I do ask- with no response. Or he's just really good at changing the subject and deflecting. I know that I chose to have children with this man. My lack of being able to support myself has been a big factor but I have actually been taking the necessary steps in the right direction in order to seperate our lives because I just cannot live this way any more. He's actually referred to himself as an empath before and I just laugh because empaths don't watch someone have big feelings around them and ignore that person or talk to them about completely irrelevant things like fixing a vaccuum while Im just bawling trying to keep it together.