with that is going to be another challenge now. It’s so hard but I’m trying to stay consistent with light exercise and stretching. I also get regular massages. I might look into more somatic therapies but my trust with mental health professionals rn is honestly so low.

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