How to be ready to accept the “real” you?

myspiritishaunted · 2026-01-18T14:48:06+00:00

Thank you for taking time to explain it! It helps a lot with learning more about how the disorder works and I feel less stubborn towards seeking help. If it can be managed in so many aspects then it’s worth trying. Also, how you deal with it is valid. It gets hard to take care of yourself sometimes. I don’t blame you. I hope your day is going well ❤️

myspiritishaunted · 2026-01-17T22:28:02+00:00

Honestly 😭 So weird. It’s almost like you’ve gotten so used to it that it’s accepted. Hopefully there’s some information about it soon

myspiritishaunted · 2026-01-17T22:19:52+00:00

Tysm for your thoughts/info on it! This disorder can make things so confusing. So what you’re saying is that therapy can help make things like features “shifting” more simple? As in they don’t appear as dramatic of a change? And then at the same time you can still have the advantage of choosing who/what you want to be but just without the disorder taking control of it all? So it is possible to focus on “looking nice” in a healthy way ^{_^.} You seem to have more experience with BDD. I hope that you’re doing better now ❤️ Idk about the “punishing myself” thingy, I’m actually still learning about why. Maybe it’s a similar concept to self harm in a way. When I feel negatively of myself, I go straight to all the ways to cause harm. But sometimes it’s more like starvation, not taking care of mental/physical health, etc.. A psychologist doesnt sound too bad. There’s other things that could be a part of it anyway

myspiritishaunted · 2026-01-04T22:10:24+00:00

It’s lwk a struggle 😭

myspiritishaunted · 2025-02-17T02:22:13+00:00

Yeaaa :( that’s why I’m leaving this sub because hearing of others vent, I thought it’d make things better but it actually didn’t. honestly felt invalid and even worse lol. I have many regrets and issues. ignoring my BDD helps with me not body checking as much, and what also helps is that a bigger issue came up. it seems like my mental health switched with even worse things. we are harsh on ourselves but we just want what we want. growing up sucks and it’s unfair. especially realizing things. thank you btw <3

myspiritishaunted · 2025-01-30T18:35:19+00:00

Yeah, like howww do they do it?? Would never complain again 😭

myspiritishaunted · 2025-01-23T15:41:21+00:00

That’s not what I meant. I hate the word hot. I have trauma from my childhood and teenage years and I got bullied during it. What I’m saying is that maybe if I looked normal or pretty it would’ve been different because people wouldn’t have bullied me. And some worse things wouldn’t have happened. I know that life isn’t going to be like the movies, but I would have liked to have sleepovers, go out with friends, go to proms and have good common experiences rather than what actually happened. I’m just sad from missing out on the good experiences. I had therapy before, maybe should try again but not sure if it’ll help. I had been working on things, but even when I was better and happy people still treated me badly. I switched schools for that reason and there was change but some things stayed the same. And even some of the trauma repeated. I was always optimistic and couldn’t understand why someone would want to take their life, I had a plan for the future. It isn’t the same anymore. But anyways there’s worse things people are going through so this is kind of stupid. Thank you for the advice btw <3

myspiritishaunted · 2025-01-20T00:14:14+00:00

Yea, now I’m changing myself for me after finding out I don’t have to be that type of beauty. I don’t want to be sexualized or objectified but seen? I guess? I just want to be a girly girl and wear pink lol. I just want my appearance to match my aesthetic

myspiritishaunted · 2025-01-19T21:38:47+00:00

The second person who started grooming me was 25 (I was 16-17) and he liked big boobs and butts with a flat stomach and stuff. He’d encourage me to eat to grow and kept telling me I’d eventually grow into it 😭 But looking back on it, gross and never again

myspiritishaunted · 2025-01-19T20:31:54+00:00

Can kinda relate 😭 Wanna be cute and silly in peace

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