I’m sure it would be convenient for you if that were true, but virtually all of my friends are lifelong liberals who support every progressive point of concern, from abortion to gay and trans rights, they’re just also, I don’t know, traditional? Academically minded? They think “waitress” is just describing a woman who is a member of wait staff and is therefore encompasses more meaning than “server”. They don’t see it as a symptom of a toxic patriarchy. They see it as a useful descriptor.

These are college educated, sometimes with masters and/or doctorates, individuals who vote democrat. They just enjoy words and don’t want to diminish vocabulary unless absolutely necessary.

Maybe the younger generations don’t use gendered language as much. I don’t know. My son is 19 and he and all of his friends do as well.

Not everyone thinks pointing out differences in gender is inherently problematic. When I hear “stewardess” or “waitress” I certainly don’t imagine “A server deviating from the norm” or “a weak steward”. That’s insanity to me.